I don’t understand the drama with any of this.

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Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't like these relatives so skip it. If a text message annoys you, I can only imagine how you will do at the actual event.

It's a group text at 6:30am. That IS annoying. Can't you read? You're annoying too.


--not OP.

The only people I know whose phones beep when they get a message are b**mers. Ok, b**mer.

What does that have to do with anything?

You just needed to get an outdated "Ok b**mer" in there. Congratulations, you did it.

Am I the only one wondering why the OP has to get her 14 year old up for school in the morning? Seriously?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't like these relatives so skip it. If a text message annoys you, I can only imagine how you will do at the actual event.

It's a group text at 6:30am. That IS annoying. Can't you read? You're annoying too.


--not OP.

The only people I know whose phones beep when they get a message are b**mers. Ok, b**mer.

No, not a boomer and my phone beeps messages.

Plus how could a boomer have a 14 year old?

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Anonymous wrote:Reading the replies to OP is so disheartening. She was just upset about the barrage of texts at an early time in the morning. And the people responding just viciously attack her! Why must we be so mean to each other? Please be kind abd thoughtful!

Op called the cousin a drama queen and nuts because of a group text. Many of us are just pointing out that she is the drama queen, not the over excited cousin.

Many of us agreed that large group texts ARE really annoying and obnoxious, at any time but definitely at 6:30am. I would have been peeved too.

I think sending a text at 6:30 am implies some sort of emergency. The OP has kids on college, so she likely does not want to set her phone on do not disturb in case there is an emergency with them.it is also ridiculous to expect everyone to be able to immediately be able to make plans. I am fine with weddings that do not allow kids, but you need to allow time for people to plan how they are going to handle it. The idea that OP would drag a 14 year old on a 6 hour car ride just to have the teen sit in a hotel room is ridiculous.

OP, you can prioritize your family over this wedding. If they really cared about people attending, they would have given more notice. I would have no problem saying I coukd not make this work on short notice. And perhaps offer some of the other family kids to stay with you (if they live near).

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Anonymous wrote:Reading the replies to OP is so disheartening. She was just upset about the barrage of texts at an early time in the morning. And the people responding just viciously attack her! Why must we be so mean to each other? Please be kind abd thoughtful!

Op called the cousin a drama queen and nuts because of a group text. Many of us are just pointing out that she is the drama queen, not the over excited cousin.

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Anonymous wrote:Reading the replies to OP is so disheartening. She was just upset about the barrage of texts at an early time in the morning. And the people responding just viciously attack her! Why must we be so mean to each other? Please be kind abd thoughtful!

Op called the cousin a drama queen and nuts because of a group text. Many of us are just pointing out that she is the drama queen, not the over excited cousin.

Reading the replies to OP is so disheartening. She was just upset about the barrage of texts at an early time in the morning. And the people responding just viciously attack her! Why must we be so mean to each other? Please be kind abd thoughtful!

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Anonymous wrote:Can't a 14 year old stay at home for the night or in the hotel? I can't imagine why you'd need a sitter for a 14 year old. Or have your college aged kids come watch him for the weekend.

If ALL the wedding events are no-kids then I'm not hauling my kid 6 hrs in a car to sit in a hotel room by themselves all weekend. I'd rather hook them up with a weekend sleepover. If it was just the reception the kid wasn't invited to but they could attend the ceremony and brunch the next morning I'd bring them. FWIW, I have two older kids who live a five-hour plane ride away. I would not make them drop their lives to fly ten hours round trip to stay with their younger sibling.

Just decline and say no. You are mad no kids are allowed. But that's the way the wedding will be so do everyone a favor and say no. Or just go to the ceremony/reception and head home first thing and skip the brunch since precious can't go. You don't have to attend a weekend full of festivities if it's going to be such an inconvenience. I find it funny that a parent needs a babysitter for a 14 year old, by the way. I WAS the babysitter at 14. Times have changed.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't a 14 year old stay at home for the night or in the hotel? I can't imagine why you'd need a sitter for a 14 year old. Or have your college aged kids come watch him for the weekend.

If ALL the wedding events are no-kids then I'm not hauling my kid 6 hrs in a car to sit in a hotel room by themselves all weekend. I'd rather hook them up with a weekend sleepover. If it was just the reception the kid wasn't invited to but they could attend the ceremony and brunch the next morning I'd bring them. FWIW, I have two older kids who live a five-hour plane ride away. I would not make them drop their lives to fly ten hours round trip to stay with their younger sibling.

12 hours in a car for a 14 yo - they would prob be on their phone for 12 hours at home anyway. You are just looking for reasons to make this more dramatic and worse than it is.

Anonymous wrote:YOU sound like the drama queen. And super annoying.

This was my thought too. OP is the drama queen for getting so ticked off.

OP, if you were in whatsapp groups, you would have had meltdowns.

Her child is 27. Oddly came from mom not the 27 year old. We are first cousins so I don’t get it. No one has little kids. We are talking maybe you 2-3 tweens still at home. Last kids among all the first cousins. And wedding is an overnight thing for everyone.

If the bride is 27 she might have friends who already have babies and toddlers. Telling everyone no kids is one way to eliminate everyone’s kids. It’s not all about you and your 14-year-old.

I agree it is annoying, rude actually, to have one day to make decision on hotel if that is what it is.

As far as the 6:30 AM, she probably thought people had their phones on do not disturb if they didn't want to receive notices then. That part is on OP. You also could have glanced as you got out of the shower, realized it wasn't a school emergency and read later when you had time.

Anonymous wrote:Can't a 14 year old stay at home for the night or in the hotel? I can't imagine why you'd need a sitter for a 14 year old. Or have your college aged kids come watch him for the weekend.

If ALL the wedding events are no-kids then I'm not hauling my kid 6 hrs in a car to sit in a hotel room by themselves all weekend. I'd rather hook them up with a weekend sleepover. If it was just the reception the kid wasn't invited to but they could attend the ceremony and brunch the next morning I'd bring them. FWIW, I have two older kids who live a five-hour plane ride away. I would not make them drop their lives to fly ten hours round trip to stay with their younger sibling.