Anonymous
Post 11/19/2020 04:37     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher. I have a long last name and I get it’s unique. However, my name is not Mrs. G. You should spell my entire name in emails and not have your children address me as a letter of an alphabet. I find it very rude. I have no problem with you saying it wrong and I nicely correctly you multiple times. However, you can not just give up. Thank you.


As long as I'm not called the n word, b word, etc. I honestly don't care.

I respond to First Name, Ms. First Name, Ms. Last Name, Ms. Last Name pronounced wrong, Hey You, m'am, sir, [Subject I teach ] teacher, Teacher, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 21:55     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:Refusing to learn my name makes you a racist.


Are you a non-binary vegan non-denominational colorful emo that thinks there are thousands of genders? Eat some tide pods. They’ll hope your iron levels!
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 21:29     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.


Absolutely, I expect that parents address teachers by their last name, and likewise for teachers to address parents by their last name. Neither should be on a first-name basis unless they happen to know each other socially, as well.

It is outright rude for a parent or teacher to automatically use a first name in an email to the other. It is not appropriate.


That is your opinion. That is not my opinion. I think it is much more appropriate for adults to call one another by first name when child is not present, especially over email when there is no wat a child could overhear it. It seems rude not to do so. And when my child’s principal addresses me in an email as Dear firstname, when we have never been in touch before, I welcomeD it and don’t find it rude. We are adults, and I write back using Dear firstname.


So if a teacher's email signature says, "Sincerely, Mrs. Smith," you'd write back, "Dear Mary"?



I would not call her anything. I’d just reply to the email address without a greeting (or just “Hi,”) and I would sign my first name.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 21:27     Subject: Re:S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am so confused about all the people talking about using Mrs./Mr. LastName in a professional setting... so you say that for your colleagues?? Your boss? That’s so bizarre to me.


No all my colleagues but my boss? Absolutely. He's an older person in a position of authority. I only call him Mr. Lastname either to his face or wish referencing him. That's a normal part of office culture to me. Similarly, lots of my coworkers go by Mr. or Ms. Lastname (or Dr. where appropriate). I'm pretty senior in my office so I use more people's first names, but newer employees basically all use titles and last names. It doesn't seem that weird to me.


That is not the norm. I have always called everyone I work with by their first names. I work at a well-known large national nonprofit and am a peon and we all call the CEO by first name.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 20:52     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.


Absolutely, I expect that parents address teachers by their last name, and likewise for teachers to address parents by their last name. Neither should be on a first-name basis unless they happen to know each other socially, as well.

It is outright rude for a parent or teacher to automatically use a first name in an email to the other. It is not appropriate.


That is your opinion. That is not my opinion. I think it is much more appropriate for adults to call one another by first name when child is not present, especially over email when there is no wat a child could overhear it. It seems rude not to do so. And when my child’s principal addresses me in an email as Dear firstname, when we have never been in touch before, I welcomeD it and don’t find it rude. We are adults, and I write back using Dear firstname.


So if a teacher's email signature says, "Sincerely, Mrs. Smith," you'd write back, "Dear Mary"?

Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 20:30     Subject: Re:S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:I am so confused about all the people talking about using Mrs./Mr. LastName in a professional setting... so you say that for your colleagues?? Your boss? That’s so bizarre to me.


No all my colleagues but my boss? Absolutely. He's an older person in a position of authority. I only call him Mr. Lastname either to his face or wish referencing him. That's a normal part of office culture to me. Similarly, lots of my coworkers go by Mr. or Ms. Lastname (or Dr. where appropriate). I'm pretty senior in my office so I use more people's first names, but newer employees basically all use titles and last names. It doesn't seem that weird to me.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 09:24     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:I came here thinking you were objecting to the Mrs.


The Mrs. rather than Ms. is a minor pet peeve for me. I do correct it when people say it, but so don’t bother in writing. It looks dickish without the tone being conveyed. Another weird thing is that people add a random “s” to the end of my surname. My last name is a noun that can be plural, but is not really plural as a surname. Think Stone. How many people have you heard of with the last name Stones?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 09:00     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:Is it difficult to spell or say then stfu or get married to a normal last name


Racist spotted! What do you mean by “normal” last name?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2020 00:06     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
I came here thinking you were objecting to the Mrs.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 23:36     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher. I have a long last name and I get it’s unique. However, my name is not Mrs. G. You should spell my entire name in emails and not have your children address me as a letter of an alphabet. I find it very rude. I have no problem with you saying it wrong and I nicely correctly you multiple times. However, you can not just give up. Thank you.



Haha. I have a long last name that is unique. I could have written this, but the punch line would have been my name is MS. G.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 22:23     Subject: Re:S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
I address my kid's teachers by how their last names are listed in the school staff directory. First and Last Name are not the real issue with female teachers. Unlike male teachers, women teachers prefixes can also indicate their marital status - Miss, Mrs, Ms. So, I follow that. Then I see how the teachers address me and follow their lead.
For my kid, it is always Mr. or Mrs Last Name. It is about respect.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 22:15     Subject: Re:S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OMG. You’re too sensitive. We have several teachers with long complicated names and they gladly go by Mrs. K or Mrs. P or Mr. A. It’s not a big deal.


So we'll just call you A for "anonymous" but in our heads we'll be thinking A for "a$$"


Also, if the person whose name it is chooses to shorten it, that is their individual choice. You don't get to make that choice for them.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 22:13     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do people really do this, OP?
So rude...


This is rude? It used to be considered a term of endearment. I guess in this day and age, being offended is trendy.


Do I walk around calling my students letters of the alphabet all year because they have African names that are difficult to pronounce? No, I learn to pronounce their name. It’s respect. Same needs to go for parents.


I'm sure people shorten your nickname to the letter "B" when you're not around.


And those people are terrible. Seriously, I mean it. Names matter.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 22:11     Subject: S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
Refusing to learn my name makes you a racist.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 21:52     Subject: Re:S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G
My first grade teacher had a long, hard to pronounce last name that was uncommon for the area. She taught us how to spell it and pronounce it properly, we never called her Mrs. P. To this day I can recite the spelling pattern she taught for us and it makes me smile. She was a great teacher! I suggest that you teach your students to pronounce and spell your name- they will teach their parents.