Anonymous wrote:
I think Kate is being a little harsh with Toby. He's entitled to his feelings too, and I imagine the reality of having a special needs baby is something that everyone handles differently. It's awesome to see Kate find her strength but Toby isn't there yet. Given his history of depression, it's not surprising either. She overreacted when he said he "wanted" to be that kind of husband and father, which seemed like an honest answer to me. And when he was excited about Jack seeing the lights and did a bunch of research, she was all over him about being realistic. He was pleading with her to let him have a little bit of hope for one night, and that wasn't ok with her. It just seems like she's trying to control everything as it relates to him.
Toby's idea of hope is hoping that his son isn't "less than" in Toby's eyes. Toby wants to watch movies with Jack? FUN FACT: blind people go to the movies, too. There's even a bit of the retreat when one of the speakers talks about narration for TV and movies.
I did think he might be starting to get on board when he wanted to take care of Jack for the weekend. But right now, his attitude irritates me.