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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?

We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.

You didn't mention the inside bin.

Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.

What? You don’t recycle at their house but expect it at yours? You sound crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?

We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.

You didn't mention the inside bin.

Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.

Anonymous wrote:DH doesn't buy or wrap any gifts for our DDs, their significant others or any of our 6 small Grands. All I asked this year was for him to handle his picky Mom's and sweet Dad's gifts. I have bought that woman everything under the sun over the past 35 years and have never seen her use or wear one gift. I do love her so most recently we just give her gift cards to places she likes. I was about to order her one but DH stopped me and said he'd get something...Right before they arrived, he asked me what we'd give them....He grabbed a throw we'd been gifted and threw on a bow

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?

We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.

You didn't mention the inside bin.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?

We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is refusing to host Christmas because I’m not speaking with my sister (we are 32 and 29 years old).

It cut off before I was done. So my grandparents are hosting Christmas, but they are ordering pizza. I’m pregnant and very emotional over this. My husband and I have decided to have our own Christmas feast.

I don’t blame your mom. She doesn’t need your drama ruining her holiday.

+1. I wouldn’t cook a nice meal for brats who can’t pull it together and be civil for the duration of a three-hour holiday gathering.

Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a super petty, OCD one!

My mom is here for the holidays, she comes for a few weeks every year. She is great, and helps with things like the dishwasher/laundry/etc. great! Well…

My pots and pans stack according to size. They fit neatly in my sliding drawer that way. One on top of the other, next to the stack of mixing bowls and colanders that all nestle together as well.

My mom cannot, for the life of her, put a pot or mixing bowl inside or under another. Every time, she just jams then alongside the others until there is a junkpile of kitchenware, and the drawer can barely close.

This AM I opened it to find she put the very top pot, the smallest one, beside the pots and on the lids instead of nestled in its spot. It’s getting to where I flinch opening the drawer, wondering what new hellscape of disorder awaits me within.

Am I the pettiest? I think so.

I can top that, maybe. When we married, we combined our dishes, so they didn't match. They were similar, just not identical. We just used them together for 12 years although I tended to reach for "mine" first and DH for "his." When MIL came over, she used to rearrange them in the cabinet so that instead of being mixed together they were arranged to match. And she always put the ones from DH on top so I had to remove 6 plates if I wanted to get to mine.

There is no good reason at all this bothered me, and I fully know that, but it did. But obviously I did not say anything because that would have been insane!

Anyway we finally bought all new plates a year ago so no longer have this "issue." But we forgot to tell MIL and then the first time she came over for dinner and saw all the new plates, she was almost speechless with shock.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs "gift" to us is a dinner "date night" with them at their favorite restaurant that is 45 minutes away.
I am heavily pregnant and we have a 2 year old.

Are you the same poster who shared about this before? This “date night” is really just a ruse. The expectation is that you would end up staying home because it’s too much to get a sitter, and then your MIL would have her time with her son without you which is what she really wants.

Anonymous wrote:My ILs "gift" to us is a dinner "date night" with them at their favorite restaurant that is 45 minutes away.
I am heavily pregnant and we have a 2 year old.

Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.