My SIL is who comes to mind for me. Married to someone making around 200k, quit work as soon as dc was born, and wants to be f/t SAHM even though child is a teen and is quite independent.

Child is sent to camp for most of summer, is in school during the school year and then in activities all weekend that BIL takes her to.

SIL has house cleaners and doesn't cook (they eat in restaurants or buy prepared meals). She spends her time watching real housewives-type television, and shopping. She buys high end purses and shoes that I don't know how they can afford, and leases a new Mercedes every other year.

She had a wedding that cost 100k+ and the wedding photo on display in her and her parents' house is of the bride and her nuclear family without the husband because that's the one she and her mom looked the best in.

She comes off as life of the party and is everybody's close friend as soon as she meets them.

Me. Except I am not lazy, but have ADHD. It’s the same result though.

My SIL’s wife is a narcissistic mooch. She got an undergraduate and master’s degrees on mommy and daddy’s dime, and pretends to be a “writer.” She hasn’t published anything since her MFA days.

My SIL works hard, long hours, brings home decent money. SIL does nothing and contributes nothing. The kids are in daycare, and she “writes” all day. She brings in no income. She doesn’t even write freelance articles or edit technical guides or any of the other things that enterprising writers do on the side while they work on novels or what have you.

And then she smugly talks about how She is A Creative and how she could nevvver have an offffice job because it would crushhhhh her soulllll. STFU.

I nannied for this family for 2 years-

The Dad worked 60+ hour weeks, the mom hadn't worked since they got married 15 years ago. She was a "stay at home wife" for 14 years until they had one infant to which I was the full time nanny. She didn't know how to cook (I literally taught her how to use the oven) and they had bi-weekly cleaners. She went to hot yoga 3x a week and it exhausted her. Her husband was so kind, loving, and genuine I never understood it. He'd walk in from work and immediately get on the ground with the baby and romp around once baby was a toddler. He handled all baths and bedtimes. Sadly, he lost his job at the start of the pandemic and they had to sell their mcmansion and move into a tiny condo. I've been wondering if he's resentful that she hadn't worked in 15+ years while doing nothing. Even if she had made $40k a year, they'd have had much more cushion. Also- why did they lose the house so quickly? So many questions.

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Ah. That would be me. I can exert myself to do wonderful things in short bursts, but a regular job? Forget it.

Sounds more like ADHD than laziness.

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Ah. That would be me. I can exert myself to do wonderful things in short bursts, but a regular job? Forget it.

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OP google the definition of “lazy.” Are you actually “*unwilling* to work or use energy?” I bet it doesn’t apply to you.

I know a SAHM who makes her husband do everything and won't drive her kids anywhere, despite their involvement in multiple activities. Plenty of time for girls weekends, winery afternoons, and botox/hair appointments. Runs a faux interior design business which must have some sort of tax incentive for the huge SUV. Like PP's have mentioned, I'm assuming an underlying cause -- low IQ and or addiction issues.

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Anonymous wrote:This person is only 15 so she might turn her life around and really the issue is with how she has been parented and grandparented.

It started with her mom deciding she had special needs simply because she was born by csection and examined by the neonatologist. At least at that hospital, all csection babies are examined by the neonatologist. At any rate, there was never any diagnosis or even follow up. But her mom and grandmother persist with excusing everything as related to her method of birth.

Her family switches her school as soon as she has any social difficulty at all. She always has to be the most popular girl or they think she is being bullied or slighted. Of course, any academic issues are just because she was a csection baby.

She drops out of any activity where there are opportunities for multiple people to shine rather than her being the sole star.

That's weird. Isn't the C-section rate about 1/3 of all babies born in the US? I mean, ridiculously high. So a huge proportion of kids would have problems. How do they reconcile that??

It’s a troll.

It’s a mash up of painful issues in two family members’ lives that are unrelated to each other. PP is mocking them both.

??? bizarre assumption on your part

Anonymous wrote:Spoiled and lazy are different things.
My ex was so lazy he wouldn't bend down to put on his shoes. If he couldn't step into a shoe, he wouldn't go out. He'd simply not eat because he was too lazy to cook. If I cooked for him, and if I asked him to do the dishes (he'd do nothing without being asked), he'd wash the exact items that he used. After awhile, he stopped eating when I cooked because he didn't want to do even that. His idea of sex is lying on his back and telling his partner to hop on.

He wasn't spoiled at all though. Grew up very poor in Latin America and had a rough, traumatic childhood. He's done well financially but is a very angry person.

It's been a while since you posted this, but I don't think OP was saying that they're not.

Also, maybe your ex had some sort of mental health condition like depression? That sounds very unusual. I'm sorry to hear that he had a difficult childhood.

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Anonymous wrote:This person is only 15 so she might turn her life around and really the issue is with how she has been parented and grandparented.

It started with her mom deciding she had special needs simply because she was born by csection and examined by the neonatologist. At least at that hospital, all csection babies are examined by the neonatologist. At any rate, there was never any diagnosis or even follow up. But her mom and grandmother persist with excusing everything as related to her method of birth.

Her family switches her school as soon as she has any social difficulty at all. She always has to be the most popular girl or they think she is being bullied or slighted. Of course, any academic issues are just because she was a csection baby.

She drops out of any activity where there are opportunities for multiple people to shine rather than her being the sole star.

That's weird. Isn't the C-section rate about 1/3 of all babies born in the US? I mean, ridiculously high. So a huge proportion of kids would have problems. How do they reconcile that??

It’s a troll.

It’s a mash up of painful issues in two family members’ lives that are unrelated to each other. PP is mocking them both.

Anonymous wrote:This person is only 15 so she might turn her life around and really the issue is with how she has been parented and grandparented.

It started with her mom deciding she had special needs simply because she was born by csection and examined by the neonatologist. At least at that hospital, all csection babies are examined by the neonatologist. At any rate, there was never any diagnosis or even follow up. But her mom and grandmother persist with excusing everything as related to her method of birth.

Her family switches her school as soon as she has any social difficulty at all. She always has to be the most popular girl or they think she is being bullied or slighted. Of course, any academic issues are just because she was a csection baby.

She drops out of any activity where there are opportunities for multiple people to shine rather than her being the sole star.

That's weird. Isn't the C-section rate about 1/3 of all babies born in the US? I mean, ridiculously high. So a huge proportion of kids would have problems. How do they reconcile that??

This person is only 15 so she might turn her life around and really the issue is with how she has been parented and grandparented.

It started with her mom deciding she had special needs simply because she was born by csection and examined by the neonatologist. At least at that hospital, all csection babies are examined by the neonatologist. At any rate, there was never any diagnosis or even follow up. But her mom and grandmother persist with excusing everything as related to her method of birth.

Her family switches her school as soon as she has any social difficulty at all. She always has to be the most popular girl or they think she is being bullied or slighted. Of course, any academic issues are just because she was a csection baby.

She drops out of any activity where there are opportunities for multiple people to shine rather than her being the sole star.

Anonymous wrote:Only well-off people can be lazy and get away with it. You got to have the money to outsource. Truly blessed. When poors become lazy they get featured on "Hoarders".

Uh, no, poor lazy people are just poorer than they'd be if they weren't lazy.