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Anonymous wrote:Next morning, Grandma checks into the local Holiday Inn with visiting hours you schedule.

Another person who didn’t correctly read the OP.

Anonymous wrote:As new parents who are trying to establish a STTN routine, I get why OP was flustered (especially in the middle of the night). But it sounds like MIL was just trying to help. I would have just let her do the diaper change and make her feel useful/involved. It may have saved a lot of hassle in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't see what mil did wrong. So what if op told her what would happen ahead of time. Baby cries, people wake up.

I think op is extremely insecure to see this as so offensive. Big deal, your baby is waking people up in the middle of the night, op. Your mil isn't upset with you about it. She's not being controlling of the situation.
She's waking up. What exactly are you concerned about anyway?

She wasn’t just waking up, she was full-voiced talking, which of course would only disturb the baby further. Did you not read?

I read. But why would op be so angry about it? MIL was being annoying. Not pushy or disagreeable or saying anything disrespectful. This is a "MIL is annoying" thing, not a thing you get all indignant about.

Btw, what's the deal with other posters and op reiterating that mil was "warned." I warned you Barb! Get out of here Barb, I warned you!" It's just weird.

If you don’t get that ignoring the express and repeated wishes of parents when it comes to the care of their own child, you are in for a bumpy ride as a MIL/grandparent. Best of luck with that.

And what express and repeated wishes are you talking about? The directive op gave to mil to go back to bed?

Op and her husband should have said "hey mil, when baby cries we try to be super quiet, so we'd really appreciate it if you didn't get up with us in the middle of the night. Otherwise it's too hard to get baby back to sleep. "

She didn't.

Anonymous wrote:OP is probably sleep deprived, so I give her a pass on any middle-of-the-night interactions.

MIL wanted to help, but was unable to take a hint or observe that her help was very undesired. OP/DH likely never directly told MIL that it would be best to leave them alone, and being very quiet was a MUST - no talking to baby or the OP or husband.

I did not read 32 pages of this though.... what happened to make this last 32 pages?!

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Anonymous wrote:I can't see what mil did wrong. So what if op told her what would happen ahead of time. Baby cries, people wake up.

I think op is extremely insecure to see this as so offensive. Big deal, your baby is waking people up in the middle of the night, op. Your mil isn't upset with you about it. She's not being controlling of the situation.
She's waking up. What exactly are you concerned about anyway?

She wasn’t just waking up, she was full-voiced talking, which of course would only disturb the baby further. Did you not read?

I read. But why would op be so angry about it? MIL was being annoying. Not pushy or disagreeable or saying anything disrespectful. This is a "MIL is annoying" thing, not a thing you get all indignant about.

Btw, what's the deal with other posters and op reiterating that mil was "warned." I warned you Barb! Get out of here Barb, I warned you!" It's just weird.

If you don’t get that ignoring the express and repeated wishes of parents when it comes to the care of their own child, you are in for a bumpy ride as a MIL/grandparent. Best of luck with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Crying babies make me feel incredibly anxious. I always assumed that was Mother Nature. MIL is probably the same. It’s like an automatic response of “must soothe baby.”

No one is saying impulses are unnatural or bad. But we must control our impulses every day in polite society, yes? MIL was warned ahead of time and asked for several nights to leave the parents alone to handle the night waking. How far does your “but Mother Nature” excuse-making go? Dudes grabbing women every day?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't see what mil did wrong. So what if op told her what would happen ahead of time. Baby cries, people wake up.

I think op is extremely insecure to see this as so offensive. Big deal, your baby is waking people up in the middle of the night, op. Your mil isn't upset with you about it. She's not being controlling of the situation.
She's waking up. What exactly are you concerned about anyway?

She wasn’t just waking up, she was full-voiced talking, which of course would only disturb the baby further. Did you not read?

I read. But why would op be so angry about it? MIL was being annoying. Not pushy or disagreeable or saying anything disrespectful. This is a "MIL is annoying" thing, not a thing you get all indignant about.

Btw, what's the deal with other posters and op reiterating that mil was "warned." I warned you Barb! Get out of here Barb, I warned you!" It's just weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't see what mil did wrong. So what if op told her what would happen ahead of time. Baby cries, people wake up.

I think op is extremely insecure to see this as so offensive. Big deal, your baby is waking people up in the middle of the night, op. Your mil isn't upset with you about it. She's not being controlling of the situation.
She's waking up. What exactly are you concerned about anyway?

She wasn’t just waking up, she was full-voiced talking, which of course would only disturb the baby further. Did you not read?

Anonymous wrote:Next morning, Grandma checks into the local Holiday Inn with visiting hours you schedule.

Anonymous wrote:I can't see what mil did wrong. So what if op told her what would happen ahead of time. Baby cries, people wake up.

I think op is extremely insecure to see this as so offensive. Big deal, your baby is waking people up in the middle of the night, op. Your mil isn't upset with you about it. She's not being controlling of the situation.
She's waking up. What exactly are you concerned about anyway?

Anonymous wrote:Crying babies make me feel incredibly anxious. I always assumed that was Mother Nature. MIL is probably the same. It’s like an automatic response of “must soothe baby.”