I help my teens make lunch and chat with them before school. I cherish it and could never sleep through it!

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Anonymous wrote:My new HS still wants to be driven to school. I will indulge him w breakfast and a drive. There will be plenty of time after college starts. Trying to accept it all.

And high school starts so early. Bell rings at 7:40. Painful.

And busses are so whack, that they might get picked up 630 for a 740 bell. that extra 30-45 minute of sleep is too important. we drive too

Anonymous wrote:My new HS still wants to be driven to school. I will indulge him w breakfast and a drive. There will be plenty of time after college starts. Trying to accept it all.

And high school starts so early. Bell rings at 7:40. Painful.

My new HS still wants to be driven to school. I will indulge him w breakfast and a drive. There will be plenty of time after college starts. Trying to accept it all.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he preventing you from getting up? Just get up but I wouldn’t expect or insist that husband gets up too.

Of course I can get up. I just wish he’d invest some emotional capital in the kids once in awhile. He only gets involved and shows up when they play his favorite sport. Otherwise he only comes down and engages with anyone at home is when he gets dinner (even if I’m not home).

You are married to a narcissist. I have one in my home as well. Sorry, it really sucks.

Anonymous wrote:The bus gets to our house at 6:30am. I'm certainly not sleeping late, but there is no reason for me to be up at 6 or earlier with my 15 year old daughter. Of course we were up and available this morning. I don't have to be online for work until 8am. She's fully capable and responsible for herself at this age. She doesn't want me there to make breakfast, lunches, or even talk beyond a quick, "good morning".

My kids make their own lunches too. They also do their own laundry. My youngest is a newly minted 12yo heading to 7th grade. Both the 7th and 8th grader wanted me up, and were disappointed DH didn’t send them off. How do I know? They said as much to both of us the night before the first day of school.

Honestly, with sports and clubs and friends, sometimes it feels like the hour between 6:00AM and 7:00AM is the only true dedicated family time.

I'm a Dad, and I WFH. So I guess I could sleep in until 8.

But I'd rather get-up, see my son, have a cup of coffee, eat breakfast with him, give him a hug & kiss, and tell him to have a great day.

Not that all Dads have to do this, but I would certainly miss giving him his morning every day. Especially as he gets older, there's a chance he might not want me to hug and kiss every day. So I'll take every chance I can get

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Anonymous wrote:
1. Practical: do they NEED you? Mine does.

2. Emotional: do they WANT you? Mine does.

Your husband is one of those unfeeling brutes. When my husband behaves like this, I tell him to watch out - his kids won't want to visit him in his old age!

Yep. OP do you tell him this?

Yes. Many times. He thinks that’s ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:This is the saddest thread I’ve read in a long time. I got up with my kids every morning through their senior years in high school. Did they need me? No. I’m fairly certain my 17 year olds were capable of leaving for school without me. But, we ate breakfast together, talked about the upcoming day, and just spent time together. You set the tone for your kid’s entire day when you show them that you care enough to get up and spend time with them.

How incredibly lazy are you people? My kids are grown and I’m still never in bed past about 6:30.

+1……except for the last sentence. I am never up at 6:30 anymore.

Anonymous wrote:This is the saddest thread I’ve read in a long time. I got up with my kids every morning through their senior years in high school. Did they need me? No. I’m fairly certain my 17 year olds were capable of leaving for school without me. But, we ate breakfast together, talked about the upcoming day, and just spent time together. You set the tone for your kid’s entire day when you show them that you care enough to get up and spend time with them.

How incredibly lazy are you people? My kids are grown and I’m still never in bed past about 6:30.

Sleeping past 6:30 doesn't make a person lazy, nor does it make you a superior person or mother. It's sad that you only see life in shades of black and white.

The bus gets to our house at 6:30am. I'm certainly not sleeping late, but there is no reason for me to be up at 6 or earlier with my 15 year old daughter. Of course we were up and available this morning. I don't have to be online for work until 8am. She's fully capable and responsible for herself at this age. She doesn't want me there to make breakfast, lunches, or even talk beyond a quick, "good morning".

We all have breakfast together (only 10 minutes, but still, it sets a positive tone for the day) and need to get ready for work while they get ready for school, so why wouldn't we? HS kids, by the way. As a PP wrote, you have a finite number of times you will need to do this. If your DH won't do it, then you do it and know you were present for your kids.

Not necessarily, but I do. They could certainly get themselves ready if I was ill or needed to leave early, and do so occasionally.

I like making them a healthy breakfast (offsets the junky lunch they eat LOL)

I guess I just don’t see what else I would be doing...it would seem weird to sleep late on weekday...not something I would do unless I was sick.

Anonymous wrote:First day for sure. Beyond that not necessary, but still a nice moment to see one another.

+1 fwiw, I never saw my parents in the a.m. when I was in middle school. For HS I saw my dad because he drove us to school (later start time than MS) but mom is not a morning person. I never felt neglected by that.

No, both of us have to leave early for work.

But if we could stay home, it would be nice to have breakfast and say bye at least on the first day.