When I saw this thread pop up I thought she had died.

Yikes. Watching her on E now ahead of the Met Gala. She looks like she's been malnourished for so many years.

She was so healthy in 2006

How is her family okay with this?

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/07/27/when-cancer-triggers-or-hides-an-eating-disorder/?ref=health

Interesting article on how cancer can trigger or hide and ED.

Anorexia is a mental disorder and very hard to treat. She needs to go to an in patient clinic. She cannot do it on her own. Hopefully her family will have a intervention so she can get help.

Anonymous wrote:^ITA, but she owes it to her son to try.

How do you know she's not trying? As pointed out abovepeople with eating disorders all too often try hard to get better, only to fail, many times over.

^ITA, but she owes it to her son to try.

Anonymous wrote:There's thin and fit, and then there's downright emaciated. I know she has a disorder, but I don't know how one can deny it for so long, and not work on it once they have kids.

She may be "working on it" but eating disorders are notoriously difficult to overcome. You can't just will yourself to be better.

My DH's sister voluntarily went to therapy, doctor's appointments, dietician appointments, etc for years before she was able to recover.She even willingly went to two inpatient treatment centers.She'd do better for a while then have a setback & not be able to stop the downward spiral.She eventually recovered but it took a very long time & she had to try several different treatment providers, all of whom had different approaches to treating anorexia, before she was found an approach that worked for her.That's another tricky thing about eating disorders --they are so complex, not very well understood even in the medical community, & there are so many different theories on the best way to treat them,none of which work for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:I think at this point I would leave my spouse over this. Its not good for Duke.

You are fucked up ^^^

If you think THIS is a reason to leave a marriage, you're not marriage material. Sounds like you'd leave the minute the shit hits the fan. dang....

+1

Anorexia is an illness, not a lifestyle choice. Did you not vow to let love your spouse in sickness & in health?

And how would having his mother leave his ill mother be better for Duke? He will still have an ill mother.

Wow, PP. I am so sorry about your sister.

I agree the sick person has to really want to get better, but the husband could do what my parents did even though I was no longer a minor and insist on therapy, insist on seeing a dietician. Even when I wasn't ready to get better yet, knowing I had those options and being able to think back on some of what I learned when I did eventually get there made a difference. It's not right to subject your child to that kind of environment and that should be grounds enough for husband to step in and issue some ultimatums.

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Anonymous wrote:How is her husband OK with this? He seems like a reasonably normal person.

I wonder this as well. I mean, maybe he is not ok with it, but keeping it a private matter?

As someone whose sister died from an eating disorder - he is probably not ok with it. But tough love doesn't work with those with eating disorders. I wish it did. I also think there are two types of people wit heating disorders - those who are also so deeply depressed that they want to die (and many will eventually commit suicide) and those who are consumed by the illness but don't believe it will kill them. My sister as the latter and I think Rancic is as well. My sister did not want to die, and she did not believe, until she was literally losing her life at the hospital, that her body would give up on her.

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who know exactly what's going on... Nannies, assistants, coworkers, housekeepers, family members... I wonder if her surrogate feels a moral dilemma-- carrying babies for a mother who is not healthy and likely won't be able to keep going on like this... Sad situation.

If I were her surrogate, I'd have a moral dilemma carrying additional babies for parents who named their first Duke.

Anonymous wrote:I think at this point I would leave my spouse over this. Its not good for Duke.

You are fucked up ^^^

If you think THIS is a reason to leave a marriage, you're not marriage material. Sounds like you'd leave the minute the shit hits the fan. dang....