Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Why would underwear need privacy? I think this is an odd viewpoint.

Skid marks? Evidence of teen wet dreams? Period blood?

Anonymous wrote:I do everyone's. It just makes more sense to do full loads sorted by of color and material then multiple small loads of mish mash clothes. It isn't efficient and isn't good for the longevity of the clothes.

Same here. I have also switched to all white towels, bath mats and bed linens many years ago and it has made laundry easier.

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Why would underwear need privacy? I think this is an odd viewpoint.

I do everyone's. It just makes more sense to do full loads sorted by of color and material then multiple small loads of mish mash clothes. It isn't efficient and isn't good for the longevity of the clothes.

I LOVE to do laundry and fold clothes and run 2 to 5 loads a day. Thankfully I have a full front washer w/ a small tray washer model so laundry and even small loads happen very quickly. Early in the year, I Konmaried the closets and dressers and the family loved it. If I don't fold the clothes, they know how to do it perfectly and also to put in their dressers correctly. But, usually I do it for them.

I am a SAHM of HS kids. I stick to cleaning the house, doing laundry and taking care of my yard/plants every day. My DH (works full time) and takes care of all the cooking. Kids do the dishes, take out garbage/recycling, organize and clean pantry/fridge/freezer. My kids and DH are well versed in all aspects of running a household so I don't worry.

My dh does the laundry most often. Sometimes my kids do their own. I only occasionally do any laundry.

I did my kids’ laundry until they went to college, at which point they figured it out. My 30-year-old daughter’s washer just broke, and I asked her to drop off her laundry so I could take care of it for her. She was extremely grateful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Why is it weird? Do you have a housekeeper who cleans up after you?

I do the entire families laundry and guests when they come. I couldn't care less and buy all the underwear too. I have boys. They don't care what I buy so they get what's cheap.

This is a weird comparison...

How is it weird? Its ok for your housekeeper to clean up and scrub after you and deal with your sheets, toilets and bathtubs....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Why is it weird? Do you have a housekeeper who cleans up after you?

I do the entire families laundry and guests when they come. I couldn't care less and buy all the underwear too. I have boys. They don't care what I buy so they get what's cheap.

This is a weird comparison...

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Why is it weird? Do you have a housekeeper who cleans up after you?

I do the entire families laundry and guests when they come. I couldn't care less and buy all the underwear too. I have boys. They don't care what I buy so they get what's cheap.

Anonymous wrote:They do their laundry and mine and sometimes I do theirs but its usually a joint effort.

I admire the moms who go out of their way to train their kids for adulthood and I have nothing but contempt for those who baby their kids until they go to college without any practical life skills. Its disgraceful and its also "narcissistic mom" behavior.

How is babying children narcissistic mom behavior? Truly narcissistic behavior is emotionally abusive and there’s definitely not a lot of “babying” and doing things for others.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Do your kids buy their own underwear, too?

They definitely started doing laundry before they bought their own underwear! But yes, when they are teens they are in charge of buying their own underwear. It’s part of learning to budget and figuring how to take of your needs. They buy their other clothes on their own, it would be weird and controlling if I insisted on picking out their underwear at that age.

Anonymous wrote:My kids do a lot of things but laundry isn't one of them. We have too many people living in our house for one person to be hogging one of the washing machines or dryers.

Usually by late elementary school they can and will do a load if they need something that they discovered wasn't in the laundry basket. Other than that they don't start doing laundry for real until the summer before they leave for college. That's the system I've set up and I'm sticking with it. They are doing so many other things outstandingly well that I am not worrying about laundry.

If doing laundry is your line in the sand for whether a kid is a lay-about or productive then I think it is a dumb metric.

I think you miss the point. You shouldn't do things for your kids that they can do for themselves. It should be a source of pride for them that they can take care of their own needs. When you deny them that you do them no favor.

Our 11 and 13 year olds started doing the family laundry this past summer.

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me.

Just from a privacy standpoint, it’s weird to be washing a teenager’s underwear. It’s not that I’m worried a college student wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use a washer in the dorms — of course they would! It’s more the principle that you’re having someone else wash your dirty underwear. It’s weird. It’s the equivalent of continuing to wipe your teens buts because “of course” they’ll be able to figure it out when they leave home! Some things are about privacy and bodily autonomy.

Do your kids buy their own underwear, too?