You can still travel. My friends parents just went to Hawaii for their anniversary. They said they were super cautious and the hotel was really great at keeping guests safe. I think a trip away will be nice.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

The thing is...she will always remember what happened in that moment. The trip to Hawaii later...it’s really like any other vacation. Don’t spend so much on the proposal event that it’s awkward (what else you could have used the $$ for in starting your life together). But on the other hand, don’t do something so simple it’s not a special thing she would love describing, because she will be asked “How did he do it” over and over and will remember that moment forever. You can still make simple things memorable and special during the pandemic. Like having “Will you marry me?” spelled out in something fun or the ring hidden inside something as you’re enjoying a special evening or place. A google search should have tons of fun ideas that you can adapt.

Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

A friend did this to his girlfriend on NYE, during a party with friends that were all in the know. As the clock counted down to 1, she said "Happy New Year!! ' while everyone else turned to her and said 'will you marry me? '. A bit cheesey perhaps, but very sweet and unique. Most importantly, she appreciated the gesture, was really surprised, and said yes.

Not really something you could fully recreate during the pandemic with lots of friends around (maybe virtually), but you could also recreate that scenario privately as well.

Congratulations!

Play it off as an anniversary celebration. Give her nice diamond studs as an anniversary gift. Tell her to try them so you can see them on. While she is focused on your response get down on one knee.

Congrats OP!

Don't do take out. Please don't.

is she petite/thin? Long fingers or short? Hands dictate type of ring. 2 carats on a slender finger may be too ostentatious. 1.5 is perfect. Round solitaire is the way to go. Check out filigree bands. Personally, I think filigree is stunning. Evokes vintage and timeless.

Where do you live? Book a penthouse room at a hotel with NYE fireworks viewing from your room! You can find an incredible deal right now. Contact the hotel concierge to help you create the setting. Arrange room service tapas/meal, champagne and decadent desserts. Be sure to book a room with great amenities; fireplace etc. Flowers in room on arrival (just say it was hotel gesture, play dumb).

You can pull this off because you met a year ago on NYE. Tell her you planned a fun NYE to celebrate the night you met. Just say it'll be chill and relaxed and when things are safe to travel, maybe plan a fun trip. You don't want to miss the element of proposal surprise...so play it down. Hope this helps and good luck!

You’re a fool

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:okay, that amount of money is flabbergasting to me but...if the sky was the limit, I would be okay with a gorgeous vintage piece like this:

https://www.langantiques.com/vintage-engagement-rings/art-deco-style-2-02-carat-emerald-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-h-vvs-1.html

That being said, taste is SO individual, so make sure you can return whatever you get. Or, give her a box with a picture of 3 rings and let her choose, or something.

and honestly, I would not make the proposal such a huge deal. Just have a wonderful candlelit dinner and then bring out dessert or a small box of chocolates, with the ring or ring placebo in it. Focus more on the marriage, the vision of your lives together, how/where you want to live than the moment of engagement. Save half that 50k for something else--an amazing honeymoon, a new car, a house, etc.

OP here. She wouldn’t like that. It’s not her style. I think I’m going to go with a 2 carat round with a solitaire band. I still don’t know if I should just do takeout and propose with a trip to Hawaii later, or so something big now.

Low key proposal now, trip to Hawaii later! Trust me!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:okay, that amount of money is flabbergasting to me but...if the sky was the limit, I would be okay with a gorgeous vintage piece like this:

https://www.langantiques.com/vintage-engagement-rings/art-deco-style-2-02-carat-emerald-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-h-vvs-1.html

That being said, taste is SO individual, so make sure you can return whatever you get. Or, give her a box with a picture of 3 rings and let her choose, or something.

and honestly, I would not make the proposal such a huge deal. Just have a wonderful candlelit dinner and then bring out dessert or a small box of chocolates, with the ring or ring placebo in it. Focus more on the marriage, the vision of your lives together, how/where you want to live than the moment of engagement. Save half that 50k for something else--an amazing honeymoon, a new car, a house, etc.

