Anonymous
02/10/2021 22:06
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
Did I just read that tight-“look good enough to attract a white husband”? So the standard of beauty is the ability to attract a white husband? That says a lot about your perceptions of white superiority and brown/black inferiority. That is really sad.
Btw I’m black with a white husband but have never seen things that way. I’m stunned!
Obviously a troll called Karen! No Indian woman would actually write this.
+1. That post reads like a parody of the super insecure and self hating Indian woman. Unfortunately I have encountered many of these sad sacks so I wouldn’t be completely surprised if it was real.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 16:52
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
Did I just read that tight-“look good enough to attract a white husband”? So the standard of beauty is the ability to attract a white husband? That says a lot about your perceptions of white superiority and brown/black inferiority. That is really sad.
Btw I’m black with a white husband but have never seen things that way. I’m stunned!
Obviously a troll called Karen! No Indian woman would actually write this.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 16:12
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
Did I just read that tight-“look good enough to attract a white husband”? So the standard of beauty is the ability to attract a white husband? That says a lot about your perceptions of white superiority and brown/black inferiority. That is really sad.
Btw I’m black with a white husband but have never seen things that way. I’m stunned!
I read that as, she received compliments about the way she looked and those people would follow up by asking if she was married to a white guy.
Basically implying that she is a surprisingly pretty or fashionable because she must be married to a white guy/white family in order to be able to carry herself that way -- which is super derogatory. They would not expect an Indian to be pretty or fashionable.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 15:23
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
Did I just read that tight-“look good enough to attract a white husband”? So the standard of beauty is the ability to attract a white husband? That says a lot about your perceptions of white superiority and brown/black inferiority. That is really sad.
Btw I’m black with a white husband but have never seen things that way. I’m stunned!
Anonymous
02/10/2021 15:06
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Indian-American here. Lots of compliments, including from white women, when I was in my 20s. Both on appearance and attire (used to put in way more effort!) Less so in my late 30s, but I wouldn't really expect it now. Think it depends on a lot of things including how you look, personality/approachability (as others have mentioned), effort, and just what your social circle is like (in terms of demographics but also personality and what's typically discussed).
Early years (middle/high school) were hard, but I also looked super awkward honestly.
I guess I don't care if "society" celebrates me as long as I feel valued and seen by the people around me?
Early years (middle/high school) were hard, but I also looked super awkward honestly.
I guess I don't care if "society" celebrates me as long as I feel valued and seen by the people around me?
Anonymous
02/10/2021 14:22
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Most of the people above don’t look East Asian. I’m Korean and even though I’m probably better than my white friends at differentiating different types of Asians, it’s generally not hard to tell the difference between someone from India/Pakistan and someone from Japan.
Agreed, though some of the people on the top pictures could be from inner China or Mongolia.
Some people from the Eurasian areas like Kazakhstan are ethnically related to Mongolians who look east Asian, while others in those areas look more Caucasian. Those are interesting areas where east really meets west.
Places like Bhutan which straddles China and SE Asia also have a mix of people who look more East Asian and SE Asian.
I find these places fascinating.
But in general, East Asians do look very different to SE Asians. Of course, it gets a bit more nebulous in those middle area like Bhutan
-another Korean
Anonymous
02/10/2021 14:10
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
“Look good enough to attract a white husband?” Wtf, this post is pathetic and sad on so many levels.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 11:18
Subject: Re:POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:No.
I'm Indian/American and have been complimented but it's usually something kinda backhanded like, "exotic" or "you're pretty for an Indian".
I look ethnically ambiguous at times and there is always a look of surprise when they ask me where I originate from and it's not a good look of surprise. This comes from all different races, not just white.
+1
I'm Indian-American too and I have short hair, preppy style, I am slender and tallish 5'5". I have been asked if I am married to a White man? I am not joking. Like I was a hopeless case who was thankfully transformed by a White guy and then he married me. I have also been told that I don't look "Indian". (Though I could be Kamala Harris's family member). In India, my looks are not altogether uncommon in Mumbai or Delhi and no one comments on my pixie hairstyle either...but hey, I guess I have arrived in America...
My teenager is even more ethnically ambiguous in USA (Persian? Cuban?). She is more like Nikky Haley - all that Punjabi blood intermingling with mine. In India she is seen as a teenager. No one is confused there because her looks are common there too.
To some extent, I get it. Indian-Americans are not a very looks-aware lot in the US because most of them are in the STEM field and looking good is not all that important compared to academics.
But, I am surprised that I am not confused with the super stylish, gorgeous and well put together Pakistani-Americans either. I mean every single Pakistani-American woman I meet here is just so drop dead stunning. Maybe I am not stunning like a Pakistani-American but look good enough to attract a White husband. I dunno!
