Anonymous wrote:Don't send a gift. This relationship will be over in 2, maybe 3 years max. She wants a picture perfect wedding, not a marriage.

This!

If I got an invite like this, I'd think one of two things:

1. Bride is trying to be helpful by letting people see examples of what to wear/the formality of the event.

or

2. Bride wants her wedding photos to look a magazine spread by dictating what guests wear so photos can look cohesive/styled.

Because it's a family member, I'd do what a pp suggested and buy something cheap - maybe start by looking in thrift stores first.

Weddings used to be about the commitment and having family and friends to celebrate.

Now it is about the instagram.

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Anonymous wrote:
https://thekit.ca/weddings/wedding-trends/wedding-guest-dressing-mood-board/

Apparently it’s helpful. Haha

Huh my bad. I was the person who googled who said it was not a thing. Those people are terrible. like, really really terrible.

If you are a woman over 45 there is literally nothing you can wear from three of the kit boards linked above.
I have no idea what a 60 year old Grandma would wear.

I am a 51 y o woman, and I own a tuxedo. Anyone who is getting too precious about their wedding dress code gets me in a tuxedo. If I am feeling especially nice, I’ll color coordinate my pocket square.

(The reason I have a tux is that at one point my husband had to attend multiple black tie events for work, and I wanted to see the people but didn’t feel like spending all that money and energy on my outfits).

I would ask the bride if one of your cocktail dresses would be okay and if not, RSVP no and wish them well. Don’t buy a new dress for one wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie, though the men side of the mood board look more like suits rather than traditional tuxes (though I'm not 100 percent sure of the difference between suit and tux). The wording specifies floor length and glamor.

"Black tie = tuxedo, which is generally a black suit with satin lapels and stripes on the pants/bow tie/cummerbund (there can be variations in colors for elements of this, but it is a specific style of "suit"). This is a pet peeve. We received an invitation from a couple who specified "black tie," and then at the last minute sent word around informally that they didn't mean tuxedos. Which, what??? They just meant suits. Then say "business attire" or "suit and tie." Especially in DC, where many men do have tuxedos and are used to wearing them to "black tie" events. I'm guessing what they really want is for women to wear fancy long dresses that they would normally wear to a black tie event, but not make the men go out and rent tuxes. Maybe that's why people are sending these "vision boards" -- because young people don't know what these terms mean anymore?

I spit my drink out when I read this one. Glad I got married 27 years ago when there wasn’t all of this foolishness.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Sure, but if they knew their etiquette they would be wearing floor length

LOL

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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Sure, but if they knew their etiquette they would be wearing floor length

Rent a cocktail “midi” dress from Rent the Runway, at your height many will be floor length or nearly so.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Then they are in cocktail attire not black tie attire.

Gasp...quelle horreur

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Then they are in cocktail attire not black tie attire.

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Anonymous wrote:oh no did you already rsvp? Maybe you can plan to get covid.

This is the way.

Covid is in order for this one!

I want to see the Vision Board that includes drunken Uncle Donny who gets handsy at weddings and his loud-mouthed wife Mimi.

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https://thekit.ca/weddings/wedding-trends/wedding-guest-dressing-mood-board/

Apparently it’s helpful. Haha

And by helpful they mean controlling. Would love to see the board.