Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:38     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We're going through this right now with our 8 yo.

I tried to explain that Santa Claus is the spirit of Christmas and the urge to give something to someone you love that you know will make them happy.


Thisis what we did. Santa is the spirit of giving to others that everyone feels


Op here. We talked about this some too but I think it’s over her head.

We are going to invite her to wrap the Santa present for her 2 year old brother after he goes to bed on Christmas Eve. Maybe she’ll find some fun in being Santa herself.


Try again, but not with Christmas presents. Have her make cookies, or do art, or sing a song, etc, for someone else, and then talk about how that made her feel. Then talk about how that feeling of love and care and joy is really what Christmas is about.

Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:28     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:Some girl in my daughter’s kindergarten class had parents like this. She came in and told everyone Santa wasn’t real. My daughter was in tears and I just told her that the little girl’s parents were so mean they didn’t allow Santa in their house so the poor girl doesn’t know he’s real. That worked.


And you think the other parents are the crazy ones??!!??

Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:26     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Dc5 believes in Santa while dc8 has doubt as a kid at class said Santa’s not real. Kids grow up very fast but we feel it’s no harm to keep the magic little bit longer. We watched “the polor express” movie and both DCs believe in Santa.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:25     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:bitch, Santa is real


Keep up the lie or PP will f*ck you up.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:24     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am really sad for her. I think she was too young to understand why we all lie to kids.


Some of us dont lie.


If you think it is a "lie," there is no hope for you.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:20     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:One sure thing, OP will be banned from talking Santa with her grandkid(s).

Yes, it's mean, but like you said what's done is done.

Poor kid. She's going to remember it the rest of her life.




No she isn't. If anything she will be less likely to remember than a kid whose parents told him until he was 9 or 10 that there was a Santa and then found out the lie

OP, I think you are fine. Just talk about the magic of Christmas and how happy you are that you are all together and turn the focus away from the actual gifts.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 09:02     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Some girl in my daughter’s kindergarten class had parents like this. She came in and told everyone Santa wasn’t real. My daughter was in tears and I just told her that the little girl’s parents were so mean they didn’t allow Santa in their house so the poor girl doesn’t know he’s real. That worked.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 08:52     Subject: Re:Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People are so over the top about this. She may be a bit disappointed but she’ll be thrilled with the presents regardless. The folks acting like she’ll be scarred for life are insane.


A lot of songs around Christmas are about the excitement children feel wondering if Santa is coming to their house. It's a huge deal in our culture and it sucks when some kids are left out of it. It's smug and ridiculous.


You think it sucks, but kids who have never known any different don’t care. And kids who are curious/skeptical will only enjoy it for so long. Seems more for the parents than the kids at some point. Anyway, it’s done, so why make OP feel bad? Her kid will be totally fine.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 08:48     Subject: Re:Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:People are so over the top about this. She may be a bit disappointed but she’ll be thrilled with the presents regardless. The folks acting like she’ll be scarred for life are insane.


A lot of songs around Christmas are about the excitement children feel wondering if Santa is coming to their house. It's a huge deal in our culture and it sucks when some kids are left out of it. It's smug and ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 08:26     Subject: Re:Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
People are so over the top about this. She may be a bit disappointed but she’ll be thrilled with the presents regardless. The folks acting like she’ll be scarred for life are insane.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 08:06     Subject: Re:Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
My kids just acted like Santa was real for years after they knew - and except for one, I don’t even know she the others figured it out. Give it time. And if you have younger kids, you can make her Santa’s helper.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 07:46     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Sorry, I’m in the camp of why on earth ruin Xmas for a 4 year old? Have fun when she tells the other kindergarteners next year and all the parents blame you.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2020 20:39     Subject: Re:Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you took the magic away from a 4yo. It brings them such joy. You have made your bed though, so now you lay in it.


That's real helpful, PP. You must be such a joy.


+100
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2020 14:36     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
I don’t lie about it whether Santa is real (6-year-old parent here), but I will say that some believe Santa is real and some don’t (true), what do you think? Similar to religious questions we field.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2020 12:17     Subject: Disappointment that Santa isn’t real
I just want to point out these two quotes next to each other.

Anonymous wrote:Every year, same thread.

There is plenty of magic and childhood innocence with a Santa that is imaginary, no need to create a narrative that inevitably ends with dropping your kid off of a truth cliff.

We have always give presents from Santa, take pictures with Santa, leave candy for Santa, promote the imaginary spirit of Santa, etc. - but the kids have always known that it's an imaginary thing that is FUN but not REAL.

There is still magic and fun in a make-believe Santa.

Listening to parents who INSTANTLY tell their kids for YEARS that Santa is real, and then complain about breaking their kids' hearts with the truth.... No sympathy for you.



Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with children believing in Santa? The "I won't lie to my kids" excuse is bizarre. I believe parents who say that just don't want to be in the effort.


DP, but we put a ton of effort in at Christmas. We believe in doing the work it takes to do a good celebration. We just believe in a different main thing for Christmas, and want to keep the main thing the main thing. I'm sorry that's so hard for second PP to understand.