Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I know not everyone is in the same boat, but here is what I have done to make life more bearable this past year:

1. Exercise - take long walks and weight training
2. Eat healthy - lot of veggies and eating with intention
3. Take care of any health issues - don't put aside visiting doctors
4. Set goals for projects around the house - that way I feel a sense of accomplishment
5. Get to know my neighbors better and hang out outside where it is much safer - we have done lots of this for a year and it's been a lifesaver
6. Touch base with family - we have done a lot of Facetime and for local family, outside with masks around a firepit
7. Plan for "after" - even if we don't know when after might actually be, make some mental plans to look forward to
8. Spend dedicated time with the kids - really enjoy the time together because it is fleeting
9. Pursue hobbies
10. Subscribe to a meal kit plan - this has been a lifesaver from having to cook the same things over and over again

Mom of 2 kids; DH and I both work from home.

I am the poster of the "list". I will add that I wasn't doing most of these things the first 6 months or so. But since then I have made a conscious decision to do these things (not every day and not perfectly all the time - but for the most part) and they have made a huge difference in my outlook and coping skills. It's a chicken or egg thing - you can wait until things get better to get to it or you can get to it and things will get better.

YMMV...


I know you mean well but hearing "exercise and eat well" after a year of DROWNING EVERY SINGLE DAY makes me want to reach through the screen and smack you silly.

I barely get to go to the bathroom alone. You think I am eating with intention or weight training?!!! I am an angry soft dumpling of a person right now, who is slowly being pecked to death by pigeons (my children).

Ha, this is DCUM "gold." Me too.

Though earlier PP, I liked your list too. It's a nice reminder of what I should/could be doing (but probably won't ).

Agree to both. The issue for most of us is that we don't have TIME to do any of these things we are supposed to be doing, and when we do have just a moment, we are so emotionally freaked out and overwhelmed that we do exactly what we aren't supposed to do - eat, drink, stay up too late, watch TV.

I know not everyone is in the same boat, but here is what I have done to make life more bearable this past year:

1. Exercise - take long walks and weight training
2. Eat healthy - lot of veggies and eating with intention
3. Take care of any health issues - don't put aside visiting doctors
4. Set goals for projects around the house - that way I feel a sense of accomplishment
5. Get to know my neighbors better and hang out outside where it is much safer - we have done lots of this for a year and it's been a lifesaver
6. Touch base with family - we have done a lot of Facetime and for local family, outside with masks around a firepit
7. Plan for "after" - even if we don't know when after might actually be, make some mental plans to look forward to
8. Spend dedicated time with the kids - really enjoy the time together because it is fleeting
9. Pursue hobbies
10. Subscribe to a meal kit plan - this has been a lifesaver from having to cook the same things over and over again

Mom of 2 kids; DH and I both work from home.

I know you mean well but hearing "exercise and eat well" after a year of DROWNING EVERY SINGLE DAY makes me want to reach through the screen and smack you silly.

I barely get to go to the bathroom alone. You think I am eating with intention or weight training?!!! I am an angry soft dumpling of a person right now, who is slowly being pecked to death by pigeons (my children).

Ha, this is DCUM "gold." Me too.

Though earlier PP, I liked your list too. It's a nice reminder of what I should/could be doing (but probably won't ).

Agree to both. The issue for most of us is that we don't have TIME to do any of these things we are supposed to be doing, and when we do have just a moment, we are so emotionally freaked out and overwhelmed that we do exactly what we aren't supposed to do - eat, drink, stay up too late, watch TV.

Anonymous wrote:

I know not everyone is in the same boat, but here is what I have done to make life more bearable this past year:

1. Exercise - take long walks and weight training
2. Eat healthy - lot of veggies and eating with intention
3. Take care of any health issues - don't put aside visiting doctors
4. Set goals for projects around the house - that way I feel a sense of accomplishment
5. Get to know my neighbors better and hang out outside where it is much safer - we have done lots of this for a year and it's been a lifesaver
6. Touch base with family - we have done a lot of Facetime and for local family, outside with masks around a firepit
7. Plan for "after" - even if we don't know when after might actually be, make some mental plans to look forward to
8. Spend dedicated time with the kids - really enjoy the time together because it is fleeting
9. Pursue hobbies
10. Subscribe to a meal kit plan - this has been a lifesaver from having to cook the same things over and over again

Mom of 2 kids; DH and I both work from home.

