Anonymous
Post 05/12/2020 16:55     Subject: Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.


Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

Oh really? Like what?
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2020 10:30     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
^ yes my cheater is over-sexed.

We had sex 3-4 times per week at 22 years of marriage and he would screw his AP 2-3 times per month.

So the bulk of his sex was with me, his wife.

He had a seriously screwed up childhood- mother and father. Alcoholism, serial cheating, nobody looking out for him and his brothers.

His AP is just as messed up. Daddy and attention issues. Both are narcissists.

It’s definitely not just sex that causes cheating. It’s need of ego stroking and validation—and times because they have very low self esteem even when appearing supremely confident in day to day life.
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2020 10:25     Subject: Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.


Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2020 08:27     Subject: Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.


Its a good observation. I have to believe most people aren't really this angered by either another anonymous persons affair or that some anonymous person is mad at them for having one.

Most people really don't care as long as its not happening to them.
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2020 07:34     Subject: Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 14:51     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.



I hate to disappoint you but adultery has zero effect on custody decisions unless she left her children dangling from the balcony while she slept with her lover.


My lawyer would disagree. Going to a hotel in another state when her state was in quarantine and then going back to her unsuspecting family.

Bringing strange men into the home every week.

Drinking and driving.

He said these all represent a cheat danger to the children and spouse.

Toodeloo...



This is separate from cheating you know.

Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 11:28     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
NP. Times are very different these days. Women are not getting automatic custody anymore. And, many times, the fathers are awarded full custody when endangerment is involved.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 11:26     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
*clear

Yes. Tons of evidence is in hand.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 11:25     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.



I hate to disappoint you but adultery has zero effect on custody decisions unless she left her children dangling from the balcony while she slept with her lover.


My lawyer would disagree. Going to a hotel in another state when her state was in quarantine and then going back to her unsuspecting family.

Bringing strange men into the home every week.

Drinking and driving.

He said these all represent a cheat danger to the children and spouse.

Toodeloo...

Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 11:21     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.



I hate to disappoint you but adultery has zero effect on custody decisions unless she left her children dangling from the balcony while she slept with her lover.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 10:40     Subject: Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With that last post ^ I think I'm going to check out of this discussion. In 30 pages, I've learned absolutely nothing. I've asked some very specific questions that no one has answered while I've tried to answer the simple title question as simply as possible, and getting as deep as possible when questioned. If I've enlightened anyone, they've stayed silent about it while the usual band of women have responded with the same phrases and vitriol these questions always generate.

Guess what I'm doing tomorrow? AP's H has decided that something else is more important that mother's day tomorrow so he will be gone most of the day, leaving us some precious hours to meet for some fun in the afternoon. I'm looking forward to a little excitement. Life isn't too bad.
Happy. Mothers day to you bkth


It's mind boggling to see these posts where people brag about being evil low lifes.

This is where you hope Darwin takes them out because they are totally worthless.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 10:34     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Just do it. Why are you talking about it so much?

I would have done it right after I found out, marched over to her house.

Just be grateful you're done with a scumbag and loser. It's not worth dwelling on at this point.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 09:20     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.


Aren’t you a peach. Why didn’t you deliver it yesterday?


Why I wanted her to enjoy her day of course... it’s better to strike when they have a false sense that they got away with it.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 08:43     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
Anonymous wrote:One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.


Aren’t you a peach. Why didn’t you deliver it yesterday?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 07:28     Subject: Re:Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?
One sweet post-Mother’s Day Ashley Madison whore 4 years ago (and carried it on four years) is getting a sweet, sweet Mother’s Day gift from me this week—-or at least her husband is when I hand him all the evidence he needs for child custody and divorce and he can see what his wife had been up to in his bed.