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Anonymous wrote:The PP saying that her son is fat (soft belly with dimples) but she still gives him dessert every/most nights and that is okay because it’s fruit is insane. Why are you giving him extra carbs when he obviously doesn’t need them? Parents like that are the reason so many kids are fat. Dessert is not a moral right.

She said dessert is often fruit. Fruit isn’t making him fat.

Calling anyone fat is a form of oppression.

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Anonymous wrote:The PP saying that her son is fat (soft belly with dimples) but she still gives him dessert every/most nights and that is okay because it’s fruit is insane. Why are you giving him extra carbs when he obviously doesn’t need them? Parents like that are the reason so many kids are fat. Dessert is not a moral right.

She said dessert is often fruit. Fruit isn’t making him fat.

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Anonymous wrote:What is with all of these kids chains about weight? Is this really so top of mind for people? Perhaps that is part of the problem!

I’m the OP of the thread about my thin daughter who eats a lot. I’m pretty sure my daughter eats much more than kids who are chubby. We eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy food. Most kids around us are thin.

For me, I was trying to be preventative. Ha people obviously don’t agree with me and called me an awful mother, need therapy and said I probably have an eating disorder.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, we eat 90% home cooked organic Whole Foods meals, lots of veggies and lean proteins, normal amount of carbs and overall a Mediterranean diet. Dessert is a piece of dark chocolate or a fruit. We eat out once a week to a simple quality restaurant.

My girl is stick thin and we have to push her to eat her meals. My son is chubby and his appetite for carbs seems insatiable. He doesn’t have a sweet tooth but will beg and beg for more pasta, more rice, a bit more beans and cheese etc.. when he encounters chips or junk food at a party you can see he could easily gorge on them every day (he knows not to for his health but you can see he doesn’t have the same satiety for it as the other average kids).

And yes they are both active and involved in tons of sports.

I am sure if my son was in another family he would already be more than chubby and be overweight or obese (right now if he is dressed you would not call him chubby, at the pool like OP you would see his soft dimpled belly).

The boy is HUNGRY. He talks about food all the time. He plans his next meals. He makes recipes in his mind. This is no mindless junk eating. And neither his dad nor me are like that. I can’t restrict a 10 y boy food intake, veggies and protein at meals are pretty much unrestricted but we only allow one serving of carbs, that’s the only way to keep us weight from creeping up.

When I look at family history, on my DH they had a lot of weight issues already 2 generations ago. I think he took from them and his appetite is driven by his metabolism.

Yes CICO is key but hunger and energy exerted when he has to be active (how much he will run when he is at his soccer practice) is driven by genetics. Parents cannot control that (and he cannot either)

People on here grossly underestimate the variance in energy exerted through exercise. Some people's bodies may appear to be doing the same work, but they are not exerting the same energy or burning the same calories doing it. This is genetic. A person on the hypotonic end of tone will never burn as many calories in twice the work out as a person who is on the hypertonic end.

It’s not about energy exerted its about muscle mass.

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Anonymous wrote:The PP saying that her son is fat (soft belly with dimples) but she still gives him dessert every/most nights and that is okay because it’s fruit is insane. Why are you giving him extra carbs when he obviously doesn’t need them? Parents like that are the reason so many kids are fat. Dessert is not a moral right.

She said dessert is often fruit. Fruit isn’t making him fat.

Anonymous wrote:The PP saying that her son is fat (soft belly with dimples) but she still gives him dessert every/most nights and that is okay because it’s fruit is insane. Why are you giving him extra carbs when he obviously doesn’t need them? Parents like that are the reason so many kids are fat. Dessert is not a moral right.

Anonymous wrote:Swimming at the pool this year and have really noticed a lot of chunky kids. I know a lot of kids are overweight and obese now but it still surprises me every time I see kids who are clearly overweight at a young age.

DH and I had the opposite problem growing up and our kids are sharing our genetics. No matter how much they eat they can’t really gain weight. Our 9.5 year old only weighs 66 pounds and eats like a horse!

A friend of mine said her 8 year old weighed 100 pounds!

My kids don’t eat perfectly healthy all the time and do eat junk food so it’s not like they aren’t also consuming the highly processed food. I just feel bad for kids having to go through this at such a young age.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, we eat 90% home cooked organic Whole Foods meals, lots of veggies and lean proteins, normal amount of carbs and overall a Mediterranean diet. Dessert is a piece of dark chocolate or a fruit. We eat out once a week to a simple quality restaurant.

My girl is stick thin and we have to push her to eat her meals. My son is chubby and his appetite for carbs seems insatiable. He doesn’t have a sweet tooth but will beg and beg for more pasta, more rice, a bit more beans and cheese etc.. when he encounters chips or junk food at a party you can see he could easily gorge on them every day (he knows not to for his health but you can see he doesn’t have the same satiety for it as the other average kids).

