Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:58     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.


Yes, it is wrong.
She has never used a sick day, and has taken no vacation days in an entire year. Now she is notifying you that she will be taking 3 days. In those 3 days she will be getting a vaccine to keep your children safe. Thanks
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:57     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.


OMG I hope someone poaches your nanny. You would deserve it.

Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:55     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.


I find it hard to believe that you don't have the problem solving skills to solve this with advanced notice, but if she comes to you and says she needs to leave you'll take over in an instant. Why will your problem solving be better then? The vast majority of people have pain after the second shot. Even if she doesn't have other symptoms, she will be in pain lifting your toddler, and she shouldn't have to do it.

Hire a back up nanny. Take leave. Stagger your hours. Say no at work. Whatever you would do in an instant when she feels unwell, just do it now.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:54     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.


If I want to take 3 days off, I take 3 days off. My PTO and sick days are mine to use how I want. Get a better job.

Isn’t your PTO different than sick? If PTO then absolutely.


The only difference is that my PTO rolls over, sick doesn't. 28 PTO days/year, 7 sick, 2 "float" holidays. When travel was allowed sometimes I was "sick" in Europe.

If she wants to use sick time I don’t think this qualifies personally. Although I know many people fudge when they’re sick. Hard to do that in advance.
Sounds like she never calls in such otherwise though OP so I would buck up and let her.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:51     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.



Yes, it would be wrong. Plan and give her the time with your understanding and blessing.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:51     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.


If I want to take 3 days off, I take 3 days off. My PTO and sick days are mine to use how I want. Get a better job.

Isn’t your PTO different than sick? If PTO then absolutely.


The only difference is that my PTO rolls over, sick doesn't. 28 PTO days/year, 7 sick, 2 "float" holidays. When travel was allowed sometimes I was "sick" in Europe.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:49     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.


Buck up and parent.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:48     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.


No. She has the time. Give it to her.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:47     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:If your nanny has the time coming you give it to her. There is no compromise.


Seriously. You entitled twit.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:46     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
How is this even a question? She can take pto whenever she wants, for any reason she wants.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:46     Subject: Re:Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
OP here. It’s true our nanny has never once called in sick in two years. And yes, for the last year due to covid, she hasn’t taken any vacation except paid holidays. We have a toddler and a baby. She unquestionably has the PTO coming and I’m not denying her that. Yes, I’m sure she’s afraid to be or feel sick here rather than home.

It’s the timing. DH and I both have huge work commitments this month and our toddler is in a real nanny-only phase. With the new baby, this will definitely be hard not to see her for five days.

Would it really be so wrong to ask her just to play it by ear and see how she feels? We’ll take over the instant she starts feeling poorly as we’re both home. And she lives just a mile a way and can drive those days in five minutes.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:45     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.


If I want to take 3 days off, I take 3 days off. My PTO and sick days are mine to use how I want. Get a better job.

Isn’t your PTO different than sick? If PTO then absolutely.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:44     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.



You’re boss won’t let you be sick and use your earned PTO for three days?! Where do you work?

Government job. The whole department was scheduled the same day for vaccines. Maybe a couple people who legit felt bad called in sick. But no, people didn’t and don’t need three days off for a vaccine unless they actually have side effects. Would be nice for the nanny to give the heads up she’s getting it and there is a chance she would call in.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:43     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.


If I want to take 3 days off, I take 3 days off. My PTO and sick days are mine to use how I want. Get a better job.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2021 13:43     Subject: Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Imagine if you had to deal with an actual emergency? And may your boss treat you the way you treat your nanny.

Are most bosses allowing three days off for a vaccine? Mine sure wasn’t.


I'm a HS teacher, working in person. My employer is telling us we have 4 hours of leave on the day of, and to wait and make the decision based on how we feel, but if we don't feel well enough to come in we can take up to 2 additional days and not have them count as sick leave.

After my first shot, I would have been fine to come in on day 2, but I happened to get it on a Friday. But my job doesn't involve physical caregiving. I do a lot of physical caregiving at home, and that was pretty painful on the first day.

Based on what I hear from colleagues, some people are having high fevers and other symptoms on days 2 and 3, and obviously shouldn't be working, and some people are just having arm pain, but even arm pain will make taking care of a toddler hard.