Anonymous wrote:I’m not my husbands mother, therefore I don’t expect a gift or card from my husband for Mother’s Day. Yes, I do expect him to encourage the kids to make me a card or help the kids make me breakfast or something along those lines. If he forgot it altogether and didn’t even assist the kids w something I’d be upset. And he should handle getting a card/gift/phone call for his own mother himself without me reminding him. As long as he does that, I’m fine.

I find it odd that so many people expect their husband to go all out buying them jewelry, clothing, etc. for Mother’s Day. That’s weird. If you want a shirt, just buy it yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not my husbands mother, therefore I don’t expect a gift or card from my husband for Mother’s Day. Yes, I do expect him to encourage the kids to make me a card or help the kids make me breakfast or something along those lines. If he forgot it altogether and didn’t even assist the kids w something I’d be upset. And he should handle getting a card/gift/phone call for his own mother himself without me reminding him. As long as he does that, I’m fine.

I find it odd that so many people expect their husband to go all out buying them jewelry, clothing, etc. for Mother’s Day. That’s weird. If you want a shirt, just buy it yourself.

Anonymous wrote:So last year I got exactly nothing for Mother's Day. Not a card, nothing from the kids, nada. I was upset - I mean, can't you even have the kids make a card or something? and later on got the guilt flowers from the grocery store.

This year, husband is working in another city, so we're not together. My kids stepped up and gave me nice cards and a picture from each. I got a phone call from my husband, that's it.

I have never been huge on gifts for Valentine's, Mother's Day, even our anniversary. I was tying to just chill out about it but then my mom sent a text saying she hoped I got some beautiful flowers. Well, I didn't. And of course I have always been the one that has taken on all the responsibility for sending my 7 nieces and nephews gifts, flowers or gifts for my mother in-law for her birthday, anniversary, Mother's Day. IF I didn't, my husband wouldn't even think about it.

I'm not sure it's worth me even telling him anything. But it just feels like crap.

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Anonymous wrote:So last year I got exactly nothing for Mother's Day. Not a card, nothing from the kids, nada. I was upset - I mean, can't you even have the kids make a card or something? and later on got the guilt flowers from the grocery store.

This year, husband is working in another city, so we're not together. My kids stepped up and gave me nice cards and a picture from each. I got a phone call from my husband, that's it.

I have never been huge on gifts for Valentine's, Mother's Day, even our anniversary. I was tying to just chill out about it but then my mom sent a text saying she hoped I got some beautiful flowers. Well, I didn't. And of course I have always been the one that has taken on all the responsibility for sending my 7 nieces and nephews gifts, flowers or gifts for my mother in-law for her birthday, anniversary, Mother's Day. IF I didn't, my husband wouldn't even think about it.

I'm not sure it's worth me even telling him anything. But it just feels like crap.

I don’t get this. Your kids gave you cards. Your husband wished you a HMD.

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

You are clearly NOT married. LOL and yes, he ASKED!? Ofc I would have bought it for myself if he had not ASKED...thus implying that he would get it FOR me.

DP, but I am married and I too find it bizarre that when he asked what you wanted, this is what you told him you wanted. You have to know that things online can sell out at any moment, so you should have bought it yourself to avoid that risk. You put him in a tough position on that one. Some of the other things you report do sound annoying, which I imagine is why you are having what seems to me to be an overreaction about the shirts.

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

You are clearly NOT married. LOL and yes, he ASKED!? Ofc I would have bought it for myself if he had not ASKED...thus implying that he would get it FOR me.

DP, but I am married and I too find it bizarre that when he asked what you wanted, this is what you told him you wanted. You have to know that things online can sell out at any moment, so you should have bought it yourself to avoid that risk. You put him in a tough position on that one. Some of the other things you report do sound annoying, which I imagine is why you are having what seems to me to be an overreaction about the shirts.

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

You are clearly NOT married. LOL and yes, he ASKED!? Ofc I would have bought it for myself if he had not ASKED...thus implying that he would get it FOR me.

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

Well, you have lovely taste and I hope you have a nice Mother’s Day.
- another mom who gets it

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

This is so weird to me. What difference does it make if he buys you the shirt you picked out? Why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself? He could write you a check.

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Anonymous wrote:Second year in a row, he asked explicitly what I would like and then did NOT get it. And got something cheaper or uglier.

We need more details! With links! What did you ask for and what did he get?

Lol. Gladly. I asked for this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/evie-linen-shirt-summit-stripe/sty-w0753-blu?cat=C1_S2_G18 and/or this: https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/georgina-linen-top-white/sty-w0714-wht?cat=C1_S2_G18

Literally said, buy it soon because it will likely sell out. Spoiler: they sold out.

He got me ill fitting, cheaper, unflatting shirts from the mall only AFTER I lost it on him yesterday am when he said, "oh, you wanted a shirt or something for mother's day?" and it became apparent he had NOT ordered it or done jackshit of thought for the day. I didn't get breakfast or a break from the kiddo and instead was greeted with an attempt to supersede the plans we made to hang with mom to see MIL instead. Ofc I am happy to share the day with both grandmoms, but it makes me mad as HELL that I asked what he had planned for MIL, got no response and so proceeded to make plans days in advance.

Like, why ask if you aren't going to buy it? Men. Are. Trash. Just biding my time for an impending split at this point.

Anonymous wrote:So last year I got exactly nothing for Mother's Day. Not a card, nothing from the kids, nada. I was upset - I mean, can't you even have the kids make a card or something? and later on got the guilt flowers from the grocery store.

This year, husband is working in another city, so we're not together. My kids stepped up and gave me nice cards and a picture from each. I got a phone call from my husband, that's it.

I have never been huge on gifts for Valentine's, Mother's Day, even our anniversary. I was tying to just chill out about it but then my mom sent a text saying she hoped I got some beautiful flowers. Well, I didn't. And of course I have always been the one that has taken on all the responsibility for sending my 7 nieces and nephews gifts, flowers or gifts for my mother in-law for her birthday, anniversary, Mother's Day. IF I didn't, my husband wouldn't even think about it.

I'm not sure it's worth me even telling him anything. But it just feels like crap.