The last paragraph is actually true. Also, OP, if you are going to marry her, you should know what she would like be it a huge deal or something small.

OP here. We have a house and cars. We have money for a wedding ang honeymoon. That’s why I’m spending this money on the ring and proposal.

Anonymous wrote:okay, that amount of money is flabbergasting to me but...if the sky was the limit, I would be okay with a gorgeous vintage piece like this:

https://www.langantiques.com/vintage-engagement-rings/art-deco-style-2-02-carat-emerald-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-h-vvs-1.html

That being said, taste is SO individual, so make sure you can return whatever you get. Or, give her a box with a picture of 3 rings and let her choose, or something.

and honestly, I would not make the proposal such a huge deal. Just have a wonderful candlelit dinner and then bring out dessert or a small box of chocolates, with the ring or ring placebo in it. Focus more on the marriage, the vision of your lives together, how/where you want to live than the moment of engagement. Save half that 50k for something else--an amazing honeymoon, a new car, a house, etc.

OP here. She wouldn’t like that. It’s not her style. I think I’m going to go with a 2 carat round with a solitaire band. I still don’t know if I should just do takeout and propose with a trip to Hawaii later, or so something big now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the gf realizes she found her meal ticket, as she's made her boyfriend of a year her entire life. Let OP spend the 50 K. Do yourself a favor OP, and get a good prenup.

OP here. She is not like that. She doesn’t see me as a meal ticket. I’m not rich and she makes good money too. She has not made me her entire life. She has helped me through some rough times, but she has her own life. I’m sorry you’re not as loyal or compassionate and caring as others.

If you’re not rich how the hell can you justify $50k for a ring???
That amount of money is outrageous for a ring. Spend half that and she will probably still have the nicest ring among her girlfriends.

OP here. She’s worth it. I make great money but I’m not rich. I can afford to spend the money. I would be taking her to Hawaii if we weren’t in a pandemic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the gf realizes she found her meal ticket, as she's made her boyfriend of a year her entire life. Let OP spend the 50 K. Do yourself a favor OP, and get a good prenup.

OP here. She is not like that. She doesn’t see me as a meal ticket. I’m not rich and she makes good money too. She has not made me her entire life. She has helped me through some rough times, but she has her own life. I’m sorry you’re not as loyal or compassionate and caring as others.

If you’re not rich how the hell can you justify $50k for a ring???
That amount of money is outrageous for a ring. Spend half that and she will probably still have the nicest ring among her girlfriends.

Anonymous wrote:okay, that amount of money is flabbergasting to me but...if the sky was the limit, I would be okay with a gorgeous vintage piece like this:

https://www.langantiques.com/vintage-engagement-rings/art-deco-style-2-02-carat-emerald-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-h-vvs-1.html

That being said, taste is SO individual, so make sure you can return whatever you get. Or, give her a box with a picture of 3 rings and let her choose, or something.

and honestly, I would not make the proposal such a huge deal. Just have a wonderful candlelit dinner and then bring out dessert or a small box of chocolates, with the ring or ring placebo in it. Focus more on the marriage, the vision of your lives together, how/where you want to live than the moment of engagement. Save half that 50k for something else--an amazing honeymoon, a new car, a house, etc.

The last paragraph is actually true. Also, OP, if you are going to marry her, you should know what she would like be it a huge deal or something small.

okay, that amount of money is flabbergasting to me but...if the sky was the limit, I would be okay with a gorgeous vintage piece like this:

https://www.langantiques.com/vintage-engagement-rings/art-deco-style-2-02-carat-emerald-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-h-vvs-1.html

That being said, taste is SO individual, so make sure you can return whatever you get. Or, give her a box with a picture of 3 rings and let her choose, or something.

and honestly, I would not make the proposal such a huge deal. Just have a wonderful candlelit dinner and then bring out dessert or a small box of chocolates, with the ring or ring placebo in it. Focus more on the marriage, the vision of your lives together, how/where you want to live than the moment of engagement. Save half that 50k for something else--an amazing honeymoon, a new car, a house, etc.