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Anonymous wrote:DH is a Dem, I'm a Republican .... have cancelled out each others votes for 25 plus years. This year we are both voting for Trump.

Your husband is no Dem

And both have bad values and are bad people.


Let's just say it: if you're a Republican in 2020, you're a bad person, at best someone I will never associate with, and someone opposed to fundamental American values.

What do you mean by "someone with a different political view"? Is it like disagreeing how much help US should give to fight the fires in Amazon....or you are basically married to a Trumper who sexually assaulted you when you were dating because he no longer wanted to be an InCel?

My DH is a conservative and I’m progressive. Ask me how it’s going 😆

Anonymous wrote:I'm a D and he's a R but we are both moderates. We are both voting for Biden but there have been times when he went R and I went D and the marriage survived. But this year if he went for Trump it would have been a problem. If Sanders was the Dem we would have had a problem.

This is my husband and I. We are both arrive at the same answer but him from a conservative place and me from a more liberal place.

It was more important to me that I marry someone of the same *religion,* both because 1) this is what will matter eternally (not just in the here and now) and 2) because then we would have the same foundation and world view, which, debatably, could be politically expressed one way or another.

PS. Reason #3: not to send mixed messages when raising our children.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have similar but slightly different views. Anyone married to someone with opposite views?

I didn't marry someone with vastly different views. My husband was born in a different country and is (was?) a socialist. He'd put Bernie Sanders to shame. But he suffered a TBI and has had serious challenges with anxiety. This has made him crave a more authoritarian type leader in a lot of ways, so he's much more open to Trump than I am (I loathe him). Understanding that this is about anxiety and a fear of his financial future (we aren't young) makes it more tolerable to have different political views now. I try to keep political discussions on more common ground (we are both anti-war, for example). And he thinks even undocumented immigrants should have health care coverage. So his views are not uniformly conservative. And honestly conservative doesn't bother me. Trumpism does.

Snap snap. Back on subject

I am an R, he is a D. We both work in politics, that is where we met. Sure we vote differently and he thinks I am crazy sometimes and I think he is crazy sometimes. Our biggest fights have been over his lack of doing anything at home and it all falling into me (sound familiar?). I think if you work in politics it is easier since we work across the aisle all the time. But we also aren’t huge 24 hr news junkies. I like the Daily Mail. He likes the WashPost. We both like Axios. Been married 20+ years. Move between Hill, administration and downtown. Have two first time voters this go around and I think they cancelled out each other’s votes!

There's Republican v. Democrat and then there's Trump.

I can respect actual conservatives, although I doubt I could marry one.

I cannot respect anyone who supports Trump. If you're that stupid, walk on by.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe. I could be married to someone with different political views, but I would have a really hard time being married to a person who supported putting children in cages.

Obama administration built the cages.

For unaccompanied minors and they stayed for less than 72 hours.

They were not used to rip children from their parents and keep the apart for months.

No one wants to admit the real problem and look for solutions. Many children were unaccompanied or escorted by adults other than parents. We perversely incentivized this by fast tracking people with kids and releasing them. So if you wanted to quickly get across the border you needed a kid, any kid. Then it became clear that it was a loophole and many kids were not even related to their ‘escorts.’ Hence the ‘detain everyone’ but not together to try to sort out who is really related. It’s a big mess created by decades of mostly good intentioned policies and neither side wants to admit it’s a complex problem that needs nuanced solutions, which could include paths to legalization, work permits, Mexican and Canadian government cooperation and sharing of refugee resettlement, and figuring out what the hell is going wrong in Central America. There’s not really a clear dem position on what their alternative is to stem the tide of minors which everyone agrees is a dangerous journey. I’m so sick of both parties’ bs on this and other issues that I’m not voting for anyone.

Anonymous wrote:Probably, there are other issues I will die on the sword for. One is women who don't like dogs. THEY DO EXIST! Last serious GF was a big cat person and couldn't stand dogs. I can't imagine I thought about marrying one of them.

Guess what? Women who don't like ether cats or dogs DO EXIST! And are married to men who share their views. Shocking, ain't it?

Anonymous wrote:DH is a Dem, I'm a Republican .... have cancelled out each others votes for 25 plus years. This year we are both voting for Trump.

Your husband is no Dem

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe. I could be married to someone with different political views, but I would have a really hard time being married to a person who supported putting children in cages.

Are you talking about Obama because he is the one that started that practice.

Lets dead this Trump talking point lie forever. There was a huge migrant wave and they were basically having to process families at the border in sweltering garages so Obama built the center and it was air conditioned, etc and it was meant to be a comfortable place to process families claiming asylum quickly. Trump used it to separate the people claiming asylum to deter them from coming.

Anonymous wrote:DH is a Dem, I'm a Republican .... have cancelled out each others votes for 25 plus years. This year we are both voting for Trump.

now that's an unusual matchup

Politics is the new religion. I couldn't be married to someone not of my religion but I wouldn't care if they were dem

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have similar but slightly different views. Anyone married to someone with opposite views?

No this is impossible.

Seriously, how old are you? Of course there are people with opposite views. For example, I think you are an idiot and should be burned at the stake. My DH would rather show kindness for your ignorance.

Whoa lady, your husband holding out on you? Overwork, under-sexed aggression.