I've had a dog for 8 years that has been with me through thick and thin. I had a baby in November and my husband got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease in February and suddenly we are so busy and exhausted that I started to think maybe he deserves a better home? I should just give him to someone else who can take care of him.

But every time i started to go through the process of looking for another home I felt so sick and guilty and I would just think about how much he would miss me and not be able to understand why I gave him up. So instead I've made bigger strides to be the dog-parent he needs instead of just giving up.

And then these people did that to an actual human being. This story has broken my heart today, I've felt so ill over it all morning. That poor sweet boy, the only solace I'm taking is that he's free of them sooner rather than later.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

They are giving him away. What else do you want to call it? You want to make it sound nice... we're putting him up for adoption? They aren't even doing a legal adoption.

How do you know that? I thought I heard that they used their adoption agency for the placement in the new home, which almost certainly means that it is a legal adoption.

I hope that their legal fees are astronomical and that these two awful people will be forced to spend as much of their waking life as possible working 3 jobs. May caring, nice people surround their children and guide them through life.

The new adoptive family pays the legal fees. They walk away, new family pays everything and its a 5 minute court hearing and done.

They have a lawyer threatening people on social media. Who knows how long they’ll retain him to clean up their mess.

They can afford a lawyer, but refused to pay for adequate therapies for Huxley? Sickening.

She’s scum. The kid is better off despite all the trauma.

Anonymous wrote:She is complete and utter scum. Some receipts:
https://twitter.com/ParticleSoop/status/1265824835395084288?s=19: Video of her talking about his diagnosis, that the agency discouraged them from adoption, saying it didn't matter the diagnosis, and she received photos/videos of H from his foster mother.

https://twitter.com/thatbonnielass7/status/1265674874862870529 : Screenshots of the posts she made in 2018, AFTER the adoption of H, looking for a new child with "easy" special needs (but that people think are hard, so that they'd get credit for adopting a difficult child)

https://twitter.com/SophRossss/status/1265864237567574016 : Video of her talking about H's therapy being too expensive while waving around a $6k bracelet

https://www.instagram.com/p/CAhOvf8g0tH/ : Video of her mocking her son who is having a "bad day".

I have no words ... I hope there is a legal investigation into this scam "influence" business (or whatever it's called).

She is complete and utter scum. Some receipts:
https://twitter.com/ParticleSoop/status/1265824835395084288?s=19: Video of her talking about his diagnosis, that the agency discouraged them from adoption, saying it didn't matter the diagnosis, and she received photos/videos of H from his foster mother.

https://twitter.com/thatbonnielass7/status/1265674874862870529 : Screenshots of the posts she made in 2018, AFTER the adoption of H, looking for a new child with "easy" special needs (but that people think are hard, so that they'd get credit for adopting a difficult child)

https://twitter.com/SophRossss/status/1265864237567574016 : Video of her talking about H's therapy being too expensive while waving around a $6k bracelet

https://www.instagram.com/p/CAhOvf8g0tH/ : Video of her mocking her son who is having a "bad day".

Anonymous wrote:For anyone who followed her before all this I have a question. If she gave the child away in January, how has she acted since? Is she all happy go lucky in her stories? I mean did she seem effected at all before everyone found out?

I think it was after January. Feb 16 she posted a photo with the boy on Instagram, talking about how awful his behavior had been the past couple of days. After that she posted a couple times a week-random life photos, how exciting their room makeover was, flowery relationship advice, selling various products, a Great Wolf Lodge trip “filled with a million smiles and memories I’ll never forget,” how much she misses Bali, pictures of the other kids with “love my babies” caption, a LV giveaway, and then a post with a photo of the boy again, with the caption “last month was the hardest month I’ve ever had as a mama.” Then back to all the cutesy stuff and hawking products.

So, no. Aside from the two posts about how hard things were with that specific kid, everything else was sunshine and dollar signs, before and after the ultimate “giveaway.”

My cousin adopted two girls from China when they were 2 and 7 months. They’re in elementary school now. It's interesting because I've had many mixed thoughts about how she's handled their adoptions, but the contrast between her and the Stauffers is still very stark.

My cousin shows them videos in Mandarin. She and her husband took Mandarin classes before the adoption and the girls now take lessons as well. Their family celebrates Chinese New Year and hangs out with other families with adoptees from China. I give her credit for doing these things, but also it's not rocket science - there are lots of simple ways to incorporate another culture into your life when you love and want to relate to someone, whether it be an adoptee or spouse or friend from another culture. I don't see ANY evidence of an attempt by Myka and James to relate to Huxley in this way at all. They were trying to whitewash him. It was always about THEM and forcing him into a certain box. It was never about loving that child at all.

Anonymous wrote:For anyone who followed her before all this I have a question. If she gave the child away in January, how has she acted since? Is she all happy go lucky in her stories? I mean did she seem effected at all before everyone found out?

