Anonymous wrote:My sister is a SAHM and has a full time nanny and maid who comes in every week to clean the house. She gets someone to cook 2-3 times a week also!

She is quite beautiful and she spends hours working out and taking good care of her looks.

I always envy her when we visit them.

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to attract a man. It's another thing entirely to make him stay.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

How big is your house that you need a live in housekeeper?

Anonymous wrote:So, some takeaway's from this thread:
-I am overweight and therefore not petite, pretty or dainty
-If you are perfect, then you get to SAHM with a wealthy husband who does everything for you or outsources all of the not-so-fun stuff in life and gets you lots of pretty things or vacations
-Attractiveness is directly related to a happy life or high earning families

My tidbit: I am overweight but still attractive, have an awesome DH who shares the work and the fun, we go to awesome vacations, and he loves spoiling me by getting things that I want for my hobbies like cameras, spyware and blinds for birding or kitchen gadgets like mixer attachments. Or, a nice Porsche Cayenne that I wanted. So, just because I am not this 100# sex kitten VS model does not mean that I am not deserving of a nice lifestyle as well.

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

Anonymous wrote:So, some takeaway's from this thread:
-I am overweight and therefore not petite, pretty or dainty
-If you are perfect, then you get to SAHM with a wealthy husband who does everything for you or outsources all of the not-so-fun stuff in life and gets you lots of pretty things or vacations
-Attractiveness is directly related to a happy life or high earning families

My tidbit: I am overweight but still attractive, have an awesome DH who shares the work and the fun, we go to awesome vacations, and he loves spoiling me by getting things that I want for my hobbies like cameras, spyware and blinds for birding or kitchen gadgets like mixer attachments. Or, a nice Porsche Cayenne that I wanted. So, just because I am not this 100# sex kitten VS model does not mean that I am not deserving of a nice lifestyle as well.

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

Anonymous wrote:As someone who enjoys being fairly low maintenance/minimalist I find this thread fascinating. The concept of being “spoiled” by a man is strange to me as I’m an attorney who makes good money and can buy what I want. But I definitely think there is a dynamic out there if men who enjoy the power of buying things for a beautiful woman. So I would say yes that being “high maintenance” can be a turn on for men. I think those men are probably fairly status conscious though, which is not something I find attractive. Middle age men revving up their sports cars and wearing flashy displays of wealth is so cheesy to me. I prefer being more of the millionaire next door type of family.

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.