Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:34
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Cancer Survivor
You are evil.
No, they’re not. They’re not talking about the vast majority of cancer survivors, but the ones who broadcast it on a movie theater sized screen at every opportunity even decades later. The people I know who fit this profile had A. a precancerous mole removed, B. Stage I of an incredibly treatable cancer which never required surgery, chemo or radiation and which never recurred, and, in one case, C. a tumor that was BENIGN 30 years ago, but still works being a “cancer survivor” into conversation on a laughably regular basis.
- cancer survivor
I agree. The vast majority of cancer survivors have all my sympathy. But I know people who had A-C who wax on and on about how it started their spiritual journey or whatever.
- PP's case B, and very few people know, not even my coworkers who had no idea why I suddenly took 2 weeks off from work
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:31
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:(Inspired by another thread on here!) People who are aggressively outspoken about how they do not - and will NEVER - do the elf on the shelf
Oh I support these people. The more people who fight against the madness of proliferating "traditions" that you must do or Christmas is ruined are doing a service for everyone, whether you do EotS or not. It's ultimately good for parents generally if at least some parents say "absolutely not" to some of this stuff.
+1
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:30
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Their “trauma”. Get help and move on. Don’t wallow in victimhood.
Oh yes, times a million. It's annoying to hear about constantly, it's also destructive for them to wallow in victimhood.
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:28
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.
Good one. This feels worse in the DMV, too -- people are competitive about travel in a way that just makes no sense to me. That recent thread about private school parents bragging about their holiday travel plans was so cringey and so recognizable.
A related DMV personality is the "international" person, where their whole personality is about how many non-Americans they know, how much time they spend abroad, etc. It's such a peculiar vibe. I am NOT a super patriotic person but it is weird when I meet people from like Ohio or Illinois who desperately need me to know that they lived Germany for work for a year or that their friends are all foreigners like that's somehow more impressive than having worked in Seattle and having friends from Chicago. Just... who cares.
+100
And they're always "international," not French or German or whatever.
Side note: I'd like to add the "I'm French and want everyone to know it" people to the list. Their great-great-great-etc grandparent came from France, but they insist on giving their kids French names, "having children know their culture," etc. I'm told there are lots of people who do the same thing but who have similarly distant Irish ancestry.
Can we add Canadians who think they're better than Americans?
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:27
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Doctors' wives. My sister insists that my mom's every minor complain be run past her DH--who really couldn't care less and never offers up any advice except that she should visit her GP.
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:25
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Mothers of gifted children
This x 1000. Often the kid isn't even all that gifted, instead they're hard workers who learned enough basic math and vocab words to get into the magnet program. Nothing wrong with hard work, but it's not the same thing.
Next time you bring up your kid's giftedness, I'm going to hit you with my kid's actual IQ results.
Anonymous
12/27/2023 09:17
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Being chronically ill with something bizarre (Ehler Danlos anyone) yet simultaneously constantly traveling/hiking
Being chronically ill with something bizarre, period. Ankylosing spondylitis was just one of the temporary "diagnoses."
Anonymous
12/26/2023 23:12
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.
Good one. This feels worse in the DMV, too -- people are competitive about travel in a way that just makes no sense to me. That recent thread about private school parents bragging about their holiday travel plans was so cringey and so recognizable.
A related DMV personality is the "international" person, where their whole personality is about how many non-Americans they know, how much time they spend abroad, etc. It's such a peculiar vibe. I am NOT a super patriotic person but it is weird when I meet people from like Ohio or Illinois who desperately need me to know that they lived Germany for work for a year or that their friends are all foreigners like that's somehow more impressive than having worked in Seattle and having friends from Chicago. Just... who cares.
+100
And they're always "international," not French or German or whatever.
Side note: I'd like to add the "I'm French and want everyone to know it" people to the list. Their great-great-great-etc grandparent came from France, but they insist on giving their kids French names, "having children know their culture," etc. I'm told there are lots of people who do the same thing but who have similarly distant Irish ancestry.
People who are over-invested in their distant Irish ancestry are the WORST! You’ll ask “Have you ever been to Ireland?” And they’ll say no. (They could have put aside just a dollar a day over their whole lives to save for a trip, yet they couldn’t bother.) But they have Irish flag tattoos and a house full of pseudo-Gaelic paraphernalia. And they LOVE that singlular, largely debunked photo of a sign saying “Irish NeedNot Apply.” They don’t hesitate to jump into any discussion about racism by talking about how their “ancestors” were piteously discriminated against but pulled their bootstraps and overcame, like POC would do if they weren’t too lazy!
