My close friend (like a sister) had a small outdoor wedding. My six-month-old was one of three welcomed infants. He and another baby learned how to blow raspberries that day...and blew them through the entire ceremony. I was mortified but I can understand why a bride would say no kids. Let her have this one special day of her life done her way.

Omg, just go! Baby will take a bottle by then. And if the baby really, really won’t take the bottle by then (really?), get a hotel room and duck in to nurse.

3 - there is plenty of time between now and then and baby may take bottle by then. If not, baby won’t starve and you can pump or hand express milk into a toilet if you get uncomfortable (been there, done that). Or get a sitter to stay at venue so you can feed baby as needed.

If the wedding says no kids, the baby is a kid. They cry, scream and cry some more. Don't ask to bring the baby.

You have 2 months to teach your kid to take the bottle. It's been done before, so it's totally doable.

Two of DH's cousins faced this for our wedding. One brought the kid despite it being no kids and we love him, but... it was a real pain. We made it work, but would rather they have respected the request.

The other cousin had their sitter bring the baby to the hotel where our wedding & reception were (not far from where they lived) and the mom stepped out to nurse and cuddle for a few minutes. We didn't know she was planning to do that, but truly appreciated her thoughtfulness.

I guess it looks like you can bring the baby... but I agree with others to confirm with the couple, not the MIL.

Anonymous wrote:People on this thread are so uptight. I would bring my infant and time it so that she was sleeping during the ceremony and reception.

It's an infant. There's no way to 100% accurately predict when he'll be sleeping/not teething/not gassy, etc.

Anonymous wrote:People on this thread are so uptight. I would bring my infant and time it so that she was sleeping during the ceremony and reception.

+1

People on this thread are so uptight. I would bring my infant and time it so that she was sleeping during the ceremony and reception.

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

They do care. They specifically said no kids on the invitation, why would you think that doesn't apply to you?

Anonymous wrote:Babies are cute. Bring him

Wrong answer. Babies, no matter how cute you think they are, don't belong everywhere.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

+1

I did this with my twins. People were excited to see them and helped me carry them and everything

I’m sure the bride was thrilled that everyone was so excited to see the little kids that she specifically didn’t invite to her wedding.

Yup. This is one of the reasons people try ( I say try because you see just from this thread how often it just doesn't work) to have kid free weddings.

Anonymous wrote:Bring him and bring your mother in law to sit in the hotel and watch him while you go to the wedding. If he gets hungry, she can bring him in the lobby and you can whip a tit out and feed him. Then she can leave like the slave she is. Get 2 queen beds so you guys can all sleep in the same room. Plus a crib. So much fun bonding together as a family, sleeping together, ordering room service, and cuddling.

You’re welcome.

The MIL will probably want to go to the wedding because it's her nephew getting married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: well, this was on my mind and I mentioned it to my MIL when we saw her, and she said nursing babies are fine with the bride. I’m still going to work towards being able to leave him home, but it’s a relief to have this settled.

Ask the bride.

No, don’t. You put them on the spot by bringing it up. MIL was being nice to family. The bride said no kids and doesn’t want your baby there. You are adding stress on her wedding day because now it’s in the back of her head that this baby may be fussy. Do not do this. You should not have brought it up. I would never have brought my infant children to a wedding because I wanted to enjoy myself. Your child isn’t even old enough to have fun at the wedding. DH should go alone. Please tell them thank you but you have changed your mind. Option 2.

2, hands down. No other option.

Bring him and bring your mother in law to sit in the hotel and watch him while you go to the wedding. If he gets hungry, she can bring him in the lobby and you can whip a tit out and feed him. Then she can leave like the slave she is. Get 2 queen beds so you guys can all sleep in the same room. Plus a crib. So much fun bonding together as a family, sleeping together, ordering room service, and cuddling.

You’re welcome.