Anonymous wrote:Four kids here, all ages 13+, and just once.

My DD was sent for a dress code violation. She was wearing a tank top with a cardigan over it, however, while doing a test with a lot of writing, the cardigan kept slipping off one shoulder, exposing her tank straps & (forbidden) bra straps.

I was irate when she told me about it later that evening. Neither she nor I were clear on why she had to go to the office as the SOP in that situation is to have the kid put on a hoodie or jacket or, I don't know, ask her to BUTTON up her cardigan. But no, instead her teacher sent her to the office to meet with her classes Dean because he had observed it slip off multiple times. She then missed the remainder of her test and was told she couldn't finish, which meant a lower grade. I went in the next morning and demanded a meeting with the Dean, Principal, and that asshat of a teacher. She was allowed to finish her test and not given any penalized grade.

You did what?

They tried scaring her straight. Well, you showed them.

Your poor kids. What an example. Not backing up the teacher, not teaching respect or showing respect.

Four kids here, all ages 13+, and just once.

My DD was sent for a dress code violation. She was wearing a tank top with a cardigan over it, however, while doing a test with a lot of writing, the cardigan kept slipping off one shoulder, exposing her tank straps & (forbidden) bra straps.

I was irate when she told me about it later that evening. Neither she nor I were clear on why she had to go to the office as the SOP in that situation is to have the kid put on a hoodie or jacket or, I don't know, ask her to BUTTON up her cardigan. But no, instead her teacher sent her to the office to meet with her classes Dean because he had observed it slip off multiple times. She then missed the remainder of her test and was told she couldn't finish, which meant a lower grade. I went in the next morning and demanded a meeting with the Dean, Principal, and that asshat of a teacher. She was allowed to finish her test and not given any penalized grade.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids- never. Well behaved and respectful. (we have gotten it home about too much talking). A kid in one of their classes often goes. It’s usually the kids with poor impulse control. They refuse to follow the rules, disrespectful to the teacher, spit, kick kids, use profanity, etc.

How do you manage to raise such well behaved kids? Not a sarcastic question.

Genetics.

Never. And my kids are wild boys, admittedly not particularly well behaved. The only kid I know who has been sent regularly was very violent with other kids.

typical kid? never

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Anonymous wrote:One of mine - never.

The other one - all the time.

LOL same. My oldest, never, middle child constantly. Birth order is real.

Same here. The one without ADHD is the one who had the most behavior issues at school. Nothing malicious, just annoying and disruptive. An almost weekly flow of phone calls from his teacher starts normally around February/March. It has gotten better as he got older and learned that the world doesn't revolve around him and what he wants to do.

My 8th grader has never been in the office. My 7th grader has (so far) had one visit per division at our K-12 school and all were pretty minor and used as learning experiences. In Kindergarten he and a friend decided to cut each other's hair. In 3rd grade he and a friend were messing around and the very pregnant teacher sent them, the principal didn't seem to think it was a big deal. In 6th grade he and a friend got in trouble for posting poll questions on TEAMS that were probably not the best but not completely inappropriate either. There have been times where the school has notified parents of behavior that affected multiple children in the grade and in none of those instances were our children involved as either perpetrator or victim.

My kids in elementary and middle school have never been sent to the office. I also never went to the office during my entire childhood.

One of mine got sent several times. It was hard for my DC and for me.

DC has ADHD, which we were able to help them get the right supports for. Since then, no more visits.

I think it’s fairly rare. We have lots of friends at our school and when I discreetly asked around, no one else’s kid had been sent to the office, even the ones I would have considered more “highe energy” than my DC. That was a wake up call that we needed to get professional help, and it still took another year to figure out a system that worked for my DC. Very tough year.