Anonymous
07/16/2021 20:17
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My sister started dating a guy and when my mom heard his last name, she asked what his parents' names were. Turns out our grandma was his grandpa's cousin (no clue what that makes them). It was on my dad's side of the family and we never knew any of the extended family on his side. They were freaked out and broke up, but ended up getting back together for a little while. They broke up later but not because of that. I thought it was funny because I liked teasing her about dating her cousin, but honestly, I didn't think it was that big of a deal.
They were third cousins, since they had a common great grandparent.
No, they don't. PP's great grandparent and that guy's great grandparent were siblings--because their grandparents were cousins. It makes PP's sister and the guy "3rd cousins twice removed" according to that chart.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 20:06
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who wouldn't know a third cousin? I don't even know of any of my second cousins. I'm vaguely aware that my parents are in some general form of Christmas-card contact with some of their cousins, but I don't have the slightest idea who they are.
I don’t know my third cousins at all. For all I know I dated one. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm Asian; spouse is European. I always joke that at least we know we aren't remotely distantly related.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 20:03
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
In my family we have a name for third cousins: "strangers." It's fine but I wouldn't tell people if I were you.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 19:59
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
How do you know that this person is your third cousin?
Anonymous
07/16/2021 19:55
Subject: Re:Sleeping with a relative..
Ew. There are billions of other people to choose from. Aim higher, OP.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 19:17
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:My sister started dating a guy and when my mom heard his last name, she asked what his parents' names were. Turns out our grandma was his grandpa's cousin (no clue what that makes them). It was on my dad's side of the family and we never knew any of the extended family on his side. They were freaked out and broke up, but ended up getting back together for a little while. They broke up later but not because of that. I thought it was funny because I liked teasing her about dating her cousin, but honestly, I didn't think it was that big of a deal.
They were third cousins, since they had a common great grandparent.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 19:12
Subject: Re:Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:OP here - 3rd cousin
If you were raised together, then no, it's not ok.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 19:10
Subject: Re:Sleeping with a relative..
I don’t know any of my third cousins. I think it’s fine.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 18:58
Subject: Re:Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:Show us on the chart where both of you are and we'll tell you if it's ok:
This chart is so helpful!
Anonymous
07/16/2021 18:52
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
As long as you're not going to have kids, who cares?
Anonymous
07/16/2021 17:44
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
What the fuuuuuuyy god no! My eyes! Why did I read this? I thought like step cousin from a step parent or something like that not shared blood!
Anonymous
07/16/2021 17:25
Subject: Re:Sleeping with a relative..
Anonymous wrote:In some cultures, there’s no distinction between first, second, third cousins. In other cultures, people not only can’t name their third cousins, but can’t even explain how third cousins are related. If you and your third cousin both feel comfortable having a romantic relationship, then it’s fine, but that would be the worst if you came onto him and he was like, “We’re related! What the hell is wrong with you?!”
https://www.familysearch.org/blog/en/cousin-chart/
Anonymous
07/16/2021 17:22
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
My great grandparents were dead long before I was born and their siblings would be in other countries as far as I know. You are fortunate to have such a large extended family but I don't think it's worth the scandal.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 17:19
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
It’s totally fine. Even if you had kids, the chances of a genetic issue are extremely rare. Plenty of cultures do this on purpose.
Anonymous
07/16/2021 17:15
Subject: Sleeping with a relative..
I know a ton of my 2nd and 3rd cousins. GAG.