Anonymous wrote:I would never marry someone whose family lives far away, even within the US. Who wants to spend a lot of money and PTO visiting their inlaws? Or be pressured to move back there (I know this is not OP’s case.) No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is married to an immigrant who prefers (understatement) her home country of Scotland. I would move back in a heartbeat.

+1. There is nothing about this country that’s better than Scotland in my opinion. I’m American and I’d move there if I could too.

My DD graduated from the University of Edinburg. She also dreams about moving back. Scotland is a magical place.

If you're white. I spent my childhood there. I know.

There's a whole continent for you just a bit under Scotland.

Move or quit whinning.

Anonymous wrote:I would never marry someone whose family lives far away, even within the US. Who wants to spend a lot of money and PTO visiting their inlaws? Or be pressured to move back there (I know this is not OP’s case.) No thanks.

Anonymous wrote:i anticipated this well-worn out question and already wrote that i have, in fact, moved back. and i know several other people in my circle who also moved back, or are seriously considering it, or nominally still live in the US but spend months at a time "working from home" from abroad.

Anonymous wrote:I would never marry someone whose family lives far away, even within the US. Who wants to spend a lot of money and PTO visiting their inlaws? Or be pressured to move back there (I know this is not OP’s case.) No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:My stepmother is like this, and it’s exhausting. Every visit, she drones on and on about how everything is better in her country. It’s been going on for 10 years and I don’t want to spend time with her anymore.

The vast majority of Americans live near family and friends. If you feel isolated here, it is because you made the choice to move here and isolate yourself. America is not a uniquely disconnected place. It only feels disconnected to you because of your circumstances.

Um, what? The vast majority of my college friends live far from family. It would help if you got out more. Americans are depressed because we don't have close friendships or functional relationships with our families.

Anonymous wrote:My stepmother is like this, and it’s exhausting. Every visit, she drones on and on about how everything is better in her country. It’s been going on for 10 years and I don’t want to spend time with her anymore.

The vast majority of Americans live near family and friends. If you feel isolated here, it is because you made the choice to move here and isolate yourself. America is not a uniquely disconnected place. It only feels disconnected to you because of your circumstances.

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Anonymous wrote:so much patronizing. "it's in his head" "he is missing his childhood" yada yada. does it ever occur to you people that there is some other place in this world that actually provides better quality of life, all things considered?

i am an immigrant and so is my husband. oner of the relatively poorer european countries. i have lived in the US for 20+ years and here is the thing - the life is now actually better in our old country. this is not in my head, i am not imagining that i will be a child again eating my mom's meals and playing with my childhood friends. actual americans (with no prior connections) are moving there and marveling at the quality of life.

the US has grown stagnant while many countries in the world have moved forward. many advantages of living in the US do not hold anymore, for many reasons. and since you are going to ask - yes, i have in fact gone back. to a leisurely pace of life where all neighborhoods are walkable, there is almost no crime, and i can send kids to the nearest school where they will be taught rigorous programs for free.

The vast majority of posters agreed with OP’s husband.

What’s stopping you from returning to your utopia?

Anonymous wrote:so much patronizing. "it's in his head" "he is missing his childhood" yada yada. does it ever occur to you people that there is some other place in this world that actually provides better quality of life, all things considered?

i am an immigrant and so is my husband. oner of the relatively poorer european countries. i have lived in the US for 20+ years and here is the thing - the life is now actually better in our old country. this is not in my head, i am not imagining that i will be a child again eating my mom's meals and playing with my childhood friends. actual americans (with no prior connections) are moving there and marveling at the quality of life.

the US has grown stagnant while many countries in the world have moved forward. many advantages of living in the US do not hold anymore, for many reasons. and since you are going to ask - yes, i have in fact gone back. to a leisurely pace of life where all neighborhoods are walkable, there is almost no crime, and i can send kids to the nearest school where they will be taught rigorous programs for free.