Anonymous wrote:After a really torturous struggle getting DS off the pacifier, we vowed to try and hold off using one with newborn DD. We were pretty vocal about this before she was born, at the hospital, and even right when we came home. Family knew what the plan was. MIL has been openly opposed from the beginning. Wonders why we we would make things harder for ourselves.

It’s been fine. DD is a little fussy at times, mainly at the “witching hour” but she’s a dream at bedtime, as far as the pacifier is concerned. MIL came over yesterday to drop off gifts, one from her and one from her BFF. Pacifiers. From the friend, a book, outfit, pack of pacifiers and a note explaining I shouldn’t feel guilty if I use one. MIL came with a bag full of stuff from Carter’s and a pack of Soothies. She didn’t stay long because we aren’t really letting people inside. DH tells me to ignore it but I’m a little livid. Could be hormones. This is where you all come in. Am I crazy or was this overstepping, even recruiting her friend.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah...sounds like you really overthink pacifiers. Mine could have them for sleep and really stressful situations...like the grocery store checkout line always set them off. They used them until they were way too old - then we went to the toy store and they got to buy a "pacifier gift" to give up their pacis. They missed them terribly for a few nights - cried themselves to sleep - but then were fine. And given that I waited so long - I didn't even know they were crying - think they were 4 or 5. They all ended up getting stuffed animals which took the place of it and for one of mine - a high schooler - is still what she sleeps with.

No orthodontist needed...no speaking issues...or whatever you think is such a bad outcome of using a pacifier. Just lots of serenity when they were babies and a great way to deal with fussy toddlers and babies in stressful situations. Think airplanes.

But, yes that would annoy me if I had said no. But, I can see why your MIL is annoyed with you Relax...

Many kids get speaking and/or teeth issues if they use a pacifier until 4 or 5. Great that your kids didn't. But lots of kids who didn't use seatbelts or wear bike helmets are still alive too...

Anonymous wrote:Why would you not want to do everything possible to reduce the risk of your infant dying of SIDS?