Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of millennials refuse to do the math. When I was small, my grandma was in her 50s. People complaining about lack of help when “my parents’ parents helped them”: how old are your parents? My guess is, substantially older than their parents were when you were born.

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a societal change. Complaining won’t help.

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are too busy and galavanting around on vacations to help their kids and grand kids, sad. Another example of boomer selfishness on top of the wealth taking and focusing younger generations to find their lifestyles, sad.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/millennials-feel-abandoned-parents-available-help-raise-grandkids-busy.amp

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to need my parents help raising my children, but I think it's funny that they got a ton of help from their parents raising us..... We are talking vacations together. Meals several times a week. Grandparents coming to all school functions taking us to school, picking us up from school..... But my parents who are retired or working part-time struggle to even plan a holiday nowadays. Yet they want us to all come to them. Sorry Jan, I'm not planning Christmas at your house if you don't want to take the initiative.

once again, you need to look at the differences in women's lives between the two generation.

Do millennials not understand context? Hilarious. So much naval gazing.

-signed a gen xer

My parents did not go to college and both had jobs that barely made ends meet... Do I get why they leaned heavily on their parents but they didn't give us a dime for college or for a car or anything?...... So now that they've retired early because they were able to use the money they inherited from their own parents, they still are refusing to do anything. It seems like our grandparents raised us..... And our parents relied heavily on our grandparents labor and then are now enjoying their inheritance after our grandparents have passed..... So much so that we will once again get zero when our own parents die.

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Your grandmother more than likely did not have to juggle working full time and taking care of kids, on her own, because let's face it, the men in that generation weren't doing much housechores or childcare.

Your mother (because more than likely, when you say "parents", you really mean "mother") worked out of the home to try to provide for you, and your grandmother had the time to take care of you, the grandchild.

You know what it's like to work full time out of the home, and take care of kids. It's hard. Your mother is tired. She wants to enjoy her life because she was probably too busy raising you and working to enjoy her life. But, you begrudge her that.

Will you not get your parents estate when they pass? The cycle will continue. Please post back when you are retired, and your kids want you to watch your grandkids.

#entitledmillennial

Actually my grandparents both worked outside of the home. And the way my parents are burning through their state there will be zero left when they pass.

They most likely raised their kids and grandkids as free range, rather than helicoptering, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Parental help is overrated. I relied on my mom with DC1 and got what I paid for. Now with DC2 I’ve hired women to help who don’t stress me out and genuinely make my life easier.

+100000000. You get what you pay for.

Yep, the way my mom would watch my DC was old school. Let them watch tv for several hours; let them snack all day; little exercise and interaction.

Contrast to our nanny: take them to the park and library everyday; provide home cooked meals and healthy snacks.

Anonymous wrote:Gen X here, let me get out my tiny violin..
definitely not surprised millennials are feeling sad and unsupported by their parents. I do feel bad for them, their parents did nothing to prepare them for their inevitable unsupported future. Might be time to use the internet for more than complaining that your parents aren't watching your kids, find a good therapist to help gain independence and work through that sense of entitlement. Seriously, poor babes are so lost.

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Anonymous wrote:Parental help is overrated. I relied on my mom with DC1 and got what I paid for. Now with DC2 I’ve hired women to help who don’t stress me out and genuinely make my life easier.

+100000000. You get what you pay for.

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Anonymous wrote:Parental help is overrated. I relied on my mom with DC1 and got what I paid for. Now with DC2 I’ve hired women to help who don’t stress me out and genuinely make my life easier.

+100000000. You get what you pay for.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to need my parents help raising my children, but I think it's funny that they got a ton of help from their parents raising us..... We are talking vacations together. Meals several times a week. Grandparents coming to all school functions taking us to school, picking us up from school..... But my parents who are retired or working part-time struggle to even plan a holiday nowadays. Yet they want us to all come to them. Sorry Jan, I'm not planning Christmas at your house if you don't want to take the initiative.

once again, you need to look at the differences in women's lives between the two generation.

Do millennials not understand context? Hilarious. So much naval gazing.

-signed a gen xer

My parents did not go to college and both had jobs that barely made ends meet... Do I get why they leaned heavily on their parents but they didn't give us a dime for college or for a car or anything?...... So now that they've retired early because they were able to use the money they inherited from their own parents, they still are refusing to do anything. It seems like our grandparents raised us..... And our parents relied heavily on our grandparents labor and then are now enjoying their inheritance after our grandparents have passed..... So much so that we will once again get zero when our own parents die.

I'll repeat:

Your grandmother more than likely did not have to juggle working full time and taking care of kids, on her own, because let's face it, the men in that generation weren't doing much housechores or childcare.

Your mother (because more than likely, when you say "parents", you really mean "mother") worked out of the home to try to provide for you, and your grandmother had the time to take care of you, the grandchild.

You know what it's like to work full time out of the home, and take care of kids. It's hard. Your mother is tired. She wants to enjoy her life because she was probably too busy raising you and working to enjoy her life. But, you begrudge her that.

Will you not get your parents estate when they pass? The cycle will continue. Please post back when you are retired, and your kids want you to watch your grandkids.

#entitledmillennial

Actually my grandparents both worked outside of the home. And the way my parents are burning through their state there will be zero left when they pass.

Anonymous wrote:Parental help is overrated. I relied on my mom with DC1 and got what I paid for. Now with DC2 I’ve hired women to help who don’t stress me out and genuinely make my life easier.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to need my parents help raising my children, but I think it's funny that they got a ton of help from their parents raising us..... We are talking vacations together. Meals several times a week. Grandparents coming to all school functions taking us to school, picking us up from school..... But my parents who are retired or working part-time struggle to even plan a holiday nowadays. Yet they want us to all come to them. Sorry Jan, I'm not planning Christmas at your house if you don't want to take the initiative.

once again, you need to look at the differences in women's lives between the two generation.

Do millennials not understand context? Hilarious. So much naval gazing.

-signed a gen xer

My parents did not go to college and both had jobs that barely made ends meet... Do I get why they leaned heavily on their parents but they didn't give us a dime for college or for a car or anything?...... So now that they've retired early because they were able to use the money they inherited from their own parents, they still are refusing to do anything. It seems like our grandparents raised us..... And our parents relied heavily on our grandparents labor and then are now enjoying their inheritance after our grandparents have passed..... So much so that we will once again get zero when our own parents die.

I'll repeat:

Your grandmother more than likely did not have to juggle working full time and taking care of kids, on her own, because let's face it, the men in that generation weren't doing much housechores or childcare.

Your mother (because more than likely, when you say "parents", you really mean "mother") worked out of the home to try to provide for you, and your grandmother had the time to take care of you, the grandchild.

You know what it's like to work full time out of the home, and take care of kids. It's hard. Your mother is tired. She wants to enjoy her life because she was probably too busy raising you and working to enjoy her life. But, you begrudge her that.

Will you not get your parents estate when they pass? The cycle will continue. Please post back when you are retired, and your kids want you to watch your grandkids.

#entitledmillennial

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Anonymous wrote:I do get a bit annoyed at my boomer parents, who are always on vacation, while I have small children at home, a demanding career, and cannot get enough sleep.

That’s weird. Why would you be annoyed by that? They’re your kids.

They live a life of leisure while I work nonstop. It gets annoying when they want to see the grandkids but cannot watch them for 15 minutes so I can get work done.