Anonymous wrote:Pasta for dinner is very welcome in our home. DH just made some with shallots, garlic, mushrooms, yellow bell peppers, bacon, cream and cheese. It was delicious.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Nobody cares what you feed your spawn in your own home. People just care that you exhibit basic manners when invited to someone else’s home. OP’s friend acted like a rude brat. That’s what this thread is ultimately about.

This isn’t a difficult concept to understand.

OP felt no shame to give her guests depression-era food. Hospitality = C-
OP's friend felt surprised and asked a question but just ate that slop once it was clear that there were no sides.

This isn't a difficult concept to understand.

+1

But OP’s friend was unnecessarily rude. (NP)

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Anonymous wrote:I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

That packet of powdered cheese is the magical protein to make it a healthy meal according to American food standards.

It's the magical ingredient that makes it taste good.

Butter tastes good too. Ymmv.

Oh come on. No one on dcum is serving their kids boxed Mac and cheese.

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Anonymous wrote:I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

That packet of powdered cheese is the magical protein to make it a healthy meal according to American food standards.

It's the magical ingredient that makes it taste good.

Butter tastes good too. Ymmv.

Oh come on. No one on dcum is serving their kids boxed Mac and cheese.

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Anonymous wrote:I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

That packet of powdered cheese is the magical protein to make it a healthy meal according to American food standards.

It's the magical ingredient that makes it taste good.

Butter tastes good too. Ymmv.

Oh come on. No one on dcum is serving their kids boxed Mac and cheese.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Nobody cares what you feed your spawn in your own home. People just care that you exhibit basic manners when invited to someone else’s home. OP’s friend acted like a rude brat. That’s what this thread is ultimately about.

This isn’t a difficult concept to understand.

OP felt no shame to give her guests depression-era food. Hospitality = C-
OP's friend felt surprised and asked a question but just ate that slop once it was clear that there were no sides.

This isn't a difficult concept to understand.

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Anonymous wrote:I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

That packet of powdered cheese is the magical protein to make it a healthy meal according to American food standards.

It's the magical ingredient that makes it taste good.

Butter tastes good too. Ymmv.

Anonymous wrote:Once I was stuck in an elevator with another person for 4 hours. I shared my plain nacho chips with them.

You make do with whatever is on hand in an emergency situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Nobody cares what you feed your spawn in your own home. People just care that you exhibit basic manners when invited to someone else’s home. OP’s friend acted like a rude brat. That’s what this thread is ultimately about.

This isn’t a difficult concept to understand.

OP felt no shame to give her guests depression-era food. Hospitality = C-
OP's friend felt surprised and asked a question but just ate that slop once it was clear that there were no sides.

This isn't a difficult concept to understand.

OP should have offered the surprised friend a bag of d!(k$ to accompany the pasta since she so desperately needed a side.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually am puzzled in that when I read about picky kids eating away from home buttered noodles are often mentioned. Was OP supposed to have asked if the guest kid wanted sauce?

Many Americans use the following formula to serve lunch and dinner meals: main +2 or main +3. If you google "divided kids plates" or "divided disposable plates," you'll see compartments with enough room for either main +2 or main +3. These are often available in-person at Targets and Walmarts. It's that common.

There are exceptions, like how pizza or large salads are often served alone. Many times soups may be served with only bread or crackers, but the general convention is to serve more than a main dish. Obviously that's not everyone's convention, hence the insane food war this thread has sparked. It is, however, a thing for many people.

So, no, OP wasn't supposed to have asked if the guest wanted sauce. OP's friend was thrown for a loop when she saw only a main served. Her response was rude, and probably would have been avoided if OP had served some sides with the pasta or turned the pasta into a large pasta salad with the sides basically in the dish.

I'm not saying OP "should" have done that, though, because one convention isn't better than the other. This is more like the "shoes vs no-shoes in the house" debate. No-shoes in the house may be cleaner, but it's not so much so that it's a big deal either way. Serving more food would have been better nutritionally, but ultimately is nbd for one meal. Neither position deserves the vitriol that has been spilled on this thread.

Strong disagree. The neurotic control freak almond moms who think their kids will immediately get colon cancer or scurvy and drop dead because they weren’t offered random fruit and vegetables that they may or may not have even eaten at an impromptu, post-playground lunch deserve ALL the vitriol they have received (and more).

Yet nobody actually cares about your opinion and they aren’t going to feed their kid junk food or trash bc you called them names. You’re outnumbered and come across as foolish.

Nobody cares what you feed your spawn in your own home. People just care that you exhibit basic manners when invited to someone else’s home. OP’s friend acted like a rude brat. That’s what this thread is ultimately about.

This isn’t a difficult concept to understand.

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Anonymous wrote:I love buttered noodles. I eat it with just salt/pepper/garlic all the time. How is it any different than a bowl of Mac and cheese or bowl of ramen? Or a bowl or rice? As long as the flavor is there, I can eat it with or without a protein.

That packet of powdered cheese is the magical protein to make it a healthy meal according to American food standards.

It's the magical ingredient that makes it taste good.

Anonymous wrote:I love pasta, but the only ones I really like is the Barilla protein pasta. I started eating that when I had gestational diabetes, and every time I checked my glucose numbers after eating the numbers were great. My nutritionist was impressed.

This is the only type of pasta I serve, and now my kids only like this pasta too. It's not carb heavy, so if my DD eats just the pasta, I'm ok with it.

But, once in a while, if they are at a friends, and they eat just regular buttered pasta, that's fine, as long as it's once in a while.

If you are regularly feeding your kid just carb heavy pasta, then it's probably not very healthy. Even so, I would not have said anything, even if you fed my kid lunchables. It's just once. That is a bit rude.