Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

You probably sleep trained for nights. Naps are a whole different story and a different part of the brain. You CANNOT nap train an eight month old. It cannot be done. It is abusive (and this is from someone who sleep trains full CIO at four months on the dot).

OP you sons wake times are too short. A two month old can stay up for more than 60 minutes. He's probably waking up because he's not tired enough.

PLEASE PLEASE for the love of god try some of these other methods first. Hire a doula. Drive around. Hire a sleep consultant. Do not resort to Ferber.

*eight week old

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

You probably sleep trained for nights. Naps are a whole different story and a different part of the brain. You CANNOT nap train an eight month old. It cannot be done. It is abusive (and this is from someone who sleep trains full CIO at four months on the dot).

OP you sons wake times are too short. A two month old can stay up for more than 60 minutes. He's probably waking up because he's not tired enough.

PLEASE PLEASE for the love of god try some of these other methods first. Hire a doula. Drive around. Hire a sleep consultant. Do not resort to Ferber.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

OP here. Can you give me an example of a schedule? He is isn't on one yet. He eats every 3 hours and goes down for naps every 60 minutes but that's it. He is gaining weight.

It sounds like he is on a schedule! Omg OP you are expecting too much of your fresh babe. Please get some mom friends, some perspective, and some grace for yourself and most importantly your baby.

OP here. All my mom friends are telling me to sleep train. They did and they said it was the best decision. My best friend sleep trained at this age.

He is on a routine but times are different everyday.

You need to go on Amazon and order the Contented Little Baby Book. The schedules change week by week based on age. About 80 percent of babies will fall into this schedule pretty naturally once you introduce it. It has been 19 years, but the naps were not every 60 minutes even at a young age as I recall.

This is a joke right...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op my child was a lot like yours
I am the one who did the contented little baby book.

I followed the schedule there and put my child down for naps at the suggested times. It he cried through his nap so be it
I took the opportunity to take a shower and get dressed, etc. That didn't last long -- he learned to appreciate nap time quickly. He ate well and slept great on the schedule.

He is a happy, healthy strapping young man now.

OP here. How old was your baby when you did this? The other methods I'm looking at are Ferber and BabyWise.

Are you joking with Babywise? Babywise was "originally published in 1990 as ‘Preparation for Parenting: Bringing God’s Order to Your Baby’s Day and Restful Sleep to Your Baby’s Night’, (Christian edition written by Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo), the book was rebranded in 1993. It became known as ‘On Becoming Babywise’ and Robert Bucknam MD replaced Anne Marie Ezzo as co-author." There is nothing in the original print nor the re-branding print that has biological and/or anthropological basis.

"It takes several months for a newborn baby to begin establishing a pattern in their sleep cycles. Even then, regular disruption is inevitable, as rapid neurological and physical development in the first years interrupts newly-established patterns. In fact, one study investigating infant sleep duration found that 27% of babies had not regularly slept from 10pm to 6am by the age of 1 year.

Yet, Babywise claims: “… healthy, full-term babies are born with the capacity to achieve 7-8 hours of continuous night time sleep between seven and ten weeks of age, and 10-12 hours of sleep by twelve weeks of age.”

This is like reading the blanket training book for discipline strategies.

I believe in sleep training but 8 weeks is way too young.

Anonymous wrote:My babies only slept on a person (or sometimes in the car) at that age. Get a wrap/sling/carrier and strap the baby on. Go for a walk or go about your business. Baby will likely sleep snd be content.
A newborn primate should NOT be left alone to cry.

Yes this too. OP please listen to what people are saying. Rent a SNOO and see if that works before trying to sleep train an 8 week old! And BabyWise is widely regarded as abusive, you shouldn’t follow that advice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

OP here. Can you give me an example of a schedule? He is isn't on one yet. He eats every 3 hours and goes down for naps every 60 minutes but that's it. He is gaining weight.

It sounds like he is on a schedule! Omg OP you are expecting too much of your fresh babe. Please get some mom friends, some perspective, and some grace for yourself and most importantly your baby.

OP here. All my mom friends are telling me to sleep train. They did and they said it was the best decision. My best friend sleep trained at this age.