I didn’t follow her, but since becoming familiar with her through this thread I searched a little and found that many fans were directly asking her what was going on with the boy since she had stopped talking about him. Some people speculated that adoption or special needs advocates had gotten involved and forced her to stop posting about him, and others speculated that they had “re homed” him. Other people called those fans crazy and paranoid.

Many of her Instagram posts from the Jan-now timeframe started with her alluding to “hard times,” “rainy days,” needing me time more than ever, etc., but immediately turned into a sales pitch for something or other. Really disgusting, in retrospect.

Anonymous wrote:For anyone who followed her before all this I have a question. If she gave the child away in January, how has she acted since? Is she all happy go lucky in her stories? I mean did she seem effected at all before everyone found out?

I just checked out her stuff after the story came out and it looks like she either went to Bali right before or soon after saying buh bye to her adopted boy. She also posted frivolous youtube contents including one where she wrote herself a cutesy affirmation of something like "you are a good mommy!"

For anyone who followed her before all this I have a question. If she gave the child away in January, how has she acted since? Is she all happy go lucky in her stories? I mean did she seem effected at all before everyone found out?

Anonymous wrote:Influencers should not be allowed to adopt. Their lives revolve around creating content for views, sponsors, and subscribers / followers. They are always looking for new storylines, and people stories draw viewers. Adopting a kid as content is a terrible idea and I am not surprised it went wrong so fast. They have probably maxed out the views and sponsors they can her from the adoption story line and now they would have to actually raise the child.

Personally I think all these family channels should be banned. When your livelihood and I come depends on your kids performing on camera and on being filmed as props and producst, kids lose out. They lose privacy, they lose a spontaneous life, they lose all kinds of things. People exploiting their children, their children's lives, and their children's emotions and privacy for money should be stopped.

On another site she was apparently also looking at adopting another child from Ethiopia with special needs! There are all sorts of posters pulling her posts on public adoptions sites where it shows she was aware about the child's needs, although of course that doesn't mean she was able to handle it! This whole blogging, Instagram, daily video thing for families is out of control. Regardless, for all of the kids how available was she anyway to manage all this and homeschool! I was looking at her "eat in a day" blog and she lived on nothing, very controlled while also breast feeding lots of posts about how that was dangerously low calories for breast-feeding mama! I'd say she had issues, once you go down this social media role you and your family have to look and act a certain way all the time! Huxley, especially as he got older, no longer fit the bill! So sad! All these mamas churning out family content all day long using their kids need to be banned or the kids need contracts and oversight!

Anonymous wrote:I like how she wore glasses in the video so the viewer would know it was serious.

Yup you also gotta go the no make-up route and pearch on the end of your bed with your crumpled looking husband holding your hand or rubbing your back now and again!

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Anonymous wrote:Violent and aggressive? Wasn't he just 3?

Lots of toddlers are 'violent and aggressive'. Especially when they struggle with communication and sensory issues.

We aren't talking an angry 13 year old beating people up.

He’s 5.

He is turning 5. They should him having a meltdown, and it looked no different than any other 4 year old meltdown but he didn't speak english coming here, had no sign language and they had unrealistic expectations. She was downright mean to him in the video given his needs.

and a homeschooler and fulltime youtuber pushing out videos all day long!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

They are giving him away. What else do you want to call it? You want to make it sound nice... we're putting him up for adoption? They aren't even doing a legal adoption.

How do you know that? I thought I heard that they used their adoption agency for the placement in the new home, which almost certainly means that it is a legal adoption.

I hope that their legal fees are astronomical and that these two awful people will be forced to spend as much of their waking life as possible working 3 jobs. May caring, nice people surround their children and guide them through life.

The new adoptive family pays the legal fees. They walk away, new family pays everything and its a 5 minute court hearing and done.

They have a lawyer threatening people on social media. Who knows how long they’ll retain him to clean up their mess.

Lmao no they don’t. He “threatened” one crazy person who made a whole IG to post about the family. Try again.

You confirmed the claim, so no need to try again.

He’s also fielding press inquiries since this has turned into an international sh!tshow.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

They are giving him away. What else do you want to call it? You want to make it sound nice... we're putting him up for adoption? They aren't even doing a legal adoption.

How do you know that? I thought I heard that they used their adoption agency for the placement in the new home, which almost certainly means that it is a legal adoption.

I hope that their legal fees are astronomical and that these two awful people will be forced to spend as much of their waking life as possible working 3 jobs. May caring, nice people surround their children and guide them through life.

The new adoptive family pays the legal fees. They walk away, new family pays everything and its a 5 minute court hearing and done.

They have a lawyer threatening people on social media. Who knows how long they’ll retain him to clean up their mess.

Lmao no they don’t. He “threatened” one crazy person who made a whole IG to post about the family. Try again.

You confirmed the claim, so no need to try again.