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Anonymous wrote:I actually think OP's point was to start some common types -- the guy who grooms you by being your pal, the guy who is a military person, etc.

I'll add -- my cheater worked in an industry known for helping others. He used this as a cover. Anyone working on these issues is assumed to be a "good guy". In fact, he was a bad guy and was doing some things in his personal life that were a direct contradiction to his public life. An "out" public example of this is Eric Schneiderman, who publicly fought against domestic violence and privately physically abused his GF. So, this exercise is kind of a warning to others -- be careful and don't make assumptions.

Yes, probably the majority of military guys might make good partners, but for some, it is definitely a "good guy" cover.

More married men "groom" women for an affair by first being a supportive friend than one would suppose. As a woman you should always be smart, yes give a man the assumption that he is a "good" guy but also listen to your instincts and learn to recognize certain signs.

In my case a "nice" married man became my friend over a long period of casual talks at school events, which led to friendly, once a week walks in Rock Creek Park, and the occasional coffee. Then one day my "friend" leaned in and pulled me close,,, The whole grooming was so gradual that I failed to notice when someone I had previously not even been physically attracted to had become a man I had a hard time resisting.

I have no doubt he had done it before and has certainly gone on to "cultivate" women in the same way again. In that case, his spouse worked for abroad for her government, so he was away from her for long periods. Much like military separations I suppose.

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, I had a few ONS and AP. They all had different body types. Different color hair, skin tone, some were married, etc. The common theme with all of them is they just wanted to F.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think OP's point was to start some common types -- the guy who grooms you by being your pal, the guy who is a military person, etc.

I'll add -- my cheater worked in an industry known for helping others. He used this as a cover. Anyone working on these issues is assumed to be a "good guy". In fact, he was a bad guy and was doing some things in his personal life that were a direct contradiction to his public life. An "out" public example of this is Eric Schneiderman, who publicly fought against domestic violence and privately physically abused his GF. So, this exercise is kind of a warning to others -- be careful and don't make assumptions.

Yes, probably the majority of military guys might make good partners, but for some, it is definitely a "good guy" cover.

More married men "groom" women for an affair by first being a supportive friend than one would suppose. As a woman you should always be smart, yes give a man the assumption that he is a "good" guy but also listen to your instincts and learn to recognize certain signs.

In my case a "nice" married man became my friend over a long period of casual talks at school events, which led to friendly, once a week walks in Rock Creek Park, and the occasional coffee. Then one day my "friend" leaned in and pulled me close,,, The whole grooming was so gradual that I failed to notice when someone I had previously not even been physically attracted to had become a man I had a hard time resisting.

I have no doubt he had done it before and has certainly gone on to "cultivate" women in the same way again. In that case, his spouse worked for abroad for her government, so he was away from her for long periods. Much like military separations I suppose.

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Anonymous wrote:There are some well known men in DC who have gone through a succession of affair partners while married. Names you might have heard of.

Does anyone really care any more? I think millennials are over all the drama.

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Anonymous wrote:I had an experience with a man who tested my boundaries, and he told me that he had had an affair with a woman who worked with his wife in the same relatively small workplace, where his wife was a senior person. I recall thinking that was passive-aggressive behavior and very irresponsible as it could have adversely affected those two women's careers. He seemed like a nice enough guy, other than the hitting on women while married, but that story in particular bothered me.

was he from New Zealand?

Anonymous wrote:There are some well known men in DC who have gone through a succession of affair partners while married. Names you might have heard of.

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Anonymous wrote:The guy she was cheating with ends up cheating on her. Imagine that. Who would have thought....

I wasn’t cheating with him. I was committed to him, monogamous, and thought he was too. We blended families, we lost a child. He was a lie.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tempted to out a m*thaf****ker but it is the sabbath.

Check back tomorrow.

And you will be outed right back

Be careful what you start...

LOL!! I’ll out myself as part of the revelation, IDGAF! If there is such a thing as outing here! And no I’m not an AP. This man was just a lying cheat. I suspect he was seeing someone else / sleeping with multiple people toward the end but who knows?

I don’t like being threatened. Especially after I’ve been wronged.

Who is threatening you?

The bolded is a warning/threat for retaliation.

I’m not a marriage partner or affair partner. Just someone that was cheated on. He could have lied about being single on an overseas assignment, or just Vern a cheater.

Why do any of you care so much? Touchy, touchy. I’m not threatening you. I’m threatening to expose details of a cheater. That presented as a single, childless, man. For nearly 2 years.

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Anonymous wrote:The guy she was cheating with ends up cheating on her. Imagine that. Who would have thought....

I wasn’t cheating with him. I was committed to him, monogamous, and thought he was too. We blended families, we lost a child. He was a lie.

Anonymous wrote:The guy she was cheating with ends up cheating on her. Imagine that. Who would have thought....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tempted to out a m*thaf****ker but it is the sabbath.

Check back tomorrow.

And you will be outed right back

Be careful what you start...

LOL!! I’ll out myself as part of the revelation, IDGAF! If there is such a thing as outing here! And no I’m not an AP. This man was just a lying cheat. I suspect he was seeing someone else / sleeping with multiple people toward the end but who knows?

I don’t like being threatened. Especially after I’ve been wronged.

Who is threatening you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tempted to out a m*thaf****ker but it is the sabbath.

Check back tomorrow.

And you will be outed right back

Be careful what you start...

LOL!! I’ll out myself as part of the revelation, IDGAF! If there is such a thing as outing here! And no I’m not an AP. This man was just a lying cheat. I suspect he was seeing someone else / sleeping with multiple people toward the end but who knows?

I don’t like being threatened. Especially after I’ve been wronged.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tempted to out a m*thaf****ker but it is the sabbath.

Check back tomorrow.

And you will be outed right back

Be careful what you start...

LOL!! I’ll out myself as part of the revelation, IDGAF! If there is such a thing as outing here! And no I’m not an AP. This man was just a lying cheat. I suspect he was seeing someone else / sleeping with multiple people toward the end but who knows?

I don’t like being threatened. Especially after I’ve been wronged.