Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 20:27     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today I was in Sephora browsing. I had a bunch of stuff in my hands and I had a handbag. A woman said to me “excuse me, do you have this in ____ color”. I looked up, realized she was talking to me and said “Sorry, I don’t work here”. She replied, “you don’t have to rude, can you just point me in the direction of someone who does work here?”

I told her that I haven’t seen anyone who isn’t already helping someone and then I walked away.

I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times. Advice?




right. she made a mistake. Why do you have to create a thread about it? Why do I have to read this nonsense if I am on DCUM? What a waste of everyone's time. Think better next time


OP, this is another example of where you did nothing wrong and someone rudely went off on you.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 16:41     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
She sounds like a typical entitled person OP. She was the rude one. "I don't work here" means I don't work here and have no idea how to help you.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:47     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today I was in Sephora browsing. I had a bunch of stuff in my hands and I had a handbag. A woman said to me “excuse me, do you have this in ____ color”. I looked up, realized she was talking to me and said “Sorry, I don’t work here”. She replied, “you don’t have to rude, can you just point me in the direction of someone who does work here?”

I told her that I haven’t seen anyone who isn’t already helping someone and then I walked away.

I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times. Advice?




right. she made a mistake. Why do you have to create a thread about it? Why do I have to read this nonsense if I am on DCUM? What a waste of everyone's time. Think better next time



NO, it isn't my choice. this garbage comes up on my screen when I click on dcum. WHY???? Can't people THINK (why do 1,000 people have to see my complaint) before posting? I don't do that to you.

You don’t have to read it, that was your choice to do so. You’re choosing to waste your time by taking the time to click and post a reply. If you’re wasting your time it’s entirely your choice.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:45     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today I was in Sephora browsing. I had a bunch of stuff in my hands and I had a handbag. A woman said to me “excuse me, do you have this in ____ color”. I looked up, realized she was talking to me and said “Sorry, I don’t work here”. She replied, “you don’t have to rude, can you just point me in the direction of someone who does work here?”

I told her that I haven’t seen anyone who isn’t already helping someone and then I walked away.

I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times. Advice?




right. she made a mistake. Why do you have to create a thread about it? Why do I have to read this nonsense if I am on DCUM? What a waste of everyone's time. Think better next time


You don’t have to read it, that was your choice to do so. You’re choosing to waste your time by taking the time to click and post a reply. If you’re wasting your time it’s entirely your choice.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:32     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:Today I was in Sephora browsing. I had a bunch of stuff in my hands and I had a handbag. A woman said to me “excuse me, do you have this in ____ color”. I looked up, realized she was talking to me and said “Sorry, I don’t work here”. She replied, “you don’t have to rude, can you just point me in the direction of someone who does work here?”

I told her that I haven’t seen anyone who isn’t already helping someone and then I walked away.

I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times. Advice?




right. she made a mistake. Why do you have to create a thread about it? Why do I have to read this nonsense if I am on DCUM? What a waste of everyone's time. Think better next time
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:30     Subject: Re:“I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times.


Perhaps the same was true of her?


I'm guessing there was something really off putting about OPs tone in response because the way they woman asked was as polite as could be, even if it was a mistake.


It’s so weird how you say it may have been my tone, but don’t give the same possibility for hers. You don’t know how either of our tones were but somehow you’ve gleaned that she was “polite as could be” and my tone was “off putting”.

-op
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:04     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
I think she got embarrassed and probably mad at herself and took it out on you… Her response was not normal and she was wrong.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 15:00     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
I've been occasionally confused with Target workers or WalMart workers or whatever retail store or restaurant I happen to be in at the time. I'm Latina and that is just something that happens. Most of the time I smile and point them in the right direction if I happen to know. But, you could catch me at the wrong moment and I'll just flatly say that I don't work here. That's my right too.

OP, you weren't rude. You were fine.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 14:40     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:this happened to me yesterday. i was just looking at stuff i was looking for when an older lady asked me if they had a paper towel holder. i didn't tell her i didn't work there. i just said, "i don't know, but i can help you look." then i looked for it for her and told her that i didn't see anything like that and good luck finding one.



You’re such a nice person. I hope my mom runs into people like you, she often gets confused.


I've had a number of experiences where another shopper has helped me find something, even to the point of going WAY out of their way because they knew where a hard-to-find item was located--and then (turned out the store was no longer stocking it) took it on themselves to do a major search. Even though I am 69 and honestly unattractive, with think gray hair that's flyaway and makes me look like a crazy person half the time. (Interestingly enough, more of them than not have been middle aged black men, some looking like low-income slobs and some nicely put together).
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 09:58     Subject: Re:“I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times.


Perhaps the same was true of her?


I'm guessing there was something really off putting about OPs tone in response because the way they woman asked was as polite as could be, even if it was a mistake.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 09:56     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This only happens to me rarely, and it does seem to be older people like the PP mentioned. I don't think they really think I work at Target, but it's clear they need help from someone, and I happen to be nearby. I try to help if I can by reaching an item from a shelf or pointing them in the right direction. I'm secure enough in myself to not get offended that someone might gasp! think I work at Target. Do people think they are too good for these jobs? Why take offense?


But if you're busy and are asked a complicated question, you do understand that you are not obligated to help, right?
OP was not asked an easy question. She was fully within her rights to say what she did.



You're always in your right to be as rude or as helpful as you want. I choose to be helpful when I can because the thought of working in retail doesn't deeply offend me.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 09:53     Subject: Re:“I don’t work here” rude?
I’m not exactly sure why/how I was rude but I’m also on the spectrum and have issues with understanding social cues at times.


Perhaps the same was true of her?
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 09:48     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have to assume she thought you meant you didn’t work in that section or something because otherwise that response was bizarre.


this makes sense.


+1
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 09:47     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:Was she white, you POC?


You’re exhausting.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2024 08:37     Subject: “I don’t work here” rude?
Anonymous wrote:I have to assume she thought you meant you didn’t work in that section or something because otherwise that response was bizarre.


this makes sense.