He is on a routine but times are different everyday.

My babies only slept on a person (or sometimes in the car) at that age. Get a wrap/sling/carrier and strap the baby on. Go for a walk or go about your business. Baby will likely sleep snd be content.
A newborn primate should NOT be left alone to cry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op my child was a lot like yours
I am the one who did the contented little baby book.

I followed the schedule there and put my child down for naps at the suggested times. It he cried through his nap so be it
I took the opportunity to take a shower and get dressed, etc. That didn't last long -- he learned to appreciate nap time quickly. He ate well and slept great on the schedule.

He is a happy, healthy strapping young man now.

OP here. How old was your baby when you did this? The other methods I'm looking at are Ferber and BabyWise.

Holy F Op do not do this. I’m saying this as a mom of three with a four month old who sleep trained her second and plans on doing it to number three in a month or two. Your lack of empathy is troubling. Have you been evaluated for PPD or PPA? You are not supposed to want to leave your 8 week old to scream until they vomit or fall asleep from sheer exhaustion. It’s against what is supposed to be your natural instinct. That you aren’t feeling this may mean you need some help or to hire some help. Sleep deprivation does a number on mental health. Please don’t entertain 1960s mom who let their tiny baby scream.

OP here. I'm helping him get sleep and myself with sleep training. I didn't post whether I should or not. I posted asking for advice for those who did. I don't need to be lectured about how I'm a terrible person.

And girlfriend we are telling you your baby is too young. Really. At that age it’s just kind of mean. That you don’t FEEL anything is a sign you need help. There is no shame in it. I had PPD with my first baby. You don’t sound like you are in a healthy place. I would tell you that even not on an anonymous forum. I’m sorry your baby is not napping as you imagined he would. Most babies don’t. If you have enough sleep to function from the nighttime at eight weeks that is awesome. For the naps why not try a swing or a vibrating bouncy seat or a carrier. If your baby has reflux and is in pain making him scream for you will not help. Wishing you the best. Motherhood is hard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

OP here. Can you give me an example of a schedule? He is isn't on one yet. He eats every 3 hours and goes down for naps every 60 minutes but that's it. He is gaining weight.

It sounds like he is on a schedule! Omg OP you are expecting too much of your fresh babe. Please get some mom friends, some perspective, and some grace for yourself and most importantly your baby.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this is normal and no, it isn't appropriate to sleep train an 8 month old. Do you have a partner who can step up to help sometimes?

^ 8 week old, sorry

+1.

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

OP here. Can you give me an example of a schedule? He is isn't on one yet. He eats every 3 hours and goes down for naps every 60 minutes but that's it. He is gaining weight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op my child was a lot like yours
I am the one who did the contented little baby book.

I followed the schedule there and put my child down for naps at the suggested times. It he cried through his nap so be it
I took the opportunity to take a shower and get dressed, etc. That didn't last long -- he learned to appreciate nap time quickly. He ate well and slept great on the schedule.

He is a happy, healthy strapping young man now.

OP here. How old was your baby when you did this? The other methods I'm looking at are Ferber and BabyWise.

I started with the overall schedule at 2 weeks but didn't leave him to cry. But he cried like yours even when being held or no matter what I did. He did have reflux so I kept him upright after feeding. His crib mattress was on an incline too and took medication.

He got his day and night flipped at a few days old
A schedule helped right that; it is initially why we sought out the schedule


Then we eased him into a nap schedule but at the beginning he cried throgh his half hour nap, but he cried if I held him too. He hated any kind of carrier so that didn't work.

I finally just put him in his crib and left for naps.
I needed to shower, eat, do the baby laundry, etc. After maybe 5 days he started getting sleep and really started calming down.

Anonymous wrote:We did sleep training at 8weeks with the Pediatrician's blessings. DC was gaining weight steadily, and passed that x lbs mark (can't remember what it was). We also put DC on a nap/feeding schedule, and it was like night/day.

I would highly advise a schedule and keeping to it as much as possible.

PP here.. we also used the Contended Little Baby book.

Sleep begets sleep. Don't feel badly about sleep training. My kids are teens now, and they are great sleepers.