Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:35     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
I would also be mad, but I am cheap and practical. He spent $5,000 in jointly owned funds on something she specifically said she didn't want and that cannot be returned. Since they can't be returned, I guess your only option is to sell them (likely at a loss), regift them, have them made into another piece of jewelry that you like better, or wear them occasionally.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:35     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH here. You (OP) are super annoying and I hope he divorces you for a younger woman who isn’t such a shrew.

So he got you a gift that isn’t your favorite and wouldn’t have been your choice. So what. Whether it’s his own male pride or his mom liked diamonds or he got duped by a commercial, so what. It’s an expression of love. And you’re being an ugly, ungrateful, disloyal wife by having such an attitude.

I have NEVER gotten angry or upset about the failings of a GIFT. And many of them have sucked. I’m sure you’ve given and done tons of things that your DH didn’t want or need, barely wanted or needed, or in fact affirmatively did not want and did not need. So the F what. If you love someone you smile and move on. God you suck so bad.


It’s not the “failings of a gift.” It’s her husband’s failure to hear her and respect her wishes and needs and instead bulldoze over her to do what he wants. If you don’t see that, then you are the one that sucks so bad, not OP.


Receiving a gift is not ordering off a menu, unless you’re a hooker or have an onlyfans account.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:29     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:DH here. You (OP) are super annoying and I hope he divorces you for a younger woman who isn’t such a shrew.

So he got you a gift that isn’t your favorite and wouldn’t have been your choice. So what. Whether it’s his own male pride or his mom liked diamonds or he got duped by a commercial, so what. It’s an expression of love. And you’re being an ugly, ungrateful, disloyal wife by having such an attitude.

I have NEVER gotten angry or upset about the failings of a GIFT. And many of them have sucked. I’m sure you’ve given and done tons of things that your DH didn’t want or need, barely wanted or needed, or in fact affirmatively did not want and did not need. So the F what. If you love someone you smile and move on. God you suck so bad.


It’s not the “failings of a gift.” It’s her husband’s failure to hear her and respect her wishes and needs and instead bulldoze over her to do what he wants. If you don’t see that, then you are the one that sucks so bad, not OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:26     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
DH here. You (OP) are super annoying and I hope he divorces you for a younger woman who isn’t such a shrew.

So he got you a gift that isn’t your favorite and wouldn’t have been your choice. So what. Whether it’s his own male pride or his mom liked diamonds or he got duped by a commercial, so what. It’s an expression of love. And you’re being an ugly, ungrateful, disloyal wife by having such an attitude.

I have NEVER gotten angry or upset about the failings of a GIFT. And many of them have sucked. I’m sure you’ve given and done tons of things that your DH didn’t want or need, barely wanted or needed, or in fact affirmatively did not want and did not need. So the F what. If you love someone you smile and move on. God you suck so bad.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:17     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Did you read the OP? This is not a special surprise. This is something she specifically said she did not want.

Sorry, OP. My DH has done something similar and it really pisses me off. For my DH, it is at least partly because he cares for me and wants to make me happy, but there’s also this paternalistic aspect that he knows best and he knows what I want better than I do, which is total crap. He’d like it to be true because that’s what he thinks good husbands are/do. I’d prefer he just listen to me and take it at face value. I’m not being coy.


It doesn’t sound like either of you have good marriages, or are particularly capable of thinking about the other person’s perspective or feelings,
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:10     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Did you read the OP? This is not a special surprise. This is something she specifically said she did not want.

Sorry, OP. My DH has done something similar and it really pisses me off. For my DH, it is at least partly because he cares for me and wants to make me happy, but there’s also this paternalistic aspect that he knows best and he knows what I want better than I do, which is total crap. He’d like it to be true because that’s what he thinks good husbands are/do. I’d prefer he just listen to me and take it at face value. I’m not being coy.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:08     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Even if it is something you told him you werent interested in?


Can’t control everything in life, including what other people chose to gift you. You can control whether you throw a tantrum if the gift wasn’t what you wanted.


If he had not asked that would be truebut shetold him she didnt want or need it. If your dh like football and hated soccer wouldu expec him to be thrilled if you got him expensive tickets to the world cup not the superbowl? I dont think so!


I don’t think you understand what it means to be gracious. Life isn’t about getting exactly what you want every second.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:06     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Even if it is something you told him you werent interested in?


Can’t control everything in life, including what other people chose to gift you. You can control whether you throw a tantrum if the gift wasn’t what you wanted.


If he had not asked that would be truebut shetold him she didnt want or need it. If your dh like football and hated soccer wouldu expec him to be thrilled if you got him expensive tickets to the world cup not the superbowl? I dont think so!
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 23:02     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
It's a check-the-box thing to quickly buy and look superficially good to most people. It's not like the men are designing the setting or choosing birthstones or favorite designers, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:38     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Even if it is something you told him you werent interested in?


Can’t control everything in life, including what other people chose to gift you. You can control whether you throw a tantrum if the gift wasn’t what you wanted.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:37     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:The privilege on this thread is amazing. OP, you are a real bitch.


If you are a woman calling the op the b word. You should look in the mirror. It aint the op who is a female dog
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:35     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Just be happy he got you a good gift. You are such a horrible person.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:34     Subject: I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
The privilege on this thread is amazing. OP, you are a real bitch.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:34     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


This!!!! No wonder your husbands cheat!


A cheater doesnt need a reason.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 22:32     Subject: Re:I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.


Even if it is something you told him you werent interested in?