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Anonymous wrote:No screens except to FaceTime distant relatives until age 7. Then up to an hour per week.

Kewl

Mom Mom can I play 10 minutes of minecraft today!

But you just played for 8 minutes yesterday and you are already up to 42 minutes this week so far.

Anonymous wrote:No screens except to FaceTime distant relatives until age 7. Then up to an hour per week.

Kewl

PP here - forgot to add we started at about 2.5. She’s probably seen 15 movies in the time since, so we tend to do about 1 a month while she lets the story sink in. Sometimes she doesn’t love it the first time and then we don’t watch it again.

These are our rules:

We don’t watch TV during the week. My DD (3.5) gets her tablet for quiet time each day (2 hours), which has a ton of audible books and the Kahn Academy kids app. She can’t get to the Internet.. Every weekend (we try to skip one weekend a month) we do a movie night after dinner. She LOVES movies and it’s fun to watch them with her. At first we watched musicals, like the Music Man, that I remembered as being wholesome. But there’s some dated references in such an old show so we started only letting her watch movies we had recently seen / had read about on Common Sense. From there our filters are: will it scare her? (Nope) is there sexual innuendo (nope) or story lines centering around girls needing boys (no little mermaid in this house for example), sexist or racist remarks? (Hard pass), princesses (meh not unless they are feminists and strong!) gender roles? (Meh) bratty or rude kids (nope - an example of this would be “how to train your dragon”) and then a final gut check of “are we being too lame and should just let her watch?/can we explain whatever made us question it in a way that feels ok? (Then Yes! Examples : spirit (the horse movie... was intense but man she realllly wanted to after seeing it’s picture on Prime. Lots of questions about people not being kind and respecting nature and people who were there first... And we finally said yes to frozen and she looooves it). One of us always watches with her (until she has seen it more than 2x ... ahem ... frozen) and then we talk about it after. So many questions.

YMMV. My kid would rather watch a movie than a bunch of tv episodes and thinks Daniel tiger is boring. I have friends whose kids love Daniel tiger but can’t sit through movies.

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Anonymous wrote:No screens except to FaceTime distant relatives until age 7. Then up to an hour per week.

LOL

First child, bet you $100

Nope we have two kids. I work in tech - this is very common in that world.

Yeah, all my silicon valley friends are screen free, it seems. We were mostly screen free until distance learning. Life was so so much easier then, without whining to see screens. There's no reason to start a three year old on movies.

The thing is, SV folks as parents are insufferable when it comes to all the modern parents buzzwords, definitely including screens. I work in tech, as does my DH- SV folks are often caricatures of modern parents. We don't push TV or movies on our kids but its not a hill we die on either. We have family that work in film, TV and theater and obviously watched movies as kids as part of why they ended up wanting to be in that field.

Yeah, HBO SV missed a rich treasure trove of material. It’s basically granola parenting amped up by riches.

Yeah, they probably could have done something funny with that! Not a show geared for the parent set, though.

My SV friends are actually pretty chill people. They just know really well how much screens are meant to be addictive. So they watch movies together on a big screen, but don't hand their kids devices to get sucked into on their own. And they try to hide their own phone addictions in the bathroom, lol!

My older DD didn’t watch screens before 2 and I doubt had seen many movies at 3. She loved Wild Kratz and Daniel Tiger. My younger DD is now 3 (almost 4) and loves those as well but particularly likes movies her older sister has introduced - Trolls, Boss Baby, has My Little Pony. Three year old loves the lava monster in Moana while older DD was a bit scared. But the 3 year old is scared of “Marshmallow” in Frozen, so go figure.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No screens except to FaceTime distant relatives until age 7. Then up to an hour per week.

LOL

First child, bet you $100

Nope we have two kids. I work in tech - this is very common in that world.

Yeah, all my silicon valley friends are screen free, it seems. We were mostly screen free until distance learning. Life was so so much easier then, without whining to see screens. There's no reason to start a three year old on movies.

The thing is, SV folks as parents are insufferable when it comes to all the modern parents buzzwords, definitely including screens. I work in tech, as does my DH- SV folks are often caricatures of modern parents. We don't push TV or movies on our kids but its not a hill we die on either. We have family that work in film, TV and theater and obviously watched movies as kids as part of why they ended up wanting to be in that field.

Yeah, HBO SV missed a rich treasure trove of material. It’s basically granola parenting amped up by riches.

My son couldn't watch a full movie until 6. My daugter about 4. Let them guide you. Start with the disney princess or cars classics and let them guide you. If they watch half..oh well.