Anonymous
Post 11/17/2016 06:33     Subject: Re:This Is Us
As a fat person with an adopted AA child I love this show still. I can relate it it on so many levels. With Kate I see her struggle like i do, Its not something to gloss over, its part of daily like and it consumes you. The issues with Randall as a child also hit home because its so personal for us for our DD. Im thinking next week is when he finds out that his Mom kept the info about his Dad from him , thats going to be a tear jerker for me.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2016 00:42     Subject: This Is Us
Yea it's getting boring
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 22:03     Subject: This Is Us
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Anonymous wrote:Also they are not showing any really undignified face-stuffing, which happens when you binge. They are glossing over it - you see the empty packets in Toby's house. He delicately consumes his giant ice cream at the restaurant and Kate nibbles her tiny cookie.

Er, no sorry - there would be speed and gorging and MESS.



I think the writers have not experienced true binge eating. Since this is Kate's main story line, would have resonated more if they got it right.


Or they have, but don't want viewers to switch to watching something else
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 21:43     Subject: This Is Us
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I understand that but it is boring to watch.


I don't think it's boring. I think her facial expressions are amazing to watch, she conveys so much without talking.

I also think it's part of a really interesting larger arc--these three kids all raised in the same house, but all turning out so differently. How much is genetic, how much is parental/societal expectation. How did it affect their relationships with mom and dad.

Also, and I'm not sure why, but I do love Jami Gertz and hope the Marin character continues to show up.


Thank you!!! I recognized her but couldn't place the name and can't remember what else I've seen her in.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 21:42     Subject: This Is Us
Anonymous wrote:Also they are not showing any really undignified face-stuffing, which happens when you binge. They are glossing over it - you see the empty packets in Toby's house. He delicately consumes his giant ice cream at the restaurant and Kate nibbles her tiny cookie.

Er, no sorry - there would be speed and gorging and MESS.



I think the writers have not experienced true binge eating. Since this is Kate's main story line, would have resonated more if they got it right.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 21:35     Subject: This Is Us
Anonymous wrote:I actually thought teenage Kate was thinner than child Kate and, what I would imagine Kate having to look like to become so obese by the time she was 30.

I wish Kevin had apologized to Randall about not claiming him as a brother earlier.

I didn't get the metaphor of the washing machine...at all. Was it just that Rebecca is starting to become unhappy with her lot and that their marriage is unraveling?


I see Kevin more and more as emotionally unavailable. He walks away in the middle.

Here was my take on the washing machine. If you go in chronological order, they started with that hope and promise at the laundromat. It takes a while to get there... Now they are there. I think she appreciates that DH (is it Jack?) had worked so hard to get there....but....its just a washer. Sure, it's the "greatest one in the world" but really? She's thinking, all washers aren't the greatest. And even if it is, is that enough? The hope and promise are done, and maybe "done done," if he doesn't step up. If there's no more promise/hope forthcoming.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 20:31     Subject: Re:This Is Us
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Anonymous wrote:I love that this show is tackling racial issues. Randall picking a pool that he knows more black people go to because even at 8 years-old he understands that he's different and wants to be around people that look like him. I'm glad that the mother put her ego aside and asked for help from the black woman.


That black woman at the pool was such a snot to Rebecca. Why did she feel the need to humiliate Rebecca, simply because Rebecca was the white adoptive mom of a black child? She could have kindly offered advice re: the rash on Randall's neck, but instead she chose to loudly patronize Rebecca simply because Rebecca hadn't run right over to the black families and introduced Randall. WTF? I was really glad Rebecca went back and schooled that know-it-all.

Of course, we know they'll become friends regardless, but the whole scene made me mad.


I agree. It was over the top. I don't like the idea that someone who is selflessly raising another person's child being ridiculed over something like the child's hair.


I disagree - she was angry because they've been to the pool several times - the family never said hello and she's actively kept her child from "that side of the pool." The rash on the neck was just her way of saying look you can't do this white girl on your own. I can help but you're to blind to see it so F you.


Oh please. So now we're supposed to find others who look like us and make a point to introduce ourselves? How ridiculous. If that's the case, then why couldn't the black mother have come on over and introduced herself and her son to Rebecca, Randall, and family.

