Gifts is a love language. In my opinion, there is no excuse for not trying to do all 5 love languages. Really, it’s the bare minimum. It would be like not spending any quality time together or having no physical affection ever. Gifts is easy- only a couple times per year. With advertisements and reminders galore for Christmas, Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day.

I would find it very hurtful if my spouse never bought me gifts. As it is, even if I send a link, I sometimes have to get involved if it’s a complicated purchase. I’m OK with that. Start buying your own gifts OP and don’t get anything for your spouse. He doesn’t deserve it.

Divorce.

Anonymous wrote:My feelings are hurt but he only got me a small makeup bag for Xmas. He also wrapped something I owned already.

Is this normal?

Not buying many or lavish gifts is normal. Wrapping something old isn't normal but may be he felt bad and it was too late to get something else and he is autistic.

I don't really "give" my wife anything either. We're lucky enough that if we need something during the year, we buy it assuming it isn't really expensive. Also, she's not really into surprises or having someone else pick out clothes/shoes for her. She Amazon shops for herself and tells me what I got her. I'm not really a stuff person either, my gifts are usually just replacing something that's really worn out.