Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 22:14     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with someone striking up a conversation in an appropriate setting. But if I’m clearly busy, or you’re just giving me a compliment or asking for my number, it’s obnoxious.

Example: having a conversation while we’re at the dog park is fine. Chasing me down while I’m out walking my dog is not.

Basically, I want to know you’re interested because of who I am, not what I look like.


+1

If someone is just hitting on me right from the start, I make two assumptions. 1) He is only hitting on me because of something superficial 2) He probably hits on everyone who he thinks is decent looking which is a pretty big turn off for me


+1

I don't do flirting, for this reason. Don't want someone who wants just anyone.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 21:34     Subject: Re:Women do you want to be approached?
"playing with your phone"? once you throw that in, theres basically no time left in which it would be appropriate for you to be approached. is it really so bad to occasionally have to make small talk for a minute or two and then cue that you're not interested in further conversation and go back to what you were doing?
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 20:37     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:While I'm clearly engrossed in a book or work?


Depends on where you are when you're reading or working, right? If you're sitting in a cafe reading a book or working, I think that's fair game. If you don't want to be bothered, you could easily do the same thing at home. Probably same goes for a park bench. But I'd be more cautious if you're reading on the subway or bus. Basically, even if you're doing something solitary, if you're voluntarily doing it in a place with a lot of people, I think you're saying you're open for socializing.


No. If I am engrossed in a book, working on my laptop, listening to music, playing with my phone, I do not want to talk to you. I will be polite about it, but I promise you I [used to] go to cafes because I like the food and the background noise, not because I wanted to interact with other humans. I go to parks to see flowers and grass, not be talked at. If you say something to someone and they answer briefly and go back to what they were doing, please just leave them alone.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 20:32     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:While I'm clearly engrossed in a book or work?


Depends on where you are when you're reading or working, right? If you're sitting in a cafe reading a book or working, I think that's fair game. If you don't want to be bothered, you could easily do the same thing at home. Probably same goes for a park bench. But I'd be more cautious if you're reading on the subway or bus. Basically, even if you're doing something solitary, if you're voluntarily doing it in a place with a lot of people, I think you're saying you're open for socializing.


Wrong,pp! Are you saying we aren't allowed to read in a public place and not expect to be bothered? That is outrageous. Women are free to read a book in public and not be forced to stay at home.

You are the worst.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 20:15     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Are you short, fat, or bald… no.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 19:33     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.


Ugh you got me. Men only want one thing (proofreading) and it’s SICK!


My man gets SO turned on when I start talking homophones in bed. You should see what he does when I start spelling out they’re, their, and there.


I was once engaged but I wrote were instead of we’re in a text. He sent back “*we’re” and I never heard from him again.


Love this.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 19:15     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.


Ugh you got me. Men only want one thing (proofreading) and it’s SICK!


My man gets SO turned on when I start talking homophones in bed. You should see what he does when I start spelling out they’re, their, and there.


I was once engaged but I wrote were instead of we’re in a text. He sent back “*we’re” and I never heard from him again.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 18:58     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.


Ugh you got me. Men only want one thing (proofreading) and it’s SICK!


My man gets SO turned on when I start talking homophones in bed. You should see what he does when I start spelling out they’re, their, and there.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 18:51     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.


Why is single an insult? I have a lot more respect for tinder guys than ashley madison.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 17:02     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.


Ugh you got me. Men only want one thing (proofreading) and it’s SICK!
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 16:57     Subject: Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:It so depends on the situation and the way you do it. If your at a bar or social event and you just come up to chat and the conversation flows well it can work out. Sneaking up behind me at a grocery store to tell me how “strikingly beautiful” I am? Not interested.


It's “you’re”

No wonder you’re single.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 16:11     Subject: Re:Women do you want to be approached?
No. I am in my 30s too, and no. I don’t want to be approached on a bus, plane, train, at the park, doing errands, at dinner, any of it.

The only place I think it can be appropriate is at a bar if you are not interrupting and if you take no as no.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 15:56     Subject: Re:Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I’m happily married and you’d be wasting your time but if you’re good looking you can feed my ego for a few minutes. If you’re a creep please stay far away.


Exhibit A for the "Hot? Oh yes. Not? Creep!" argument.


But this is someone who is, very clearly, not interested in dating. I think you’d be doing OP a disservice by telling him that, no matter how polite and kind and interesting he is, if he’s not completely gorgeous, single women will automatically think he’s a creep. This is just not true. Unless he is truly unattractive and is only approaching bathing suit models I think he could definitely have good luck meeting women in public.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 15:49     Subject: Re:Women do you want to be approached?
Anonymous wrote:No, I’m happily married and you’d be wasting your time but if you’re good looking you can feed my ego for a few minutes. If you’re a creep please stay far away.


Exhibit A for the "Hot? Oh yes. Not? Creep!" argument.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2021 15:47     Subject: Re:Women do you want to be approached?
No, I’m happily married and you’d be wasting your time but if you’re good looking you can feed my ego for a few minutes. If you’re a creep please stay far away.