That "white girl" was indeed raising Randall on her own (with her white husband, Jack), and doing an excellent job of it. They didn't know they had to use a black barber to prevent the rash on Randall's neck, but other than that, they seem to be raising great kids - regardless of their race.

And BTW - just how many black adoptive parents of white children do we see? Yeah, not many.
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Considering how common it is for mothers to stress about minor things, I'm glad this character got over her initial reaction and turned around to make an ally. I don't think that's the most important aspect of that scene.

As for black parents adopting white kids as moral barometer - whut?


The point is, at least there are plenty of white parents eager and willing to adopt AA kids, regardless of racist attitudes like the PP's.


Speaking of racist attitudes, I highly doubt black parents would have been allowed to adopt a white kid.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 15:01     Subject: This Is Us
Anonymous wrote:I actually thought teenage Kate was thinner than child Kate and, what I would imagine Kate having to look like to become so obese by the time she was 30.

I wish Kevin had apologized to Randall about not claiming him as a brother earlier.

I didn't get the metaphor of the washing machine...at all. Was it just that Rebecca is starting to become unhappy with her lot and that their marriage is unraveling?


It was very clumsy writing. A symbol of domesticity and a place where she and Jack bonded and probably boned. Please, pass me the frigging buckets already!
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 14:58     Subject: Re:This Is Us
My Dh and I have both cried over every episode so far. We are like, how do they keep doing this?? Either the writing is really good, or we are both hormonal frim having a new baby, hahaha.

I agree some of it is unrealistic, but still gets me every time.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 14:57     Subject: This Is Us
I actually thought teenage Kate was thinner than child Kate and, what I would imagine Kate having to look like to become so obese by the time she was 30.

I wish Kevin had apologized to Randall about not claiming him as a brother earlier.

I didn't get the metaphor of the washing machine...at all. Was it just that Rebecca is starting to become unhappy with her lot and that their marriage is unraveling?
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 14:28     Subject: This Is Us
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Anonymous wrote:The latest episode was so good!! What did you guys think?


I think William is so lovable and perfect that its almost as if he really needs a bad trait (not just prior bad habits) - but they won't give him one because they are showing the "ideal"version of having a long lost father completely unknown to the family, move in and bond with everyone. There's no conflict. The only tension is "when is he going to die" and that's not really enough. Its indulgent.

I also think the eating issues that came up last night are indulgent and they were not devastating enough.


I completely agree. William is like someone straight out of Central Casting - elderly long-lost father, extremely likable and (of course) WISE, kind, good, delightful to be around. Riiiiight. I like his character (who wouldn't?), but find myself suspending belief every time he's on.

The eating issues were also silly. I feel terrible for Kate though, working so hard and eating right, and only losing one pound. Ouch. I still think having gastric bypass would at least give her a fighting chance.

The girl who played the teenage Kate was perfect - looks, mannerisms, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 14:06     Subject: This Is Us
The first 2 episodes were great but...
It's getting too boring and predictable. Kate's fat and her boyfriend looks silly with the fake belly, the brothers have a sibling rivalry, there are racial storylines because there's a black person as a main cast member, the parents are going to eventually separate and mom marries Miguel, Randall's birth father turns out to be a nice guy that Randall would've liked to have known earlier...then he's going to die.

What am I missing here?
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 11:43     Subject: This Is Us
Anonymous wrote:I am losing interest in the show. It started so great but the relentless focus on Kate's fat storyline is so very boring. Again, I don't care if it is realistic. It is not interesting for television. I may give it 2 more episodes then drop it.


+1 this is me. its slowed down considerably. i will keep at it a couple more.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 11:18     Subject: This Is Us
I am losing interest in the show. It started so great but the relentless focus on Kate's fat storyline is so very boring. Again, I don't care if it is realistic. It is not interesting for television. I may give it 2 more episodes then drop it.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2016 10:56     Subject: This Is Us
Yeah, starting to slow down a little. I liked the Randall and Kevin scenes, but holy hell, enough with Kate and her being fat. She's become unbelievably one-dimensional. I get what people are saying that when you're in her shoes it's all you think about, blah blah blah, but this is a television show, and it's boring.