Anonymous wrote:It is hard. I am trying to lose about 25 pounds. I track calories using My Fitness Pal for 1200 per day (because my maintenance is 1500 per day). I also try to take walks almost everyday during the week (which adds calories back in to how much I can eat) and I do some weights 5 nights a week.

I also allow myself 1 cheat day a week - Saturdays, where I don't watch what I eat at all and that is our take out night. I find that having a break once a week from all the counting helps me stay motivated the other 6 days.

The cheat day makes the weight loss go a little slower but it helps mentally.

How much do you lose on average a week?

It is hard. I am trying to lose about 25 pounds. I track calories using My Fitness Pal for 1200 per day (because my maintenance is 1500 per day). I also try to take walks almost everyday during the week (which adds calories back in to how much I can eat) and I do some weights 5 nights a week.

I also allow myself 1 cheat day a week - Saturdays, where I don't watch what I eat at all and that is our take out night. I find that having a break once a week from all the counting helps me stay motivated the other 6 days.

The cheat day makes the weight loss go a little slower but it helps mentally.

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Anonymous wrote:Losing weight is hard but I find all the things that come with being overweight harder (feeling uncomfortable in public, being excessively hot and tired out, clothes not fitting, not liking what I see in the mirror). Also one way to keep yourself motivated is to look at the small amounts you are losing and see where that trajectory will leave you a few months from now (eg if you lost one pound this week, think of how much you will weigh in two months if you keep losing one pound a week). Two or three months is also when summer is about to hit - that should provide some motivation!

Yep- same here.

I also totally agree with the above. It sucks hating the way you look. I lost about 15lbs since November and I love the boost in confidence it gave me. I went clothes shopping on Sunday and it was a great feeling to not have to be scared to look into the mirror when trying on clothes Getting to this point has not been easy, but it did not totally suck either and really it does not have to if you approach weight loss the right way. I still have a cookie or some chocolate everyday but I watch carefully how much I eat in total without doing crazy low calories (roughly 1700-2000 calories a day) and I workout regularly, which is fortunately something I thoroughly enjoy. I am quite excited about shaving off the final five pounds. OP, you might just need to adjust your attitude to fat loss. It does not have to be depressing and it most definitely is worth it. Feeling good about yourself is priceless.

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Anonymous wrote:KETO!!!!

Keto is not good for you long term.

Not true.

Anonymous wrote:Losing weight is hard but I find all the things that come with being overweight harder (feeling uncomfortable in public, being excessively hot and tired out, clothes not fitting, not liking what I see in the mirror). Also one way to keep yourself motivated is to look at the small amounts you are losing and see where that trajectory will leave you a few months from now (eg if you lost one pound this week, think of how much you will weigh in two months if you keep losing one pound a week). Two or three months is also when summer is about to hit - that should provide some motivation!

Yep- same here.

I hear you OP. It is really hard. I'm doing this program (BodySmart Fitness), where they really focus on being 1% better, and changing your mindset from all or nothing. That was the hardest thing for me to switch, but it does make it feel like I"m taking steps forward, even if they are small ones. The calorie counting has let me still feel not deprived entirely while I've been doing this, so I schedule in snacks and a glass of wine into my calories. I also don't eat the workout calories. It's slow, but this does seem to be working for me. Maybe some of these are concepts you can try too? Trying for non-scale victories instead? Maybe you can walk 1000 more steps every day this week, or something little like that, that can add up.It's all forward motion.

I posted a seperate post that I think got flagged.. but I swear I just love this program - the college nutritionist.

I have been yo-yo ing my entire adult lift and feel like I finally understand how to lose weight without being miserable. I'm also doing more workouts but nothing crazy- just 30 minutes of strength training 4-5 days per week. I'm losing 1 lb per week without following the plan perfectly.

Just make sure to watch the videos before you start - even if they are kind of lengthy.

Good luck everyone- if I can stick to this you can too!!!

Anonymous wrote:Girl, same. Hitting 40 and my already crappy metabolism tanking has been incredibly demoralizing. Working on improving my attitude—also a slow process

I had a bunch of annoying physical stuff hit right at 40 as well. A hip and lower back alignment problem that has plagued me since my first pregnancy really took a turn for the worse and getting proper exercise because a real challenge. And it's harder for me to eat well when I can't exercise -- I'm usually inspired by exercise to make sure I'm fueling my body properly. Instead, I was forced to be more sedentary, which made me feel depressed, which led to stress eating. It was an awful cycle.

I will say that it seemed to work itself out. I started seeing a physical therapist for my hip, which has not only helped me feel better but also helped me learn what kinds of exercise are less likely to cause pain or misalignment for me. Once I could start doing cardio again, my eating regulated and everything kind of fell into place. I did have to accept that my 40-something body looks different than my 30-something body. Not worse, just different. I'm carrying weight a little differently and I've had to learn new ways of dressing to flatter my current body. But in the end I think I've wound up in better shape than before, because I'm taking more care of myself in multiple ways and I'm being kinder to my body.

So hang in there, it does get better. But whoo is that transition challenging. I think most people go through it around this age and it's tough (made tougher by the pandemic no doubt).

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Anonymous wrote:Girl, same. Hitting 40 and my already crappy metabolism tanking has been incredibly demoralizing. Working on improving my attitude—also a slow process

You hit 40 already? Plenty of 50 pluses women on here have no issue being normal or underweight.

wow that was helpful

Age isn't an excuse for a bad metabolism. Plenty of 20 somethings who are big and stay big even when fit.

That’s not how metabolism works, dipshit.

Lol I didn't even say how metabolism works. Wow the drama queens!

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Anonymous wrote:Girl, same. Hitting 40 and my already crappy metabolism tanking has been incredibly demoralizing. Working on improving my attitude—also a slow process

You hit 40 already? Plenty of 50 pluses women on here have no issue being normal or underweight.

Bitch.

Yep, that's you!