Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 19:36     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who had to google "bar pan?" Yes? Well then.... But I kind of want that now.


Bar Pan Lover here. It is awesome. You can literally cook anything on it and it won’t stick. Also it gets seasoned and better over time. I roast a lot of veggies and the kids will only eat the ones from the bar pan. It is magic.

Maybe OP can send along her SIL’s link?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 19:29     Subject: Re:Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.


OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.


OP you sound perfect. so peachy!!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 19:28     Subject: Re:Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:No offense but how is Pampered Chef any better than the utensils out there? If I want a good utensil, I’ll look up America’s test kitchen and not buy something from an unemployed SAHM who’s looking to make a buck.


Isn't she working if she is trying to sell these? Do you call all people in sales jobs unemployed. Aren't we all just "looking to make a buck".

Also, why are you so bitter at the SAHM part? Does your job suck that much?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 19:06     Subject: Re:Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
No offense but how is Pampered Chef any better than the utensils out there? If I want a good utensil, I’ll look up America’s test kitchen and not buy something from an unemployed SAHM who’s looking to make a buck.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:50     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Is the bar pan the snack bar maker set or something else?

The brownie pan looks great.

No OP, but I love my pampered chef food chopper. Scare the heck out of my dog when I use it though.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:48     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Just buy something.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:47     Subject: Re:Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.


OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.


She does sound annoying and while DCUM seems supportive of the SIL, I can understand OP’s feelings. I would just ignore and not buy anything because next thing you know, she’s going to try to recruit you. So don’t encourage her at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:40     Subject: Re:Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
If there is an uptick on their site, I hope they can see all the people coming over from DURBAN! I have to admit, I went to their site for first time just now. Maybe this thread was actually started by a super clever Pampered Chef Social Media Intern!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:26     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who had to google "bar pan?" Yes? Well then.... But I kind of want that now.


What do you do with said pan?


Brownies.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:23     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:I love Pampered Chef. Here is what you should buy:

Bar pan (have had mine for 12 years)
Brownie pan (your DH and ass will thank me)
Mix and Scrap spatula (it will complete you)


I also have gotten some good things at a reasonable price. This one sounds odd but the can opener with the magnet to hold the lid is GREAT! This was maybe 10 years ago but after I bought one for myself I ended up going back to the seller and buying one for every friend and family member I had for Christmas gifts or stocking stuffers. I got loads of compliments and thanks from the recipients (although maybe one or two probably thought it was an odd present!).
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:17     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who had to google "bar pan?" Yes? Well then.... But I kind of want that now.


What do you do with said pan?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:14     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
The little mini square serving spatula is awesome and I use it all the time, for serving desserts or lasagna it is great.

The mini appie square plates are really great too.

I get it's annoying but it sounds like she's not being too over the top with it (though I didn't read the whole thread). If you could use the items and aren't broke why not take a look, just make it clear it's a one time splurge.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 18:04     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Am I the only one who had to google "bar pan?" Yes? Well then.... But I kind of want that now.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 17:57     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
So first it could have been worse, like the nail kits that people were bananas over? Pampered chef pizza stone is a favorite for making good frozen pizza in our house.

On the other hand, you told your DH about it, he says you guys have to buy something, so he’ll buy something when he gets around to it (if this was my DH it would take about a year) and if he asks about it just say you thought *he* wanted to buy something since obviously you don’t. When SIL follows up you say “I asked DH!”
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2021 17:47     Subject: Annoying message on Facebook from SIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love Pampered Chef. Here is what you should buy:

Bar pan (have had mine for 12 years)
Brownie pan (your DH and ass will thank me)
Mix and Scrap spatula (it will complete you)


I have no need for any of those and I hate buying stuff that we don't need. Her DH (brothers with mine) complains that SIL buys a lot of stuff that they cannot even clear the basement for a remodel. Plus she doesn't cook at home 80% of the time so I'm puzzled why she's into this initiative.
Okay I agree with you about this but why are you making it your business what she does with her money and time? I'd buy something to be polite but you don't even have to do that. Just say no. But leave her alone and let her continue on. It's not you job to make her see the light.