Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 17:02     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
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Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.




NP. To me the biggest reason to veto an animal is that her daughter is 16. She will be off to college in 1-3 years max. Animals live much longer and then the parents are stuck with the pet while DD is off living her life. You always need to consider the lifespan of the pet. We are not a family that rehomes pets for any reason.

As it stands now I will be caring for three 8 year old lizards next fall. There’s no way I’d agree to any new pets from age 12 on.


PP, I love you!


Seconded! I would recommend fostering a dog if you got a HS kid and just want to try it out. We fostered a cat (yes yes very different I know) and my oldest DD 15 then had a nice little summer project of taking care of the cat. Fairly cheap on our end as we did not have to pay for healthcare. Cat got adopted to a forever home by end of summer and happy endings for everyone!

Kids enjoyed the experience and weren't devastated when it was time to say goodbye since we made it clear it's a short term situation. DD in college plans to get a cat after graduation and I get to live out my empty nest years in peace
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 10:40     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
17 and 19 YO - nice razor set?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 22:47     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



Time to introduce her to something new via gift! Something she doesn't know she'll enjoy yet, e.g., Broadway show IOU, digital camera, robotics set, knitting gear, a ski trip, cooking or baking lessons with chefs tools, etc.

Or since she like animals, donate to train a dog somewhere like here: https://k9partnersforpatriots.com/service-dog-training-program/


https://www.guidedogs.com/support-gdb/donate
https://www.guidedog.org/GD/Help/Donate/GD/HowToHelp/waystogive.aspx?hkey=b8e09553-f8c8-420c-aad2-d36340749c8c
https://secure3.convio.net/guide/site/Donation2?df_id=1400&1400.donation=form1&mfc_pref=T

Become a puppy handler.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 22:43     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.




NP. To me the biggest reason to veto an animal is that her daughter is 16. She will be off to college in 1-3 years max. Animals live much longer and then the parents are stuck with the pet while DD is off living her life. You always need to consider the lifespan of the pet. We are not a family that rehomes pets for any reason.

As it stands now I will be caring for three 8 year old lizards next fall. There’s no way I’d agree to any new pets from age 12 on.


PP, I love you!
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2020 09:55     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old boy is getting this exactly:

1) Unbroken (book)
2) The Finest Hours (book)
3) Tale as Old as Time: Twisted Tale (book)
4) 10 Conspiracies (book)
5) JK Rowling Book (whatever her new one is)
6) Buckbeak figure
7) Smore Maker
8) OH FUDGE
9) Whitman’s Sampler
10) Jelly Beans Box Set of 20 flavors
11) Time Capsule Making Kit
12) Math Books
13) Harry Potter Watch
14) Marvel Chess
15) D&D Starter Set

I am doing angel gifts for 3 kids this year.

the 13 year old girl is getting: an easel, paints, colored pencils, a calendar with daily activities, and a book

the 14 year old girl is getting shorts, colored pencils, a hydroflask, a blanket, Quick Cups game

the 16 year old girl is getting a huge makeup cabooble thing from Ulta, a motivational feel good daily calendar, a blanket, colored pencils, and an Agatha Christie book set


You sound like a nice person. That is all.


Agreed!
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2020 09:10     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old boy is getting this exactly:

1) Unbroken (book)
2) The Finest Hours (book)
3) Tale as Old as Time: Twisted Tale (book)
4) 10 Conspiracies (book)
5) JK Rowling Book (whatever her new one is)
6) Buckbeak figure
7) Smore Maker
8) OH FUDGE
9) Whitman’s Sampler
10) Jelly Beans Box Set of 20 flavors
11) Time Capsule Making Kit
12) Math Books
13) Harry Potter Watch
14) Marvel Chess
15) D&D Starter Set

I am doing angel gifts for 3 kids this year.

the 13 year old girl is getting: an easel, paints, colored pencils, a calendar with daily activities, and a book

the 14 year old girl is getting shorts, colored pencils, a hydroflask, a blanket, Quick Cups game

the 16 year old girl is getting a huge makeup cabooble thing from Ulta, a motivational feel good daily calendar, a blanket, colored pencils, and an Agatha Christie book set


You sound like a nice person. That is all.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2020 20:52     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
My 13 year old boy is getting this exactly:

1) Unbroken (book)
2) The Finest Hours (book)
3) Tale as Old as Time: Twisted Tale (book)
4) 10 Conspiracies (book)
5) JK Rowling Book (whatever her new one is)
6) Buckbeak figure
7) Smore Maker
8) OH FUDGE
9) Whitman’s Sampler
10) Jelly Beans Box Set of 20 flavors
11) Time Capsule Making Kit
12) Math Books
13) Harry Potter Watch
14) Marvel Chess
15) D&D Starter Set

I am doing angel gifts for 3 kids this year.

the 13 year old girl is getting: an easel, paints, colored pencils, a calendar with daily activities, and a book

the 14 year old girl is getting shorts, colored pencils, a hydroflask, a blanket, Quick Cups game

the 16 year old girl is getting a huge makeup cabooble thing from Ulta, a motivational feel good daily calendar, a blanket, colored pencils, and an Agatha Christie book set
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 13:45     Subject: Re:Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
An ipad and shirts isn’t enough as presents? That’s more than my kids will be getting. Shirts and socks. Earbuds for the one who lost hers. A couple books. . AP study guides. (Because he doesn’t want us to spend the money on them so the only way to get around it is to make it a gift.) I am grateful for our kids lack of materialism. We’re not poor at all but in this area sometimes it sure feels like it.


Don't break your arm patting yourself on the back! The judgmental on your post is strong. Different families do things differently and just because your kids don't want much does not mean they are somehow "better." And let me throw a little judgment back at you - maybe you should examine why your teen is worried about you spending money on AP books if you can afford them.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 13:36     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
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Anonymous wrote:I do what 11:44 did. If you don't tell me, then socks and a pack of Hanes underwear it is. Both my teen boys want skin products (that don't smell too girly!).


DS also wants skin products that don't smell too girly. Any recs, anyone?


First Aid Beauty (I know it sounds girly but it's not and doesn't have a scent). I bought my (then 12 now 13) yr old DS the face wash, lotion and the face wipe pads.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 13:01     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
My 13 year old son wants a new-to-him refurbished phone and soccer jerseys for two of his favorite players.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 08:44     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:I do what 11:44 did. If you don't tell me, then socks and a pack of Hanes underwear it is. Both my teen boys want skin products (that don't smell too girly!).


DS also wants skin products that don't smell too girly. Any recs, anyone?
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 08:43     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
You can still travel if you have a dog.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2020 08:42     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.




NP. To me the biggest reason to veto an animal is that her daughter is 16. She will be off to college in 1-3 years max. Animals live much longer and then the parents are stuck with the pet while DD is off living her life. You always need to consider the lifespan of the pet. We are not a family that rehomes pets for any reason.

As it stands now I will be caring for three 8 year old lizards next fall. There’s no way I’d agree to any new pets from age 12 on.


I'm a shjtty parent, too! My 14 almost 15 yo wants a dog, too. No way. My SIL did that when her girls were teens. Kid who wanted it took care of it for a few months then was done picking up the crap in the backyard. Now, they're gone and guess who can't travel?


Definitely. We did get the dog but did calculated the dog's average lifespan vs. my youngest kid going off the college. We'll probably have two years or so alone with the dog after the youngest leaves. We figure that'll be fine because who knows where the kids will go to college and what kind of support they may or may not need. Just still...we weren't thrilled about the two years.