And yes they are both active and involved in tons of sports.

I am sure if my son was in another family he would already be more than chubby and be overweight or obese (right now if he is dressed you would not call him chubby, at the pool like OP you would see his soft dimpled belly).

The boy is HUNGRY. He talks about food all the time. He plans his next meals. He makes recipes in his mind. This is no mindless junk eating. And neither his dad nor me are like that. I can’t restrict a 10 y boy food intake, veggies and protein at meals are pretty much unrestricted but we only allow one serving of carbs, that’s the only way to keep us weight from creeping up.

When I look at family history, on my DH they had a lot of weight issues already 2 generations ago. I think he took from them and his appetite is driven by his metabolism.

Yes CICO is key but hunger and energy exerted when he has to be active (how much he will run when he is at his soccer practice) is driven by genetics. Parents cannot control that (and he cannot either)

People on here grossly underestimate the variance in energy exerted through exercise. Some people's bodies may appear to be doing the same work, but they are not exerting the same energy or burning the same calories doing it. This is genetic. A person on the hypotonic end of tone will never burn as many calories in twice the work out as a person who is on the hypertonic end.

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, we eat 90% home cooked organic Whole Foods meals, lots of veggies and lean proteins, normal amount of carbs and overall a Mediterranean diet. Dessert is a piece of dark chocolate or a fruit. We eat out once a week to a simple quality restaurant.

My girl is stick thin and we have to push her to eat her meals. My son is chubby and his appetite for carbs seems insatiable. He doesn’t have a sweet tooth but will beg and beg for more pasta, more rice, a bit more beans and cheese etc.. when he encounters chips or junk food at a party you can see he could easily gorge on them every day (he knows not to for his health but you can see he doesn’t have the same satiety for it as the other average kids).

And yes they are both active and involved in tons of sports.

I am sure if my son was in another family he would already be more than chubby and be overweight or obese (right now if he is dressed you would not call him chubby, at the pool like OP you would see his soft dimpled belly).

The boy is HUNGRY. He talks about food all the time. He plans his next meals. He makes recipes in his mind. This is no mindless junk eating. And neither his dad nor me are like that. I can’t restrict a 10 y boy food intake, veggies and protein at meals are pretty much unrestricted but we only allow one serving of carbs, that’s the only way to keep us weight from creeping up.

When I look at family history, on my DH they had a lot of weight issues already 2 generations ago. I think he took from them and his appetite is driven by his metabolism.

Yes CICO is key but hunger and energy exerted when he has to be active (how much he will run when he is at his soccer practice) is driven by genetics. Parents cannot control that (and he cannot either)

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Anonymous wrote:My one boy is a tiny stick, my other boy is average, and my girl is a bit chunky. They eat the same food. Not junk. Home cooked meals 80%. Generics.

They don't all eat the same amount of food. Clearly you see that.

+1. There is no way these kids are eating ounce for ounce the same amount of food in a day. The same amount of snacks, the same amount of seconds, same portion sizes, etc.

I’m curious about how this is supposed to play out, in your opinion. Is the parent supposed to limit portions/refuse seconds/feed different meals to the “chunky” kid? Allow snacks only for the skinny ones?

I’m envisioning a really healthy dynamic here.

If they were all eating the same, the chunky kid wouldn’t be as chunky. That kid is eating a bigger portion of snacks and/or meals than the other kids. You e never been to a playdate where one kid is ponding the strawberries way harder than any other kid? Just give them all the same sized plate of food and when it’s gone, it’s gone. If anyone is still hungry, offer baby carrots or cucumbers.

Your first sentence is scientifically false. This is the problem with this whole thread, the assumption that all bodies are the same. https://www.netflix.com/title/81436688

DP. lol at you posting Netflix fakeumentary. Most bodies are the same.

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Anonymous wrote:What is with all of these kids chains about weight? Is this really so top of mind for people? Perhaps that is part of the problem!

I’m the OP of the thread about my thin daughter who eats a lot. I’m pretty sure my daughter eats much more than kids who are chubby. We eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy food. Most kids around us are thin.

For me, I was trying to be preventative. Ha people obviously don’t agree with me and called me an awful mother, need therapy and said I probably have an eating disorder.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is with all of these kids chains about weight? Is this really so top of mind for people? Perhaps that is part of the problem!

I’m the OP of the thread about my thin daughter who eats a lot. I’m pretty sure my daughter eats much more than kids who are chubby. We eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy food. Most kids around us are thin.

For me, I was trying to be preventative. Ha people obviously don’t agree with me and called me an awful mother, need therapy and said I probably have an eating disorder.

Anonymous wrote:What is with all of these kids chains about weight? Is this really so top of mind for people? Perhaps that is part of the problem!