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Anonymous wrote:Instead of obsessing over your son’s size, you should reassure him that he is worthy regardless of how tall he is.

There is always this poster.

Physical development can be (usually is but maybe not always) very important to boys that age. It's more than just height. There can be emotional and psychological side effects to delayed puberty that no parental assurance can make go away. Boys are more likely than girls to feel psychological stress from later puberty. Don't pretend their stress is nothing.

That boy is more likely to be stressed if those around him associate his height with his self-worth.

Yeah, like himself and his peers. Not his mom. This isn't a parent-led issue.

You think parent perceptions of their kids don’t affect the kids’ wellbeing? Seriously?

You are completely discounting the kid himself and his ability to feel his own feelings for himself. My perception of my late to puberty kid? He's beautiful and awesome, just like he's always been. His perception of himself is completely different.

Op may be long gone but I’ll chime in. We noticed a huge drop off the curve over a few years between about 10-13, from 70 to 50 to 8 percent in height and even less in weight. I had to really push for testing because everyone said “oh boys can shoot up later.” Eventually after other inconclusive tests )blood and bone scan) we had growth hormone challenge and at 13.5 he was diagnosed with idiopathic growth hormone deficiency. Is now on treatment and has grown 2.5 inches in the past year so is about 5’2, maybe 5’3” now ” (at 14.5). He is also putting on weight finally…..he was soooo skinny and ate like a bird. Like would go the entire day without eating.

Anonymous wrote:As the title says, my son is 13&1/2 years old, he still doesn’t have growth spurt. For example, he is not that tall, barely grew an inch taller last year, no change in voice (manly) etc. Should I be worried?

Kid younger than him is now taller than him plus a change in voice.

Please tell me I am overthinking!!

You are not overthinking it. Your son may need to see a pediatric endocrinologist. Talk to your pediatrician about your concerns.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of obsessing over your son’s size, you should reassure him that he is worthy regardless of how tall he is.

There is always this poster.

Physical development can be (usually is but maybe not always) very important to boys that age. It's more than just height. There can be emotional and psychological side effects to delayed puberty that no parental assurance can make go away. Boys are more likely than girls to feel psychological stress from later puberty. Don't pretend their stress is nothing.

That boy is more likely to be stressed if those around him associate his height with his self-worth.

Yeah, like himself and his peers. Not his mom. This isn't a parent-led issue.

You think parent perceptions of their kids don’t affect the kids’ wellbeing? Seriously?

Maybe try this simple change? And possibly schedule a consult with an endo? What is family history re: puberty?

Anonymous wrote:Well my son is 14.5 and no growth spurt. He’s 5’4” an entire foot shorter than his dad and six inches shorter than his mom.

Well I think he can at least be pretty confident that he will end up at least somewhat tall given his parents' heights.

My 14 year old is probably 5'1" ... maaaaybe 5'2". It is really hard for him but it is what it is.

I assumed some kids don’t have that stereotypical growth spurt - they just grow steadily.

My son turned 14 a month ago and there are boys of all heights in 8th grade. Some are well over 6 feet and shaving and some are well under 5 feet and look like 3rd graders (DS has both kinds in his friend group and the size disparity is something else).

My 10th grader says some there are some boys in high school who are around her height, which is 5’1”.

FWIW, I don’t think my son has had one of those grow 8” in a year growth spurts. He’s a steady kind of guy. His good buddy, however, did and had the stretch marks to show for it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of obsessing over your son’s size, you should reassure him that he is worthy regardless of how tall he is.

There is always this poster.

Physical development can be (usually is but maybe not always) very important to boys that age. It's more than just height. There can be emotional and psychological side effects to delayed puberty that no parental assurance can make go away. Boys are more likely than girls to feel psychological stress from later puberty. Don't pretend their stress is nothing.

That boy is more likely to be stressed if those around him associate his height with his self-worth.

Yeah, like himself and his peers. Not his mom. This isn't a parent-led issue.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH was super short until he was a Sophomore in HS. His nickname was shorty. He is now 6'2. He had a super late growth spurt. I think it just happens to some kids.

This is unusual. Most short kids aren’t suddenly in the 90%tile. They have late growth spurts but usually stay around their curve.

Not true for boys. Plenty of examples in my daily and my husbands of boys that are average to smaller which ended up at 6’3” as adults and their friends who were early through puberty which stopped growing at 5’9”

My son was early through puberty and ended up 6-5. He was born long, grew up tall, and stayed tall.

These posts are really just kind of pointless. It's all normal variation, both in timing of puberty and height bell curves. MOST boys (not all) go through puberty and are done growing in height by 15. Some boys grow late. The kid will be how tall they're meant to be and it's most likely going based on parental height. If you're tall, your kid will probably get there. If you and your partner are short, probably not going to have the growth spurt at 18 to get them to 6-3.

Well my son is 14.5 and no growth spurt. He’s 5’4” an entire foot shorter than his dad and six inches shorter than his mom.

Anonymous wrote:Overthinking. DS was a late bloomer. Didn’t hit full blown puberty until 16. He’s now almost 6’5” and still appears to be growing. He’s 17 1/2.

How tall was he at 13/14?

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Anonymous wrote:My DH was super short until he was a Sophomore in HS. His nickname was shorty. He is now 6'2. He had a super late growth spurt. I think it just happens to some kids.

This is unusual. Most short kids aren’t suddenly in the 90%tile. They have late growth spurts but usually stay around their curve.

Not true for boys. Plenty of examples in my daily and my husbands of boys that are average to smaller which ended up at 6’3” as adults and their friends who were early through puberty which stopped growing at 5’9”

Overthinking. DS was a late bloomer. Didn’t hit full blown puberty until 16. He’s now almost 6’5” and still appears to be growing. He’s 17 1/2.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of obsessing over your son’s size, you should reassure him that he is worthy regardless of how tall he is.

There is always this poster.

Physical development can be (usually is but maybe not always) very important to boys that age. It's more than just height. There can be emotional and psychological side effects to delayed puberty that no parental assurance can make go away. Boys are more likely than girls to feel psychological stress from later puberty. Don't pretend their stress is nothing.

That boy is more likely to be stressed if those around him associate his height with his self-worth.

Anonymous wrote:Instead of obsessing over your son’s size, you should reassure him that he is worthy regardless of how tall he is.

There is always this poster.

Physical development can be (usually is but maybe not always) very important to boys that age. It's more than just height. There can be emotional and psychological side effects to delayed puberty that no parental assurance can make go away. Boys are more likely than girls to feel psychological stress from later puberty. Don't pretend their stress is nothing.