Anonymous
10/28/2020 10:06
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Is this your brother's wife? Or DH's sister?
Not sure it matters, but this is SO weird. OP, I'd make a big stink about how the baby is named for you. Make her protest it at every turn. It'll be so awkward for her it'll be great.
LOVE MY LITTLE NIECE THAT IS NAMED FOR ME!!!! XXOO! CAN'T WAIT TO MEET HER! *one million hearts*
Not sure it matters, but this is SO weird. OP, I'd make a big stink about how the baby is named for you. Make her protest it at every turn. It'll be so awkward for her it'll be great.
LOVE MY LITTLE NIECE THAT IS NAMED FOR ME!!!! XXOO! CAN'T WAIT TO MEET HER! *one million hearts*
Anonymous
10/28/2020 09:48
Subject: Re:Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
I think "The world can always use more Hesters [smiley face]!" is enough. The more tactful response from SIL would be "The baby isn't named after Hester, but it's an extra benefit that the baby will share a name with such a lovely person."
Anonymous
10/28/2020 09:47
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:My SIL is pregnant. She revealed their baby’s name on FB. It’s my name. Not a common name period even in our culture. And double unusual once you account for the non US pronunciation. And then one of her friends commented, “Isn’t that your sister in law’s name?” And she replied “Yes, but the baby isn’t named after her.”
I’m not upset, but it seems weird to not say anything. I thought about posting “The world can always use more _______s, no matter your inspiration. I’ve always loved my name and hope she does as well.”
Or should I say nothing.
I think it's a good response. It will come up at some point or another, so better to address it right at the beginning and move on. It is a public comment mentioning you and your name, it's not like you are butting in.
Anonymous
10/28/2020 09:43
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your SIL is cray.
(pssttt...why aren't you calling her husband crazy, too?)
NP, coz she is the one posted on social media and then instead of ignoring, specifically said that name is not from OP. Ideally, they should have approached OP privately and let her know their decision.
Anonymous
10/27/2020 04:52
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
why can't you just ignore it?
Anonymous
10/27/2020 04:16
Subject: Re:Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
I don’t think you should say that OP. Just ignore the comment and say something about how excited you are for baby X.
Anonymous
10/27/2020 02:41
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your SIL is cray.
(pssttt...why aren't you calling her husband crazy, too?)
Well the husband isn’t saying awkward things like “MY BABY ISNT NAMED AFTER MY SISTER SORAYA”
Asked and answered. The husband was behind the decision of the name and the public announcement of the name.
Well I did not ask a question and I'm unsure of how this response even responds to what I said so not as clear as you think!
I think knowing its DH's SIL rather than OP's SIL makes it a little less weird but still, strange to go out of your way to emphasize that in a public setting. There are ways to have responded that would have come off less aggressive ie, "Yes SIL is named that! I had never heard the name before and just fell in love with it." That clearly says 'its about the name' without going out of your way to make sure someone KNOWS they aren't being honored.
I don't think its worth blowing anything up over but its weird and I would say a 3/10 on the aggression scale and OP isn't crazy for noticing something is peculiar here.
THE FRIEND ASKED ON FACEBOOK and sister-in-law answered, publicly, on Facebook. Do you get it yet?
The friend asked “isn’t that sils name?” Therefore the response I posted above answers her question and gets the point across without being weirdly aggressive. As I said above not that big a deal but clearly sil is, at best, lacking some social graces
"Yes, but the baby is not named after her" is true and straightforward.
Anonymous
10/27/2020 00:01
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your SIL is cray.
(pssttt...why aren't you calling her husband crazy, too?)
Well the husband isn’t saying awkward things like “MY BABY ISNT NAMED AFTER MY SISTER SORAYA”
Asked and answered. The husband was behind the decision of the name and the public announcement of the name.
Well I did not ask a question and I'm unsure of how this response even responds to what I said so not as clear as you think!
I think knowing its DH's SIL rather than OP's SIL makes it a little less weird but still, strange to go out of your way to emphasize that in a public setting. There are ways to have responded that would have come off less aggressive ie, "Yes SIL is named that! I had never heard the name before and just fell in love with it." That clearly says 'its about the name' without going out of your way to make sure someone KNOWS they aren't being honored.
I don't think its worth blowing anything up over but its weird and I would say a 3/10 on the aggression scale and OP isn't crazy for noticing something is peculiar here.
THE FRIEND ASKED ON FACEBOOK and sister-in-law answered, publicly, on Facebook. Do you get it yet?
The friend asked “isn’t that sils name?” Therefore the response I posted above answers her question and gets the point across without being weirdly aggressive. As I said above not that big a deal but clearly sil is, at best, lacking some social graces
Anonymous
10/26/2020 19:03
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your SIL is cray.
(pssttt...why aren't you calling her husband crazy, too?)
Well the husband isn’t saying awkward things like “MY BABY ISNT NAMED AFTER MY SISTER SORAYA”
Asked and answered. The husband was behind the decision of the name and the public announcement of the name.
Well I did not ask a question and I'm unsure of how this response even responds to what I said so not as clear as you think!
I think knowing its DH's SIL rather than OP's SIL makes it a little less weird but still, strange to go out of your way to emphasize that in a public setting. There are ways to have responded that would have come off less aggressive ie, "Yes SIL is named that! I had never heard the name before and just fell in love with it." That clearly says 'its about the name' without going out of your way to make sure someone KNOWS they aren't being honored.
I don't think its worth blowing anything up over but its weird and I would say a 3/10 on the aggression scale and OP isn't crazy for noticing something is peculiar here.
THE FRIEND ASKED ON FACEBOOK and sister-in-law answered, publicly, on Facebook. Do you get it yet?
Anonymous
10/26/2020 19:02
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed if she didn’t talk to me first before posting on social media. There’s way too close of a connection to act like she didnt get the name from you. It’s like one degree separation.
Yes, it is a little strange. The name is not from her culture either so this isn’t a case of deciding as a young girl that you would name your DD “Larla”. Nor is this her first baby girl. My name is not a match for the others in sound or context. I don’t want to discourage her, but I wonder if she has a bit of pregnancy brain and will look at the baby three days after birth and regret the choice.
Um, a lot of books I read were not from my culture. Doesn't mean I wasn't aware of names like Sheherezade, Copelia, Gerta, Claude (for a girl), Odette, Ling, and Hermione (the Shakespeare character, people!) Those of us who are avid readers often fall in love early and ardent,y because of books, plays, and poetry.
Anonymous
10/26/2020 18:57
Subject: Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, I’d think not saying anything could be misinterpreted as disapproval.
Unless she was tagged, why would it be assumed she read it? Some of us aren't on social media all that much.