Here's my take - successful people lift each other up. I met DH when I was young and in Grad School - I knew he also wanted to go to Grad School, but was not sure what he was going to do. We both had super menial jobs to support us during school, so we began with nothing. I became successful in my career first while he went to law school. We married and I supported him for a bit, and then he became very successful. I took a few years off to raise our kids and then went back to work as a p/t consultant. We have a great life. Now our oldest kid is a first year at a top law school. I'm amazed at all of the attention he gets - he's dating a woman from his undergrad that he has known for awhile and feels comfortable with - she is also a go getter but in a lower paying industry. I think he's proud that she's a hard worker and extremely compassionate and sweet (and cute), and I think he would hate the thought of somebody wanting to date him because he is going to be a lawyer.

Sorry, but the way to do that is to change to a real job or get some cosmetic surgery. High income and high potential income guys don't want to date nonprofit "women with causes".

So, either you look like a model or you get a better job.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry to say but high earning men do the filtering...not you. If they decide to find you, they will. If you're not attractive or also a high earner, then your odds are slim.

Actually no. If you are attractive and know where to look, they are easy to find. The only filtering men do is how attractive you are and if you seem crazy. If you are pretty, good personality, can hold a conversation and are interesting, and can put yourself in the right places- you will have no problem finding a “high income” man

Particularly in DC. Between K st. and the defense contractors there are plenty of men making $300k+. This isn’t a little town with only one wealthy person...

That's not high earning. Funny.

Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry to say but high earning men do the filtering...not you. If they decide to find you, they will. If you're not attractive or also a high earner, then your odds are slim.

+1. High value men know a monkey brancher (the women looking to swing higher, focused on a man's wallet) when they see one, too. They aren't looking for you, OP. They want a woman who is above all feminine, pretty, in shape, cooperative, inspirational and friendly. A woman who makes their non-work hours peaceful. These type of men work hard all day, they do not want to come home to the second job of competing against you in every little thing. The truly high-value man doesn't care about your money, or your job. He has his own money. Women control access to relationships, but men control access to marriage. He holds the keys.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry to say but high earning men do the filtering...not you. If they decide to find you, they will. If you're not attractive or also a high earner, then your odds are slim.

Actually no. If you are attractive and know where to look, they are easy to find. The only filtering men do is how attractive you are and if you seem crazy. If you are pretty, good personality, can hold a conversation and are interesting, and can put yourself in the right places- you will have no problem finding a “high income” man

Particularly in DC. Between K st. and the defense contractors there are plenty of men making $300k+. This isn’t a little town with only one wealthy person...

Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry to say but high earning men do the filtering...not you. If they decide to find you, they will. If you're not attractive or also a high earner, then your odds are slim.

Actually no. If you are attractive and know where to look, they are easy to find. The only filtering men do is how attractive you are and if you seem crazy. If you are pretty, good personality, can hold a conversation and are interesting, and can put yourself in the right places- you will have no problem finding a “high income” man

Op ~ may karma bite you in the @ss

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Anonymous wrote:If you're dating, how can you filter for men who either have a good income or will be making so in a few years?

I work in non-profits so all the men I meet are in similar salary range to me. (60k-110k) I'd like to see if I can swing higher.

1. Look at what he does
2. Look at where he went to school
3. Look at where he grew up

The school part and where someone grew up are irrelevant.

School and degree do correlate with future income. Here's one search engine. (obviously, YMMV)
https://www.payscale.com/college-salary-report

This topic makes me feel icky

If you are reasonably attractive/fit and just want to date a guy with money, try seeking.com

You don't have to be super young or a whore. The men are pretty respectful for the most part and there's a built in expectation that they take will you out for a date or at least a drink to meet you (since they are 'rich' and all).

Not a traditional dating site, but at least people are honest about what they're looking for.

OP, sorry to say but high earning men do the filtering...not you. If they decide to find you, they will. If you're not attractive or also a high earner, then your odds are slim.

Anonymous wrote:Date men in finance/investment banking/hedge funds.

OP needs to be hot or also work in the same industries for that plan to work. I don't think she qualifies for either of those 2 options.

Anonymous wrote:Think about what you would do if you wanted to make your own money. You know, go to law school, study engineering, work hard... then find a guy that has done or is doing those things.

I thought you were going to say: then do it yourself.

That’s what I did.

Success begets success.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're dating, how can you filter for men who either have a good income or will be making so in a few years?

I work in non-profits so all the men I meet are in similar salary range to me. (60k-110k) I'd like to see if I can swing higher.

1. Look at what he does

2. Look at where he went to school

3. Look at where he grew up

The school part and where someone grew up are irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:Lol something tells me that OP's gonna wind up old, unattractive, with cats, and on Prozac. We avoid you hags like the plague, just FYI. You lot are all too easy to sniff out.

Hahahahahaha this is so true. I can't stand and actively avoid the non-profit or government workers out there