Anonymous wrote:No, my husband's bad genes diluted our child's IQ to the point that it is not feasible or attainable. On a serious note, never comes up and I wouldn't engage in the conversation if it did.

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Anonymous wrote:We clearly travel in different circles. Some of my friends were also Ivy people, some not. No one projects our experiences onto the next generation.

Find better friends.

OP here. This is actually where I was going with my question. If I said “no, she visited and is not interested” (which is true), shouldn’t that be enough? I actually have no idea whether she would be admitted IF she applied. She is a strong student, but she is not applying. I feel like it is somehow more important to the “friend” than me - or even DC! I suspected it might have been malicious, in a not so passive aggressive manner.

Who keeps asking such a question and why? Weird.

That would be off-putting. You can tell when a person is asking from place of malice and intends to gossip about your child, and it is sad.

OP here. I think so, too. I guess I was trying to deny that it was malicious, so I wanted to know what other people thought. Our family is happy when our friends get into the college that they wanted, and that fit them the best. Am I being unreasonable? What kind of parent does that - are they just a gossip or worse? It doesn't seem very friend-like to me, and maybe I tend to think that people are good, or at least not malicious, so it is baffling.

OP, I would also say that you have the experience that other's here don't, past experiences, body language, voice inflection etc....I would say if this individual has been catty in your other experiences than probably malice, if a good enough relationship that you call them a friend than maybe a lapse in judgement and disregard and call them on it if it happens again.

Anonymous wrote:Double Ivy here—wouldn’t get into either one today.