Anonymous
05/05/2024 19:01
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Plan things like picnics in the park, long walks, happy hour, bike riding, a day at the beach, visiting museums or the zoo, going dancing, etc.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 18:21
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:
Saving money for a financial future? If so he’s a keeper
Not if OP is social and this means he never wants to go do anything at all.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 18:16
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
I think we'd all like to go out on lavish dates on a regular basis, but it's not sustainable unless the guy is wealthy. That type of money is best spent elsewhere.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 18:04
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Saving money for a financial future? If so he’s a keeper
Anonymous
05/05/2024 18:01
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Do you live together? And, 200-500 per date at 2x a week? Is that a typo?
That’s just not sustainable.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:34
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[mastodon]Anonymous wrote:Tough love: He doesn't like you anymore.
He probably liked the chase more than he liked you in the first place? Why is he still around? Inertia, probably.
Yes I think he's trying to get her to break up with him and think it's her idea.
DP, wow, you have vivid imaginations.
As opposed to the OP who wants to be wined and dined on a regular basis as she got a little too used to the $200-500/night dates?
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:32
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
If you're planning dates and he's turning you down maybe he's seeing a future with you and doesn't want to spend the money, yours or his. Do you have long term plans and goals? Buying a house? Stop pissing money away on "dates" and enjoy each other's company more simply.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:31
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Do you live together? And, 200-500 per date at 2x a week? Is that a typo?
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:25
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
OP, why don't you plan dates? I'm confused. If you do it, it encourages him to reciprocate. Also show him you can plan a nice date for $100 or less. You need to be doing special things for him too. Have you pulled back on things you used to do when you were first dating?
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:24
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:The honeymoon is over, this is who he really is.
Yep.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 17:21
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
$500 dates twice a week? Yeah that’s outrageous, no wonder he stopped. I can’t believe you think cooking dinner for him is equivalent to this that you feel entitled to $1000/week dates
Anonymous
05/05/2024 14:34
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He’s landed the prize, now he thinks he doesn’t have to work anymore.
OP here. I sense this a little bit. But I’d say the way he works for the prize has changed over time. He doesn’t plan the dates but he does do the dishes, is a good listener when I have a bad day, showers me with attentive sex, is kind to my friends and family, etc. He is honestly a great guy. So I’ve been wondering if maybe I’m being high maintenance for wanting the dates back?
How much does he make? This, my friends is a perfect example of dating leverage. Early investment is key. Now though he’s converting acts of service bc they’re more sustainable.
I gotta say, as someone 20 years into a very successful relationship, a conversion to "acts of service" is, in the long run, a good thing.
I totally agree
Agree it’s relevant several years into relationship but not right away. And people do go out, have social life etc
Anonymous
05/05/2024 13:40
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[mastodon]Anonymous wrote:Tough love: He doesn't like you anymore.
He probably liked the chase more than he liked you in the first place? Why is he still around? Inertia, probably.
Yes I think he's trying to get her to break up with him and think it's her idea.
I disagree, if that were true he wouldn’t still be treating her well in every other domain but planning expensive dates. He’s broke is the problem.
But when she offered to take him on one of these "lavish dates" (lol), he turned her down and didn't want to go out.
Bc he feels emasculated. He wants to pay just can’t sustain what he started.
Anonymous
05/05/2024 13:39
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He’s landed the prize, now he thinks he doesn’t have to work anymore.
OP here. I sense this a little bit. But I’d say the way he works for the prize has changed over time. He doesn’t plan the dates but he does do the dishes, is a good listener when I have a bad day, showers me with attentive sex, is kind to my friends and family, etc. He is honestly a great guy. So I’ve been wondering if maybe I’m being high maintenance for wanting the dates back?
How much does he make? This, my friends is a perfect example of dating leverage. Early investment is key. Now though he’s converting acts of service bc they’re more sustainable.
I gotta say, as someone 20 years into a very successful relationship, a conversion to "acts of service" is, in the long run, a good thing.
I totally agree
Anonymous
05/05/2024 12:59
Subject: Boyfriend doesn’t take me on dates anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[mastodon]Anonymous wrote:Tough love: He doesn't like you anymore.
He probably liked the chase more than he liked you in the first place? Why is he still around? Inertia, probably.
Yes I think he's trying to get her to break up with him and think it's her idea.
OP here. This is definitely not what’s going on. He’s very happy in the relationship and in love. I think he just thinks he “won” me, so now he thinks we can be couch potatoes for life.
Do you think some is financial? I don't like to spend money on outings (I'm a woman) unless it's something I really want to do. Going out to dinner is not something I want to spend money on. The 2 of you should be able to meet each other halfway.