Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
I think lots of cheaters are in happy enough marriages, not great but also not bad enough to divorce.
If things were great, you wouldn’t cheat and if they are so bad you just divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Anonymous wrote:Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.
Woman here and reading this, I actually sympathize with the man.
Dear God, who can deal with this woman and keep their sanity??
More likely: you're sockpuppeting for the pp, who got taken to task (rightly) for being an apologist for cheaters.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Great people don’t cheat on their spouse.
Yeah, they do. If you found out your DH cheated, would he be forever a bad person?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Great people don’t cheat on their spouse.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.
Anonymous wrote:You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.
You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
You are both vile scumbags is what I think you meant to say.
We are both great people.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.
*lose
Anonymous wrote:80% time, my AP's took off their ring.
The rest of time, they forgot in the heat of things.
There's no deeper meaning behind it, one way or the other.
The one who never wore the ring still has not divorced despite kids out of the house and being miserable.
The one who made a big deal over not taking off the ring is the one is legally separated and on way to divorce.