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Anonymous wrote:I strongly suspect my 7th grade DD’s former friend has BPD or is on her way to a diagnosis. I’ve been trying to put my finger on the word for her behavior towards my daughter all year and keep coming up with gaslighting. But thanks to this thread and going down a wormhole about personality disorders, it’s startling how BPD is a near perfect description.

Just need to get through the rest of this week.

Personality disorders cannot be diagnosed under 18 FYI.

Interesting. And yet other psychiatric diagnosis can occur under 18? I wonder what makes Borderline the exception. That’s tough.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister has borderline personality disorder as well as bipolar depression and Schizotypal personality disorder.

She medicates and it really helps if she stays on top of it. Still struggles and is very difficult to get along with but she manages pretty well. Has a decent job and lives alone. Struggled hard with relationships.

Runs in our family and my uncle was far worse off. Thank God for modern medicine and advancements in mental healthcare

What worked for her? My sister is on disability because of her BPD, can’t hold down jobs, sleeps till noon most days, crying or rage fits over normal life.

There are meds for bipolar 1/2 and schizophrenia. IIRC, I think Borderline Personality Disorder doesn’t have rX options but instead CBT is recommended.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My doctor told me I have a mood disorder

Not a personality disorder. A mood disorder is different.

Anonymous wrote:I dated someone with NPD. It was a nightmare. It took me months to extricate myself from the relationship and I only got out by tricking him into ending it himself. That was about six years ago and he still texts regularly. I'm afraid of what his reaction would be if I block him, so I try to keep thinks brief, civil and cool. He scares me so much that I have a safety deposit box full of incriminating things should he ever kill or hurt a woman who presses charges against him. I know that he has harmed sex workers, but none of them has ever come forward and I can't prove it myself. I'll be relieved when he's dead.

Oh wow.

One of my former best friends was diagnosed with a PD. Had always been really different, but in a fun quirky way.

Got married, had a family and started to stew. The life choices and increased just seemed to Create friction that eventually sent my friend PD Over the edge.

I had started pulling away because the quirky, fun side was disappearing only to be replaced by something very dark. I watched my friend circle the drain and go down the hole.

A year later friend was in jail. Should be getting out soon. Just really a sad situation. Serious Mental issues are no joke. Thing is in the absence of a crystal ball how do you know That a person isn’t going to go completely off the rails in a very bad way. I saw something coming but had no idea just how bad it was going to get.

Yes. My doctor told me I have a mood disorder

Anonymous wrote:I know someone with NPD. Everyone "yes"'s her to stay on her good side, because when she goes into rage mode, she tends to stay there, so her "friends" stay off her radar, and make her believe they are on her "side". Good times.

Is she diagnosed? I knew someone like this but I don't think she was diagnosed. It was very intense and there was basically a personality cult around her because people felt compelled to tell her how great she was and to stroke her ego all the time, but no one actually liked her and would say terrible things about her behind her back. It was confusing for me. Part of the reason I wound up fading out of that group is that I didn't understand why people didn't just stand up to her, or at least just set some basic boundaries.

I still don't get what the pull was with her. They say narcissists are often very charismatic, but I don't think I would describe her that way. It was more like she was very good at manipulating people. Like one of her best skills was knowing exactly when to start acting hurt or left out, and also how to do it in this almost childlike way so you felt maximally sorry for her even though nothing was wrong and no one had done anything to her. Maybe that's a form of charisma? More than anything, she reminded me of my mom (who grew up super Catholic and has the Catholic mom guilt act down pat). I never thought "Oh, she's so cool, I want to hang out with her." I only ever thought "Oh no, what if she is upset with me -- I better do X so she doesn't get mad." It was weird and once I realized it was happening I was out of there.

Anonymous wrote:Not every mental health diagnosis is a personality disorder people. Google is your friend.

Google isn’t your friend, damnit. It’s a spy. Research is your friend. Use different spy research tools.

Anonymous wrote:My sister has borderline personality disorder as well as bipolar depression and Schizotypal personality disorder.

She medicates and it really helps if she stays on top of it. Still struggles and is very difficult to get along with but she manages pretty well. Has a decent job and lives alone. Struggled hard with relationships.

Runs in our family and my uncle was far worse off. Thank God for modern medicine and advancements in mental healthcare

What worked for her? My sister is on disability because of her BPD, can’t hold down jobs, sleeps till noon most days, crying or rage fits over normal life.

Anonymous wrote:I strongly suspect my 7th grade DD’s former friend has BPD or is on her way to a diagnosis. I’ve been trying to put my finger on the word for her behavior towards my daughter all year and keep coming up with gaslighting. But thanks to this thread and going down a wormhole about personality disorders, it’s startling how BPD is a near perfect description.

Just need to get through the rest of this week.

Personality disorders cannot be diagnosed under 18 FYI.

I do know someone but it's more serious and destructive than your dh diagnosis.

This person I know is cluster B personality (NPD) with a sex addiction who holds public office, is still married and has 4 kids.

Not every mental health diagnosis is a personality disorder people. Google is your friend.

Anonymous wrote:Bipolar is not a personality disorder.
Borderline is a personality disorder.
Multiple personality disorder is a personality disorder.
Anxiety is not.

Multiple personality disorder (or DID) is not a personality disorder. It is a dissociative disorder.

I know someone with NPD. Everyone "yes"'s her to stay on her good side, because when she goes into rage mode, she tends to stay there, so her "friends" stay off her radar, and make her believe they are on her "side". Good times.

Can a person have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, because symptoms of both seem to fit my SIL.