Anonymous
02/10/2021 11:09
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Black woman. I used to get a lot of attention, mostly from black and Hispanic men, in my younger days. Now in my 50's not as much. I'm happily married with a family and have a lot to juggle. I'm not too concerned about getting attention from others.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 10:58
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...
Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women
Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.
+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?
East Asian. Not southeast Asian.
I don't think most non-Asians can tell the difference, quite frankly.
Southeast Asian refers typically to Indians. East Asians refer to Chinese, Korean, and Japanese. Most people, non-Asians, can tell the difference between an Indian and an East Asian.
Are you really going to resurrect the shitty and racist sterotype of all Asians looking the same while also being dead wrong about how various people from the continent identify?!
I don't think it's racist to say that some ethnicities look similar.
For example I might say it's hard to tell the difference between a British person and a German person.
Similarly I'd say it's hard to tell the difference between a Chinese person and a Korean person.
Both are true and not racist.
Anonymous
02/10/2021 09:30
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...
Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women
Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.
+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?
East Asian. Not southeast Asian.
I don't think most non-Asians can tell the difference, quite frankly.
Southeast Asian refers typically to Indians. East Asians refer to Chinese, Korean, and Japanese. Most people, non-Asians, can tell the difference between an Indian and an East Asian.
Are you really going to resurrect the shitty and racist sterotype of all Asians looking the same while also being dead wrong about how various people from the continent identify?!
Anonymous
02/10/2021 08:40
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Most of the people above don’t look East Asian. I’m Korean and even though I’m probably better than my white friends at differentiating different types of Asians, it’s generally not hard to tell the difference between someone from India/Pakistan and someone from Japan.
Anonymous
02/09/2021 21:58
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...
Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women
Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.
+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?
East Asian. Not southeast Asian.
I don't think most non-Asians can tell the difference, quite frankly.
Southeast Asian refers typically to Indians. East Asians refer to Chinese, Korean, and Japanese. Most people, non-Asians, can tell the difference between an Indian and an East Asian.
Different poster here.
You are incorrect. If you don't even know the proper designations, you probably also can't tell the difference between the peoples.
Southeast Asian= Vietnam, Myanmar, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, etc.
South Asian= India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Afghanistan, etc
East Asian= Japan, China, N and S Korea, Mongolia, etc
Funny how people like to stereotype Asians but then don't even understand the geography or know how vast and diverse we are.
Asia is the most culturally diverse continent in the world, yet to White and Black America we are one gigantic monolith.
East Asians look so different to South Asians. I can't understand how people could not tell the difference. The skin color alone is different. Then there are the features.
But to OP's post - I think society and the media have definitely progressed, and it celebrates beauty of all different skin colors more now than ever.
I am 50, and grew up out west in a really diverse area so being nonwhite was not unique or differet where I grew up. When I was younger, I did get hit on by men of different races.
Where would you say the people in these pics are from?
Anonymous
02/09/2021 21:14
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...
Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women
Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.
+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?
East Asian. Not southeast Asian.
I don't think most non-Asians can tell the difference, quite frankly.
Southeast Asian refers typically to Indians. East Asians refer to Chinese, Korean, and Japanese. Most people, non-Asians, can tell the difference between an Indian and an East Asian.
Different poster here.
You are incorrect. If you don't even know the proper designations, you probably also can't tell the difference between the peoples.
Southeast Asian= Vietnam, Myanmar, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, etc.
South Asian= India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Afghanistan, etc
East Asian= Japan, China, N and S Korea, Mongolia, etc
Funny how people like to stereotype Asians but then don't even understand the geography or know how vast and diverse we are.
Asia is the most culturally diverse continent in the world, yet to White and Black America we are one gigantic monolith.
East Asians look so different to South Asians. I can't understand how people could not tell the difference. The skin color alone is different. Then there are the features.
But to OP's post - I think society and the media have definitely progressed, and it celebrates beauty of all different skin colors more now than ever.
I am 50, and grew up out west in a really diverse area so being nonwhite was not unique or differet where I grew up. When I was younger, I did get hit on by men of different races.
Anonymous
02/09/2021 21:14
Subject: POC women, do you feel celebrated for your beauty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. As a thin-ish Korean woman who is fairly tall, I feel like I got a lot of unwanted attention when I was younger. Less so now, of course, but still...
Plenty of American men, especially older ones, are fond on Asian women
Older ones? Whatever do you mean? Men of all ages are into Asian women.
+1 I think teens and 20-somethings are finding Asian women (and men) pretty darn attractive. Maybe a consequence of this whole K-Pop, K-Drama, and K-Beauty phenomenon?
East Asian. Not southeast Asian.
I don't think most non-Asians can tell the difference, quite frankly.
Southeast Asian refers typically to Indians. East Asians refer to Chinese, Korean, and Japanese. Most people, non-Asians, can tell the difference between an Indian and an East Asian.
Wrong. South East Asians are people from places like Malaysia, Indonesia, Philippines, Thailand, Laos, etc....