Anonymous
12/26/2023 22:56
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Police/firemen wives
Add in military wives.
All of these ! It’s so gross and “stand by your man” ish
Anonymous
12/26/2023 21:01
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Women whose lives revolve 100% around kids. No interest, hobbies, never hire a sitter, don’t go out of town without their kids etc.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 20:49
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.
Good one. This feels worse in the DMV, too -- people are competitive about travel in a way that just makes no sense to me. That recent thread about private school parents bragging about their holiday travel plans was so cringey and so recognizable.
A related DMV personality is the "international" person, where their whole personality is about how many non-Americans they know, how much time they spend abroad, etc. It's such a peculiar vibe. I am NOT a super patriotic person but it is weird when I meet people from like Ohio or Illinois who desperately need me to know that they lived Germany for work for a year or that their friends are all foreigners like that's somehow more impressive than having worked in Seattle and having friends from Chicago. Just... who cares.
+100
And they're always "international," not French or German or whatever.
Side note: I'd like to add the "I'm French and want everyone to know it" people to the list. Their great-great-great-etc grandparent came from France, but they insist on giving their kids French names, "having children know their culture," etc. I'm told there are lots of people who do the same thing but who have similarly distant Irish ancestry.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 20:45
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Being poly. They proselytize more than the LDS and Jehovah Witnesses missionaries combined.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 17:45
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Sports team.
Political Party.
Political Party.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 10:12
Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality
Their “trauma”. Get help and move on. Don’t wallow in victimhood.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 10:01
Subject: Re:Annoying things people make their whole personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Rescue dogs
Why mention you have rescue dog or get a bumper sticker? The only purpose is so others think well of you.
No, that's not the only purpose. I am actually in dog rescue (as in I volunteer for a dog rescue in a variety of ways), and I don't talk about it and don't put a sticker on my car. But I am always glad to to hear someone adopted rather than shopped for their dog--it's generally a good thing. The one thing I find annoying is when people use the verb "rescued" in relation to how they got their dog. Unless you stopped your car at the side of the rode to grab a stray dog, you didn't "rescue" your dog--you adopted it.
This. It helps normalize adoption. Not a single person where I live adopted a dog. Every single dog is an expensive designer dog from a breeder.
How do you know this? We adopted both a poodle and a doodle from a rescue. Don’t make assumptions.
+1
I adopted my toy poodle from the rescue I foster dogs with. She spent the first four years of life suffering in a puppy mill cranking out maltipoos. Poor thing was a mess and needed a lot of rehabilitation. She is very fancy looking now what with all of the poofy grooming and bedazzled sweaters (she was a matted dirty mess when rescued), and people assume I bought her and make nasty comments to me about how I should have rescued. Got a comment like this last week when we stopped for a pup cup on the way to pick up my latest foster dog.
I’ll take this opportunity….
There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing research and buying from a responsible breeder. (I know that responsible breeder has become somewhat cliché, but they are usually found by word of mouth because they don't often advertise on sites.)
I have two breeder dogs, and I find the adopt-don't-shop folks to often be ignorant and insufferable (and often hypocritical). It’s fantastic that you are taking on suffering dogs, but it’s perfectly fine to prefer a well-bred puppy.
So, back off the superiority complex, peeps, and get your dog into some behavior training please.
Especially if the criticism comes from the pro pitbull crowd. Those dogs should not be allowed, and while I do not have a dog at all currently, I know that my next dog will not be a rescue pitbull mix that could kill someone.
Most people do not have the skill or patience necessary to rehabilitate a pitbull or other dog that has been through trauma. Is it fair to the dog who did not choose to be born? No. But at the end of the day, I am always going to prioritize what is fair and safest for HUMANS over dogs. The people who adopt these dogs and shame others for having dogs from breeders are almost always the ones who can't control their "lab mix" that is really a pitbull and expect everyone to just accept their dangerous pet because the dog had a bad life. If only these dogs would ONLY bite their dumb owners, I would not care, but they are a menace to society.
We only get shelter dogs, do our research and train them. No judgement at all on the people who get dogs from breeders. There are enough horror stories with that to even it all out! If you do your research and get the dog that fits your family, that's what matters. Dogs are good people.