I know you mean well but hearing "exercise and eat well" after a year of DROWNING EVERY SINGLE DAY makes me want to reach through the screen and smack you silly.

I barely get to go to the bathroom alone. You think I am eating with intention or weight training?!!! I am an angry soft dumpling of a person right now, who is slowly being pecked to death by pigeons (my children).

Ha, this is DCUM "gold." Me too.

Though earlier PP, I liked your list too. It's a nice reminder of what I should/could be doing (but probably won't ).

I know not everyone is in the same boat, but here is what I have done to make life more bearable this past year:

1. Exercise - take long walks and weight training
2. Eat healthy - lot of veggies and eating with intention
3. Take care of any health issues - don't put aside visiting doctors
4. Set goals for projects around the house - that way I feel a sense of accomplishment
5. Get to know my neighbors better and hang out outside where it is much safer - we have done lots of this for a year and it's been a lifesaver
6. Touch base with family - we have done a lot of Facetime and for local family, outside with masks around a firepit
7. Plan for "after" - even if we don't know when after might actually be, make some mental plans to look forward to
8. Spend dedicated time with the kids - really enjoy the time together because it is fleeting
9. Pursue hobbies
10. Subscribe to a meal kit plan - this has been a lifesaver from having to cook the same things over and over again

Mom of 2 kids; DH and I both work from home.

I know you mean well but hearing "exercise and eat well" after a year of DROWNING EVERY SINGLE DAY makes me want to reach through the screen and smack you silly.

I barely get to go to the bathroom alone. You think I am eating with intention or weight training?!!! I am an angry soft dumpling of a person right now, who is slowly being pecked to death by pigeons (my children).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely hate parenting as of January 2021. I did my best the rest of this pandemic, but Im tapped out. I have nothing left to give my kids in terms of attention, entertainment, school help. Nothing.

NP here. SAME. I have had a breakdown every weekend for 4 weekends now - this morning is the 4th. I cannot take this any longer. I am so angry with my 10 yo, who I know is struggling. I feel like DH undermines me with parenting. I am tired of preparing meals, ordering out, having nowhere to go. I hope it's the weather that has gotten to me, and that I can come up with this. But honestly, I'm wondering what the minimum is that would be required to get me locked up in a mental hospital for a week. Drug me, put me in a bed. I don't effing care.

And yes, I'm seeing a therapist. Kids are in therapy. DH is in therapy. It feels like an effing disaster around here.

I am the OP and I am sending you a huge hug. You are not alone!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know not everyone is in the same boat, but here is what I have done to make life more bearable this past year:

1. Exercise - take long walks and weight training
2. Eat healthy - lot of veggies and eating with intention
3. Take care of any health issues - don't put aside visiting doctors
4. Set goals for projects around the house - that way I feel a sense of accomplishment
5. Get to know my neighbors better and hang out outside where it is much safer - we have done lots of this for a year and it's been a lifesaver
6. Touch base with family - we have done a lot of Facetime and for local family, outside with masks around a firepit
7. Plan for "after" - even if we don't know when after might actually be, make some mental plans to look forward to
8. Spend dedicated time with the kids - really enjoy the time together because it is fleeting
9. Pursue hobbies
10. Subscribe to a meal kit plan - this has been a lifesaver from having to cook the same things over and over again

Mom of 2 kids; DH and I both work from home.

I know you mean well but hearing "exercise and eat well" after a year of DROWNING EVERY SINGLE DAY makes me want to reach through the screen and smack you silly.

I barely get to go to the bathroom alone. You think I am eating with intention or weight training?!!! I am an angry soft dumpling of a person right now, who is slowly being pecked to death by pigeons (my children).