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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

No. For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave. OP owes her friend a sincere apology. She used him.

What?? Wasn't he an adult? How was the using not mutual, just for different motivations.

He had NO indications that this was more than a friendship, and he went for it. He is not exactly harmed by this exchange. And now she is asking how to extricate herself kindly. How many GUYS would worry about that in a similar circumstance?

I do think that in male-female friendships, it is usually clear that one person feels more, or would want more if it were on offer. And I think that in the case of a friendship, where you are not the person who wants more, it is responsible and ethical to avoid any situation that could end up hurting the other person. They weren't strangers. If she cared for him as a friend, she had an obligation not to...use him in this way.

This was badly done, OP, and I feel sorry for this man.

Be honest and succinct. Expect friendship will likely end either abruptly or slow fade and accept that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

So you got dumped by your BF and slept with this guy?

Yes. People have rebound sex all of the time. No need to crucify OP. He made the first move.

It sounds like any dude could've made the first move and screwed OP that night. Good thing she was with a friend.

OP here. That is rude of you to say. He is the fourth man I've been with. I've only been with 3 other men and they were all longterm relationships. I don't sleep around.

Op, you were really busy last night. Get some rest.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

So you got dumped by your BF and slept with this guy?

Yes. People have rebound sex all of the time. No need to crucify OP. He made the first move.

It sounds like any dude could've made the first move and screwed OP that night. Good thing she was with a friend.

OP here. That is rude of you to say. He is the fourth man I've been with. I've only been with 3 other men and they were all longterm relationships. I don't sleep around.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

So you got dumped by your BF and slept with this guy?

Yes. People have rebound sex all of the time. No need to crucify OP. He made the first move.

It sounds like any dude could've made the first move and screwed OP that night. Good thing she was with a friend.

OP, you'll be back for more because you are insecure, vulnerable, and easy. He knows that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

So you got dumped by your BF and slept with this guy?

Yes. People have rebound sex all of the time. No need to crucify OP. He made the first move.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

So you got dumped by your BF and slept with this guy?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

Lol

Wait until he settles down with someone.

OP will be back whining and looking for a guy just like him.

OP here. The sex was not the issue. It was good and we both orgasmed many times that night. That doesn't mean I want to date. There is nothing wrong with him. He's a great guy but I just got out of a serious breakup and I'm hurt. I don't want it to be more than we just had some fun one night.

What if it happens again? Is it possible?

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

I don’t know about size, but clearly to the extent it’s a metaphor for performance he clearly was a fail. If he gave her serious and intense pleasure she’d be back for more. This whole “I broke up a week ago” goes right out the window if he really railed her to the Max.

You sound like a real deep thinker.

Spare us your Porn take on how life works.

One more point, this isn’t speaking from porn, it’s real life, I’m not even a really good looking guy. Not fat but a touch overweight and balding. I can’t think of any woman I’ve hooked up with that the next day didn’t want more or to date. I think it’s because I spend a lot of time working things for her satisfaction. So, naturally I was surprised that she wouldn’t go back for another round. If he really rocked her good and she became pleased two or three or more times and really felt comfortable and good she’d be back. It’s just how life works.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

I don’t know about size, but clearly to the extent it’s a metaphor for performance he clearly was a fail. If he gave her serious and intense pleasure she’d be back for more. This whole “I broke up a week ago” goes right out the window if he really railed her to the Max.

You sound like a real deep thinker.

Spare us your Porn take on how life works.

She’s be back for seconds if she had some massive Os.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he's too small and you're used to a bigger man.

I don’t know about size, but clearly to the extent it’s a metaphor for performance he clearly was a fail. If he gave her serious and intense pleasure she’d be back for more. This whole “I broke up a week ago” goes right out the window if he really railed her to the Max.

You sound like a real deep thinker.

Spare us your Porn take on how life works.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything.

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.

No. For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave. OP owes her friend a sincere apology. She used him.

What?? Wasn't he an adult? How was the using not mutual, just for different motivations.

He had NO indications that this was more than a friendship, and he went for it. He is not exactly harmed by this exchange. And now she is asking how to extricate herself kindly. How many GUYS would worry about that in a similar circumstance?