Anonymous wrote:Yes, nanny should have told you that someone in her living situation was sick. But calm down, OP. Talk to her and stress the importance of full disclosure as you clearly weren’t clear about it (she freely volunteered that her own child was sick not thinking there was anything wrong with it).

Make it clear and move forward.

Is she foreign, per chance? I’m a Mexican-American and for some reason our community is not at all compliant with the importance of isolating, masks and other protocols

Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:What makes you think your family got it from the nanny’s kid? My kids are in elementary school and often times colds and stomach bugs go around totally separate groups of kids at the same time. I have often mentioned that my kid threw up and a friend with kids in a separate school will say her kid had the same bug, it lasted a week/2 days etc. Obviously my friends kids didn’t give it to mine. I would have read your nanny’s comment in the same way - along the lines oh ‘oh yeah, that bug is going around!’ If the nanny didn’t get sick, I would assume it’s just a coincidence.

And if you intend for your nanny to stay home any time her kid is sick, you need to tell her that and then pay her for her time.

OP here - my kids are in distance learning and are not around other children to pick up bugs.

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you expect the nanny you hire to limit her interactions to just your family, you need to hire a live in nanny and pay her hourly rate requirement around the clock. That is the only way you can have complete control over what she does, where she goes, and who she sees.

So let’s say there is a nanny out there willing to surrender control of her own life to you. To do that, she wants $30 per hour. Her weekly gross pay would be $5240. She Will also need her own bedroom and bathroom at a bare minimum, although a private suite would be best. You’ll need to pay for her food, since you will want to control where the groceries come from.

You’d also need to guarantee her weekly pay, and would need to compensate her for emotional distress if anyone close to her dies and she can’t attend the funeral.

So about $500,000 a year to have a nanny you can completely control!

If that’s not fiscally possible, you will have to deal with having a nanny who is human and might have a sick child or even get sick herself. If you can’t cope with that, you or your DH needs to quit working and be the nanny yourselves.

Anonymous wrote:You should have hired a single nanny who lives alone. Hiring a nanny with a family, all working or going to school out of the house, was your first mistake.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, did you build in a 2 week paid time off period during the year? Or more?

If so, please fire the dishonest nanny. You should have no trouble finding another one

if you did not, then please check your entitlement and privilege.

Yup - no doubt you would have been on here bitching about how inconvenient it was that your recently hired nanny was staying home to take care of a sick child so soon after starting.

Who is taking care of her child BTW - did you even bother to ask?

Never in all my years of working was I ever asked by an employer who was taking care of my child - nor would I expect them too.

+1 ask any HR professional; it is a totally off limits question.

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Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

Those are classic Covid symptoms.

YOU NEED TO ISOLATE AND TEST. DO NOT SEE ANYONE ELSE UNTIL YOU TEST NEGATIVE.

Don't eff around with this.

Literally EVERYTHING is a Covid symptom. Many people have had COVID, but have been "asymptomatic" so feeling perfectly fine and dandy is also a "classic Covid symptom."

Don’t be obtuse. Of course there’s only so much that can be done about asymptomatic spread but if the family has clear symptoms they should isolate and test.

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Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

Those are classic Covid symptoms.

YOU NEED TO ISOLATE AND TEST. DO NOT SEE ANYONE ELSE UNTIL YOU TEST NEGATIVE.

Don't eff around with this.

Literally EVERYTHING is a Covid symptom. Many people have had COVID, but have been "asymptomatic" so feeling perfectly fine and dandy is also a "classic Covid symptom."

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Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

Those are classic Covid symptoms.

YOU NEED TO ISOLATE AND TEST. DO NOT SEE ANYONE ELSE UNTIL YOU TEST NEGATIVE.

Don't eff around with this.

Literally EVERYTHING is a Covid symptom. Many people have had COVID, but have been "asymptomatic" so feeling perfectly fine and dandy is also a "classic Covid symptom."

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Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

Those are classic Covid symptoms.

YOU NEED TO ISOLATE AND TEST. DO NOT SEE ANYONE ELSE UNTIL YOU TEST NEGATIVE.

Don't eff around with this.

Anonymous wrote:Our family has been quarantining heavily (including having all groceries delivered due to my husband's illnesses). We very reluctantly hired a nanny so that we could get help managing distance learning and working from home. A few days ago, our kids started getting sick with sore throats, runny noses, and one child threw up. I notified our nanny via text that our kids were sick and she mentioned in her reply that her daughter had the same bug a few days before. I was beyond angry that she would come to our home and get the entire family sick (its now making its way to my husband and I) and never say a word about her child being ill. This is more than likely just a cold, but I now don't trust her to mention any potential COVID exposure or symptoms. When we hired her, she agreed to limit her interactions to our family. Am I overreacting in reconsidering having a nanny? The stress of having to worry about someone else's honesty and level of care is becoming difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, did you build in a 2 week paid time off period during the year? Or more?

If so, please fire the dishonest nanny. You should have no trouble finding another one

if you did not, then please check your entitlement and privilege.

Yup - no doubt you would have been on here bitching about how inconvenient it was that your recently hired nanny was staying home to take care of a sick child so soon after starting.

Who is taking care of her child BTW - did you even bother to ask?

Never in all my years of working was I ever asked by an employer who was taking care of my child - nor would I expect them too.