Did you meet someone, OP? Which island?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a family reunion of sorts and I have never seen so many good looking single and ready to commit men ever before in my life. Why am I in DC- this is where all the magic is. Sheesh.

I have a (white) friend who grew up vacationing in HA. She always loved it (who doesn’t??) there and moved to the big island as an adult. Bought a house, had a kid, started a small businesses. Nice, contributing to
Local economy person. She has been very unhappy there however. The locals range from ignoring her to purposefully excluding her to repeatedly robbing her home when she’s not there. The men physically and otherwise constantly intimidated her (white) boyfriend. Her boyfriend eventually left the island because he was unable to get work. Jobs went to locals and people who are part of the ohana. She is still there, but semi-marginalized, and is friends with a few other people from “the states”. Natives think of HA as another country/culture, and less so an a state in the USA. The sense of a recent and hostile colonization is very much alive. HA loves tourists and money from the mainland, but doesn’t generally want you to buy their houses/land, go to their schools, take their jobs, crowd their beaches etc. Plus the bizarre Mormons are also there, cheerfully and shamelessly trying to convert HA to their oddball religion.

I agree with your observation of warm family oriented people. Very true and appealing. Very different feeling from uptight cold elitist culture of the east coast. But for you, you won’t experience that unless you are connected/already part of to a family group there. Have you heard the phrase “haole go home”? Yah, that’s the basic concept- haole, beat it.

Mahalo,
A frequent (white) visitor to HA islands

Sorry I should have phrased this as HA IS another culture/country. Read about Polynesian culture. But of course now HA benefits in some ways from being part of the US. It’s complicated geopolitics. But I 100% get the appeal and have had the same wistful feeling of wishing I could be part of life there, and part of the ohana. But naw, not gun happen, wahine. Tried to write in Pidgin.

Anonymous wrote:Also Obama is from there too. That’s another win for Hawaii.

No, not really.

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a family reunion of sorts and I have never seen so many good looking single and ready to commit men ever before in my life. Why am I in DC- this is where all the magic is. Sheesh.

I have a (white) friend who grew up vacationing in HA. She always loved it (who doesn’t??) there and moved to the big island as an adult. Bought a house, had a kid, started a small businesses. Nice, contributing to
Local economy person. She has been very unhappy there however. The locals range from ignoring her to purposefully excluding her to repeatedly robbing her home when she’s not there. The men physically and otherwise constantly intimidated her (white) boyfriend. Her boyfriend eventually left the island because he was unable to get work. Jobs went to locals and people who are part of the ohana. She is still there, but semi-marginalized, and is friends with a few other people from “the states”. Natives think of HA as another country/culture, and less so an a state in the USA. The sense of a recent and hostile colonization is very much alive. HA loves tourists and money from the mainland, but doesn’t generally want you to buy their houses/land, go to their schools, take their jobs, crowd their beaches etc. Plus the bizarre Mormons are also there, cheerfully and shamelessly trying to convert HA to their oddball religion.

I agree with your observation of warm family oriented people. Very true and appealing. Very different feeling from uptight cold elitist culture of the east coast. But for you, you won’t experience that unless you are connected/already part of to a family group there. Have you heard the phrase “haole go home”? Yah, that’s the basic concept- haole, beat it.

Mahalo,
A frequent (white) visitor to HA islands

Anonymous wrote:living on an island, everyone knows everyone or is related. Small minded, small town thinking. Very little professional opportunity outside of military or tourism. Alaska has a lot of single men too, but really not worth settling down with a surviavlist. Same story, different weather.

The odds are good, but the goods are odd.